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RE: Abortion - 10/7/2007 2:54:00 PM   
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I just find it absolutely funny when the GUYS are always so against a termination of a pregnancy.  Sure- they can be so adamant about something THEY can walk away from at will.  If guys really GAVE a damn about their "seed"- they'd stop spewing it and take accountability for it.
 
For me- a guy's prostesting against a woman's right to choose is laughable.



I disagree with your opinion that "GUYS" can just walk away from a pregnancy. 18 to 21 years of financial responsibilty at a minimum follows them whether thay want it or not. Besides most men don't act this way at all. Most of the men I know who have had unplanned pregancies happen in their lives took accountablity for it. They all, including myself have stood up and did the right thing. In fact I for one am the single parent of two now teenagers that I have raise alone since they were todders. Niether of which were 'planned' but I manned up each time. And I fought for years in the courts for my rights as a father and the fact that I could provide a better life for my children. The courts agreed with me. I never walked away from a damn thing and guys like me deserve the credit a blanket statement like "guys can just walk away" denies them.

Frankly, women can walk away far easier by just having the abortion. Im not suggesting it's an easy decision. But it is "walking away". As for men having opinions on abortion - we are entitled to them. Personally I think it's one of those things that a couple needs to understand the other position on early in a relationship. It's a basic compatibility thing. If you don't believe in abortion and are having sex with someone who does then prepare for the obvious consequence of that.

By the way as I mentioned in other post I am PRO-CHOICE. But oddly I find myself defending two things in this thread. A woman's right to choose, and a man right to have an opinion on the subject.

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RE: Abortion - 10/7/2007 2:56:12 PM   
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I agree totally. For those that have suggested that the decision is easy have obviously never been faced with the reality of that choice.


Who suggested that abortion was easy?

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RE: Abortion - 10/7/2007 2:59:15 PM   
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Right. and men just 'walk away' easy too.

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RE: Abortion - 10/7/2007 3:00:23 PM   
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its not easy think of the baby's they suffer more than anyone at 12 weeks they develop a nerver system so they are able to feel pain they are the ones who suffer more than anyone at the end of the day i am not saying the mother does not break her heart but its the baby who dies at the end of the day

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RE: Abortion - 10/7/2007 3:01:01 PM   
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I am certainly pro-life, and think abortion is wrong; however, I don't think it should be illegal in every capacity. Under extreme cases, it really should be a choice, and there should be doctors that should be able to safely and legally perform it. However, I think it should be much harder to get one. I do realize that for most women it is a horrible, traumatic thing to go through. On the other hand, I personally knew a women in my college sociology class who claimed to have had seven abortions, without any damage to her body, or any care. By different fathers, just because she didn't take the time to use any kind of birth control at all. I can't imagine anyone's body taking seven pregnancies by her age. I think the law / a doctor / hospital should be able to refuse such a person. I don't think its a reproductive right, it involves a second human being - not just yourself. You don't have the right to murder someone because they are inconviencing you in some way. I personally have qualms with the death penalty for a guilty person. But, then I talk to people who are against the dealth penalty, AND pro-choice. How could someone think that a serial killer is worth sparing, but not a completely innocent, dependant child? And no, I see no difference between the first cells of a baby, a 12 month old, or a 60 year old man. They're all human beings. (In fact, though I definitely believe in birth control - I feel sick when people tell me they use some of the few methods like IUD's out there that actually result in continual early abortions and I must guess doctor's don't explain this to women, instead of forms such as contraceptive pills that prevent pregnancy by making cells less able to be implanted/sticking, making it a more hostile environment etc) I think the easiest way to see the moral fiber and heart of a person, is to see how they treat those smaller / beneath them. Be that an animal, a child, or someone much farther down on the food chain at your place of employment when no one is watching. (Me - I don't want any children at all. Ever. I would *want* to hurl myself off a cliff if I ever got pregnant. So, I can understand not wanting an adorable bounding baby *AND* have compassion for babies and children even though I don't want to have any myself in any way. If I was in this horrible situation, I might want to have an abortion, but I wouldn't, no matter what. The baby would be first. Not me.) It's *usually* a persons choice to have sex, so if you do, you know the possible consequences. The baby didn't have a choice on whehter it's life would start, or be taken away. People who have sex started a baby's life. That was their choice. They cannot then take the life of a child. Who is more innocent than a twinkling new life? Certainly not any parent. If you don't have a heart to spare your own baby..... well, that says something about you. Even if it means a lot of pain for you. It is selfish to think of yourself over anyone else - particularly a child, a baby.. and your own baby? Even one's selfish parts would have love for a part of onesself. In the cases of rape, incest, exteme medical problems - I do understand. That wasn't a choice that they made.


Perhaps your next class will be one in which grammar is taught and you could be bothered to at least use a paragraph now and then? It'd be ever so helpful in trying to weed through your arguments to figure out what you're trying to say..

juliet

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RE: Abortion - 10/7/2007 3:03:35 PM   
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ORIGINAL: CuriousLord

I can't see how this argument is any different from other types of murder.. where killing your own family members is a personal choice that, if you do, you'll probably regret, and that's good enough.  It just isn't.


..the difference is simple.........your cousin may be a major hindrance to your health and well being but he doesn't occupy your womb. The alternative to banning abortion is to force women to carry pregnancies against their will in some cases. There is simply no analog to that experience in the life of a male. Our bodies are not under threat of being forced by the state to go through a major process like pregnanacy.

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RE: Abortion - 10/7/2007 3:04:51 PM   
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could you have picked a lighter topic like religion or politics? oh wait, this one involves both 

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RE: Abortion - 10/7/2007 3:04:56 PM   
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for the people for abortions have you thought about the baby? or is all the thought with the mother?

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RE: Abortion - 10/7/2007 3:07:18 PM   
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for the people for abortions have you thought about the baby? or is all the thought with the mother?


Do you actually READ the thread or just give opinions?  Most of the people that have spoken out pro-choice have in fact supported those opinions regarding the child.
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RE: Abortion - 10/7/2007 3:07:47 PM   
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If you cannot see the difference between aborting a fetus at say 12 weeks and killing a toddler at 12 months then really there is nothing to be said.


Meh.  They're obviously two different things.  But what makes one any more wrong than the other?

I mean, honestly, you keep telling me your view is right without giving reasons.

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I also do not see that a work of fiction has anything to do with the serious matter of abortion.


Ah, you see.  "The Ones Who Walked Away From Omelas" was a story about a child who was locked away and tortured for the happiness of a society.  You see, the society was largely happy because of the lack of rights for this one individual.  A child, at that.  Someone who could never fight back.

It's a philosophical question made in a fiction, susie, not the fiction itself.  The question is, for this purpose.. "Do you believe in having your way from others when they can't fight back?"

Not that this question encompases everything.  Then there's still the question of if a fetus is a human.  Still, I'd like to know how a late-term fetus is much different from the baby it'd be if it was just born early, and if you'd find it wrong to kill such a baby.

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RE: Abortion - 10/7/2007 3:08:43 PM   
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ORIGINAL: unownedkitty

for the people for abortions have you thought about the baby? or is all the thought with the mother?


......to be honest my sympathy is almost wholly with the woman. Because to not do so is a slippery slope which has at its end the right of the state to tell us what to do with our own bodies.

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RE: Abortion - 10/7/2007 3:09:44 PM   
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ORIGINAL: laurell3

Level those statistics assume that rape/incest victims report their reasons for an abortion when getting it. In my experience having worked with them and domestic violence victims for quite some time, this is rarely the case.  However, I'm sure even with accurate statistics, the numbers would still show that most abortions are convience based.

The problem with this topic is that everyone on either side feels very strongly about their viewpoint and that it is absolutely THE right one.  I have found in life that this is rarely the case.  Religious based objections that judge and condemn seem contradictory to me. 

As Juliet's story points out, being there, having to face the reality of it is much different than touting statistics and quoting religion.  As I pointed out earlier, I am pro-choice because of my ongoing continual work with the families in the trenches that deal with these everyday issues rather than mere words, however, I would not condemn or insult someone that had a different view than mine.  Honestly neither should any of you.



I'm going to assume that you're not specifically claiming that I've condemned or insulted anyone, laurell. I've spent considerable time on several abortion threads here, and I've been pretty good about trying to get my points and beliefs across, without being rude.
 
Also, I'm quite aware that abortion is a painful and often tragic topic; I don't look down my nose at those that have chosen to abort, except perhaps at those relatively few that do see it as "no big deal".

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RE: Abortion - 10/7/2007 3:10:01 PM   
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DID you read mine i asked a question i did not voice an opinion on it... the question marks gives it a bit of a clue love!!!

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RE: Abortion - 10/7/2007 3:10:03 PM   
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ORIGINAL: ChicagoSwitchMal

I disagree with your opinion that "GUYS" can just walk away from a pregnancy. ... I never walked away from a damn thing and guys like me deserve the credit a blanket statement like "guys can just walk away" denies them.



I wanted to respond to this because I made a similar statement, and want to differentiate between statements about what is possible and gender bashing.  The statement a man can walk away is not the same as he will or he does.  When a woman is pregnant, the fact is that a man *can* slip out of the picture if he chooses to. 

I want to acknowlege that there is uncertainly and a loss of control for both men and women in this situation.  I wonder what it would be like for someone to give me a call and say, "Hey, you're on the hook for the next two decades!"

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RE: Abortion - 10/7/2007 3:10:07 PM   
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because until the baby can exist outside the mothers body it is not human itself, never mind that it is never given the chance to exist in late term abortions, its skull is just crushed.....in the name of being "humane" to keep it from suffering....well if its not human....why would it suffer?


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RE: Abortion - 10/7/2007 3:11:13 PM   
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for the people for abortions have you thought about the baby? or is all the thought with the mother?


......to be honest my sympathy is almost wholly with the woman. Because to not do so is a slippery slope which has at its end the right of the state to tell us what to do with our own bodies.




ok cool thanks for replying

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RE: Abortion - 10/7/2007 3:12:20 PM   
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......to be honest my sympathy is almost wholly with the woman. Because to not do so is a slippery slope which has at its end the right of the state to tell us what to do with our own bodies.
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I don't understand. What about the slippery slope downward for humanity that is putting what is in front of you first, just because it *is* what's in front of you? To me, that's the same sort of thinking that's in take care of America first! Forget those over in Africa dealing with genocide, or disease, or extreme poverty. We can't *see* them on a daily basis. Just distract yourself with something else. Us first.

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RE: Abortion - 10/7/2007 3:12:50 PM   
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ORIGINAL: susie
No hostitly from me. I am being honest in that I find your posts amusing to say the least. Your arguments have so little logic in them to be not worth debate. Suggesting aborting a fetus that has no viability is the same as killing a toddler is ridiculous.


Well said on all counts! The U.S has been through all this before, which is why abortion has been illegal, then legal, and now is likely to become illegal again, thanks to our right-wing Supreme Court. To me, an early-stage fetus is just a bunch of cells, not a baby. Not even close. Destroying that mass of cells is not tantamount to 'killing a baby'. That's my view, and it's shared by millions, many of whom are thoughtful, intelligent, caring people. Others disagree and mount arguments to support their views. Pro-choice people don't want to force their views onto others, but many who are pro-life do wish to intrude into the life of others. It's none of their business. My view is that people who feel abortion is wrong should definitely not have abortions. They should not have the right to force their opinion...and that's all it is, an opinion...on those who believe differently.

Bob

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RE: Abortion - 10/7/2007 3:13:02 PM   
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I can't see how this argument is any different from other types of murder.. where killing your own family members is a personal choice that, if you do, you'll probably regret, and that's good enough.  It just isn't.


..the difference is simple.........your cousin may be a major hindrance to your health and well being but he doesn't occupy your womb. The alternative to banning abortion is to force women to carry pregnancies against their will in some cases. There is simply no analog to that experience in the life of a male. Our bodies are not under threat of being forced by the state to go through a major process like pregnanacy.


How is the baby's occupying the womb grounds to have it killed?  And hasn't the mother already been given such a stay herself?  Haven't we all?

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RE: Abortion - 10/7/2007 3:13:18 PM   
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because until the baby can exist outside the mothers body it is not human itself, never mind that it is never given the chance to exist in late term abortions, its skull is just crushed.....in the name of being "humane" to keep it from suffering....well if its not human....why would it suffer?





and when is a baby able to live outside its mother?? my daughter was born at 24 weeks i could have had her aborted the day she was born she is now 2 years old!!



i may have to your post the wrong way forgive me if i have

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