MaamJay -> RE: Not a 'true' Dom\sub because your a switch. (11/2/2007 7:46:24 AM)
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Very common ... and in my mind, misguided statement! Without getting into the old, tired "true" anything debate ... the immediate assumption of such people (and even of some switches as Dnomyar's post indicates) is that you would necessarily want to/expect to switch with THEM! Doesn't have to be the case. Sure, it can work wonderfully when 2 compatible switches flick back and forth between the roles, I've seen that done. It's awesome! But, it can be hard to accomplish and very confusing in the process. Can be much easier to keep those 2 aspects separate, sub to One, Dom the other! That helps keep things straight, your interactions with each person are always within the same persona. I know not everyone can/wants to do both simultaneously (the duality thing) as I do, but other switches work out blocks of time with their Dom and their sub and find techniques and tips to help them move from one role to the next. For example, it's easier for Me to go from Top play space to sub play space than vice versa ... so at a play party, with Master's understanding and permission, I play as Maam Jay first and violet second. It's not that hard to find ways for it to work. If he was really that interesting a sub I might drop another line explaining this approach, but otherwise, too bad. Hopefully you will find one who better appreciates your versatility, the fact that You will only dish out what you already honour as a sub, and the insight into them that you gain by being a sub yourself. Good luck! Maam Jay aka violet[A]
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