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RE: Dominas all looking for the exact same guy. - 1/8/2008 11:50:48 AM

littlesarbonn

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I really think someone should do a statistical study to determine why it is people bring up old threads with a response that doesn't really move the conversation forward anymore than it was when the thread went dead.

I'm actually kind of surprised I missed this thread myself. Was probably when I was trying to finish off the last semester, which by the way I pulled out all A's in grad school, so I was pretty happy about that.

Now, on this thread, I think this is yet another one of those issues where two things are happening: One, people are tying themselves to dictionary definitions of particular points, and two, people feel that if they are not part of someone else's desires, then they assume that person is being unreasonable. For me, I know there are a lot of women for whom I do not fit their desires, and I'm okay with that. I also know a lot of them aren't on my radar either. I have zero desire to connect with someone who is looking for a temporary situation, or even a one or two time only kind of relationship, and yes, there are women out there who are mainly interested in that. I've run across them in my time. And yes, there are so many submissives out there trying to compete with each other that it makes it very difficult for ANY submissive to prove himself/herself as anything but one of the herd that appears to be attracted to immediate gratification fulfillment needs.

I also believe that finding the right person has as much to do with searching in the right places as it involves being ready for the right person when you find him/her. I once found the perfect woman for me. Not for everyone else, but for me. I was in the wrong state of mind at the time, and to this day I kick myself over and over because I lost the perfect person for me because I just wasn't ready for her when she came along. It can happen. So, I would say that if I could offer any advice, it would be that when searching for that partner, always make sure you're open to actually finding that partner and not doing everything possible to eliminate masses of people and only pretending to be looking for that person you're seeking.

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RE: Dominas all looking for the exact same guy. - 1/8/2008 12:03:02 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: littlesarbonn
I really think someone should do a statistical study to determine why it is people bring up old threads with a response that doesn't really move the conversation forward anymore than it was when the thread went dead.

I don't hold a different expectation from a post made to a thread that is inactive than from one made to the thread while it was active. If someone has something to add to a thread, fair enough. If that comment, or seeing older comments in the thread upon revival which not everyone saw during the first round draw enough interest for more posts, they will; if not, the thread will subside again.

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RE: Dominas all looking for the exact same guy. - 1/8/2008 3:30:40 PM

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I think most women would pursue a "successful" or "rich" man over a man who's merely "financially stable" any day.

Dommes are not "most women". We are the women who can easily find a "successful" and "rich" man who pursues us, and then beat him with a whip and cuckold him with a pretty younger man with a bigger cock, and then make the pretty younger man with a bigger cock clean the house in a French maid's uniform and high heels...and have both men be so grateful afterward, to finally get what they want in life, that they actually weep tears of joy and think that we are the Bestest Girlfriend Evar.

Given the women we are, try to imagine how little time we probably have for men who have nothing to offer but a bitchy attitude and a sense of entitlement. Take out a calculator, if you want, and just...do the math. I think those calculations will make it pretty clear why you're not getting any Femme Domme Love.

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RE: Dominas all looking for the exact same guy. - 1/8/2008 10:08:30 PM

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Dommes are not "most women". We are the women who can easily find a "successful" and "rich" man who pursues us, and then beat him with a whip and cuckold him with a pretty younger man with a bigger cock, and then make the pretty younger man with a bigger cock clean the house in a French maid's uniform and high heels...and have both men be so grateful afterward, to finally get what they want in life, that they actually weep tears of joy and think that we are the Bestest Girlfriend Evar.

That sounds like a BGE to me. ;)

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RE: Dominas all looking for the exact same guy. - 1/8/2008 10:15:32 PM

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hmmm...maybe I forgot to get on the bandwagon, but I actually like the doormat (I sold my sub online as one - he loves trampling) and a SAM is always fun to me, but then again, I tend to have a sadistic sense of humor

Why is everyone always making such generalizations and so determined to place labels?

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RE: Dominas all looking for the exact same guy. - 1/8/2008 10:40:15 PM

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While I admittedly know very little about the BSDM community or the people on this site, I thought the original post was clever and funny. If I had to take a guess, I would say that there is a kernel of truth, not as a blanket statement or generalization of the women here, but in a satirical kind of way. Look, if HarryVanWinkle meant his post to be taken at face value, then fine, he deserves what he's getting for blind sterotype. However, if not, doesn't he get some points for caricature or satire? Again, I know very little about the people and personalities of Domme's or subs, so I can't speak from knowledge here, but his post was funny in a "hey let's not all take oursleves so serious" kinda way, if nothing else. ;)

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RE: Dominas all looking for the exact same guy. - 1/9/2008 5:39:02 PM

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