I've been hearing the "you're not true" line for 30 years. Along with the "you're just confused, you should decide" BS.
I've been a dual-natured person all my life, and from my earliest sexual encounters behaved like a switch, though I hadn't a clue what that term even meant.
A switch friend and I were talking the other day, and we determined many Doms find us such a challenge, they have to bring up the you're not true or you're confused chestnut to make themselves feel better.
Why do Doms finds us such a challenge? I have no idea. Sometimes (probably most of the time), a switch is just a switch . . .
I honestly feel that we intimidate those that do the name calling daintydimples!
I mean, if we submit to there Dominance are we going to judge them? are we going to stop them half way though a scene and say 'hang on, let me teach you how to do that'? after all, we do know how to Dominate! we do understand what its all about and we are probably going to be a lot more picky and possibly judgmental. There own fear makes them throw the insults and coats there own fickle shell in the armor they need.
I spent years on the scene and met many experienced Dominants but not once in all those years did I desire to submit to any of them. I saw my own Dominace as stronger than theirs and why the hell am I going to submit to someone who doesn't have the ability to control me without me breaking his legs!
When S came along he wasn't at all intimidated by the fact that I was nearly all Dominant with a tiny iota of me wanting to submit. I never dreamt in my wildest dreams that I would taste submission in such depth because I never believed I would meet a man that could take me without fear and apprehension.
When I was only Dominant I was approached by so many 'Super Doms' that asked me for a secret session 'but please don't tell my sub' type of guys. All I can say is that I feel sorry for all those closet switches because they will never have the freedom that we have.
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