SoulOfIron2007
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Joined: 9/10/2007 Status: offline
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Okay... This is a BIG concept. I've been reading all of the posts on this thread, and a lot of people have said a great deal of insightful, meaningful things. Being a natural meddler, I am now obligated to put in my own two cents worth. ~grins~ Before two (or more) people enter into any relationship, whether kinky or vanilla, they should have the sense to talk about what they want out of it, and what they expect. Now, if you are not a heavy masochist, and you are talking to a Dominant with a sadistic streak as broad as the sea, you PROBABLY aren't going to be a good match. Similarly, if you are a pain whore and are discussing things with a Dominant who isn't comfortable inflicting extreme pain on others, you aren't the best fit together. Stated limits should, after a while, become unnecessary because of the intimacy and knowledge of eachother that grows in this sort of relationship. Personally, I prefer a sub who has a LOT of soft limits... Things that they are a little reluctant about, or scared of, but are willing to explore with someone they love and trust. Nothing turns me on more than slowly expanding a person's horizons, and having my own expanded as well. I've had a few submissives in the past who really opened my eyes to new pleasures, so it works both ways. If you are getting into a relationship with someone you don't trust enough that the phrase "no limits" becoms rather superfluous, you probably aren't being cautious enough. Ideally, you want to be with someone whose desires match yours, but who is still capable of helping you to grow. By the way... About the couple of posts I saw about genital mutilation, and that sort of thing... Even aside from the OW! factor (I can't IMAGINE someone actually wanting to be tormented that way) I also have to ask a philosophical question: What's the point of a pleasure (if indeed it is a pleasure to you) that you can only experience ONCE? Once you've been mauled, you've been mauled. There's no repeat performances, no "That was amazing, can we do it again sometime soon?" I'm just curious as to the mentality involved there.
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