undergroundsea
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Joined: 6/27/2004 From: Austin, TX Status: offline
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Crossdressing (of which sissification is one form) is driven by a different combination of motivations for different people: an admiration or fetish for female appearance and attire (to feel sexy and sensual), to be emasculated or to escape the male identity, incongruence between the sex (as defined by anatomy) and gender (as defined by that individual's psychological make up), a form of submission through appearance play, more. To say that T-persons (a term that includes tranvestites, transgenders, transexuals) who feel the need should have their own support group in addition to existing BDSM support groups is fair enough. To suggest that they should have their own support group instead of coming to existing BDSM support groups does not resonate with me--many of them do have an interest in BDSM. I do not know how many crossdressers enter BDSM for the opportunity to crossdress and endure unwanted beatings and the like for this opportunity. Crossdressers whom I have met through the BDSM scene enjoy BDSM as well. If all a person wanted to do was crossdress without engaging in BDSM, simply showing up to munches and parties of pansexual groups without engaging in SM would provide that opportunity. Other venues like goth clubs also allow such opportunities. I expect drag queen events would provide another opportunity to crossdress without engaging in SM. I wager that the number of people who suffer unwanted SM in order to enjoy only crossdressing is small. The group discussion at the last meeting of our local TNG group focused on what we could do to have greater involvement in the community. One idea that has sprung from this meeting is to host a TG night. This idea was inspired due to appreciation for a member (who was not at that meeting) who is TG, a domme who loves TGs, and a female sub who is close to someone who is a TG. Not all BDSMers are into crossdressers but many are, or many offer acceptance or, at least, tolerance. Because there are different motivations for feminization, it does not have to be forced (as in done to someone where it is loathed and unwanted). I have close friends who are a femdom couple and the domme enjoys crossdressing her husband who is equally enthusiastic about it. Just because a submissive wants an activity that reflects submission does not by default make that activity the antithesis of submission. Many activities that I like as a submissive I like simply and only because they represent submission--that the activity symbolizes submission is why I like it and it becomes a ritual of sorts to observe the roles. Thus, I think if a submissive wants forced feminization, that he wants it does not remove all value. I recognize that there are dommes who feel differently. What I appreciate about groups based on alternative sexuality is that we all share a bond of sorts--we each have a sexuality that faces disapproval from the mainstream society. Thus, I feel a bond or, all other things equal, comparatively (in comparison to vanilla crowds) more comfortable to express my sexuality amongst swingers, homosexuals, polys, more. Similarly, I am likely more accepting of such persons than is the average vanilla guy because I too have an alternative sexuality. If a crossdresser who had no interest in BDSM came to a munch of our local pansexual group, it would not bother me. The last two weekends each had sex positive events hosted by two adult boutiques in Austin. Each had a mix of people: swingers, BDSMers, etc. I appreciated that while people drank different brands of tea, we could express and dress as we wanted at that event and enjoy our respective teas. There. I discussed it ;-) Cheers, Sea
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