TiNeedsHouseboy
Posts: 145
Joined: 4/24/2005 From: Big Apple blossom blown to The Windy City Status: offline
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ORIGINAL: LadyAngelika Now when someone writes to me telling me that my profile interests them and that they want to get to know me, I tend to be a little baffled to be quite honest. I often wonder what kind of person gets all eager over a profile. And I don't say this to insult anyone here. It's just the way I personally feel and I have a hard time relating to the mind set of someone who gets giddy over a profile. Hey, there! Long time no cross Message Board paths! LOL. Gotta say that I was more than a tad taken aback by your post. <insert raised/surprised eyebrows here> For someone who puts so little value in the worth of a profile, it confuses me why you invested considerable effort in creating a detailed profile.... which comes with an embedded "reading test" at the end, no less. From where I'm sitting, if that's how you truly feel, I'm left wondering why you bothered typing such a long profile. Are you playing devil's advocate? If not, do you see a contradiction between action and words? I value a detailed, thought-provoking profile. Particularly in the case of men seeking women to dominate them, a "think piece" is a rarity. It's starting to become a hallmark of how to weed out cyber trollers from guys who sincerely seek a real-time rapport. That's not to say it's a guarantee, of course. Vigilance for possible ghostwriters is imperative (e.g., Alt's option to pay them to write a profile). I also had a startling revelation that there's a trolling sub (or maybe just a troll?) who's ripping off content from dominant women's profiles and weaving a "sounds good" tapestry to lure dominant women to his lair. What I don't get about that guy is that he's got the inherent skills to create an engaging profile. Why he's opted for plagiarism is rather outrageous. The dilemma of "who wrote this description" has plagued me for decades. Classic example: Stroll back with me down memory lane, if you will, to my New York City roots. Academic commitments eroded much of my free time. So, I placed a personals ad in a local paper with a thriving personals section. I received a reply that was so perfect, that to this day, it reins above any other introduction I've ever received. (Given that I'm writing a memoir, I regret not saving that letter -- pre-Internet days -- as an example of an amazing introduction.) Having met that gentleman, I can't help but wonder if he got someone to be his Cyrano de Bergerac. ********************* Gotta toss out my two cents about posts addressing the alleged Domme to sub ratio. Given the experiences I've had, I give no credence to the claim that there are boundless supplies of male subs, with precious few dominant women to go around. I've found there are jumbo supplies of guys claiming to be subs. Out of those swirling claims, there are a precious few sincere men seeking dominant women for real-time, meaningful interactions. I've lost count of how many guys I've encountered who talk the good talk -- so long as I limit exchanges to online and/or the phone. The second I mention meeting at Starbucks, they're gone faster than Penn and Teller performing their most baffling illusion. Aside from the unconscionable waste of my time this causes, it's an unfortunate additional hurdle that sincere subs must face in their serving quests. It's also the reason why they need to buff up their profiles PLUS cultivate the art of writing personalized, engaging introductions when they find dominant women's profiles that intrigue them. quote:
ORIGINAL: saret But it sounds like you wanted to vent more than you wanted advice. Amen to that! I could write a book just with the rationalization roster I've heard from guys about why they have not created great profiles, and why they refuse to take the initiative in introducing themselves appropriately to women. ~ Ti ~
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