MySweetSubmssive
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ORIGINAL: OrionTheWolf This also does not take into account any rights the Father may have. Orion I hear this argument a lot, but there is a very simple answer -- men *do* have a choice. They have a choice whether to have unprotected sex. In my eyes, the central argument of abortion is control. Pro-choice women want to control what happens with their own bodies. Men want to control what happens with their spunk ... and some men regretably want to control their partner in a non-consensual way. If you, as a man, do not condone abortion, then make sure that your sperm doesn't make it's way into a woman. Another poster mentioned women having abortions "on a whim." I would challenge that person to come up with concrete examples of women that he knows who have done this. As a women's health care provider (and as a woman with women friends), I don't see people making this decision cavalierly. It's a serious decision with long-term consequences. I do hear about women having serial abortions. As another poster mentioned, this would have to be scarring and damaging to her. If the woman cannot care for herself, I would gently and respectfully say that she may not be able to care for another person. It is important to look at abortion in context. I find it head-scratching that a large proportion of people who are against abortion are also fine with the death penalty. How do people square those things? A good friend of mine is in the military and has killed people, but is personally againt abortion. Again, this seems contradictory. For those who see abortion as killing, are you similarly pained by abuse of children, violence against women, crimes motivated by racism, homophobia, etc? Do you value life as a whole, or is your concern focused on this one aspect of life? And if the latter, why? For people who are against abortion, do you support increased social supports (welfare) for young women who get pregnant? Do you support legislation requiring the man in question to give child support to the child if he does not stay in the picture? Or better yet, as we did in this country 200 years ago, would you support legislation where the government paid child support to the mother and then independantly went after the absent father? I find abortion to be a regretable choice, but one that some women decide they need to make. On a spiritual level, I find an abortion to be a "missed connection" between the person who is yet to be born and the woman and man. I think it's possible that we live more than one life, and so an abortion doesn't mean cutting off a life, but delaying family making between these three people until another time. This is a more simplified version of what I believe, but I'm not as eloquent as I'd like to be. I am not in love with abortion. In the best of worlds, there wouldn't be abortions (in the best of worlds, there wouldn't be other forms of violence, either). But to see it in black and white terms, to talk about women having an abortion "on a whim" avoids the complexity of the issue and trivializes how we make this choice. MSS
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