DiurnalVampire
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Joined: 1/19/2006 From: Nashville, TN Status: offline
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ORIGINAL: twistedwillow Now my question is how many switches on here have had similar experiences where they have been seen as 'less than' Dom or sub because they are switches? My personal 2 cents, I know from past experience that switches can sometimes have trouble being in one role or the other exclusively. I personally do not keep switches as pets because I dont feel its fair to them, for one. It would be like me being forced into monogamy as a bisexual, rather than choosing it. Most of the switch males I have played with in the past have had very strong dom streaks... to the point of getting in the way. Do I think all switches are like this? No, of course not. But I have had enough experiences where it has come up that I prefer to avoid the situation rather than chance finaly finding one who isnt. I would think, though, that as a Domme, youd have less of a problem with a stereotype like that. Dominant females are in the minority, and I'd tend to agree with laurell. Throwing around the word "true" really does flag someone, anyway. Even if you were strictly Domme, would you want to associate with a "one twue way" type? Just my thoughts, of course. Switches as usual had a bad stigma, because of a few out there that cannot stick to one side. I always equate the switch problem to the bisexual problem. There are more people caling themselves switches tat are just looking for kinky sex however they can get it than there are actual lifetylers who switch. Just like there are scads more "bicurious" girls out there who call themseves that just to look more intriguing to boys. Those of us serious about our ways of life (bisexual for me, switch for others) suffer the backlash of the ones who the stereotypes are based on. DV
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