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DomInMinn -> "Under Consideration" Are most a farce? (11/28/2007 2:27:56 PM)

I have had personal experience with two female submissives who were "under consideration".  One is now a trusted friend and the other is now my wife.  With both of them the expression I most often used with them was "get the fence post out of your ass."  They both were "under consideration" by Doms who in my opinion were merely jerking them along; and they were under this consideration for long periods of times (read that "many" months).  There were lots of mystery about the details of the lives and backgrounds  of these "considering" Doms.  It seemed to me that these Doms were likely married or in some other way involved/committed.  Couldn't have their phone number, nope.  Could only contact them at certain times.  And there were a plethora of excuses and conditions from these Doms who wanted them so.  So for those who are "under consideration", are you sure about those who hold you in limbo?  Anyone ever experience what I've described?  I'd love to open this dialog and read your comments.




RumpusParable -> RE: "Under Consideration" Are most a farce? (11/28/2007 2:32:07 PM)

Many have experienced what you, OP, described both "under consideration" and not.  What you describe is just being in a dead-end relationship, if it's a relationship at all.




DarkDaddyZ -> RE: "Under Consideration" Are most a farce? (11/28/2007 2:37:14 PM)

Been shared before, this will be interesting.  I don't think that "most" submissives thinks being "under consideration" a farce, but I do think that that "most" Doms that require submissives that they are interested in to put it on their profile are pissing on the tree.




juliaoceania -> RE: "Under Consideration" Are most a farce? (11/28/2007 2:37:41 PM)

I've seen it happen both ways here and elsewhere... some subs were being led on, some had the relationship actually go somewhere.

As with everything else in this world, it depends on the people involved




LadyLynx -> RE: "Under Consideration" Are most a farce? (11/28/2007 2:43:25 PM)

well if the sub that is being considered has yet to meet this Dom..........yeah then I would think it was a farce.  Something else to think about tho........I have heard of some ladies saying they are "under consideration" to protect themselves, which I can understand, but a predator isn't going to care about that.




azropedntied -> RE: "Under Consideration" Are most a farce? (11/28/2007 2:43:28 PM)

I agree with the responces  thus far , but i might add i do not personaly like velrco on a collar .though the large velcro straps at DomDepot are great .




Stephann -> RE: "Under Consideration" Are most a farce? (11/28/2007 3:03:28 PM)

Works both ways.  I've had girls I was corresponding with express interest in being considered, and indicated so on their profile; yet had no real desire to give their phone number, meet, etc.  There are male, female, submissive, switch, dominant, kinky, and vanilla wankers of all persuasions.

Most often, though, I've found women put 'under consideration' as a means of warding off unwanted attention, so they could focus their efforts on men more to their liking.  I've written several girls respectful letters, saying I liked something they wrote only to have them say "Oh, no, I'm not involved with anyone I just have that in my profile."

To boot, my current slave had "currently in training with a couple" on her profile.  I met her at the tail end of their relationship; had I written to come on to her strong, I doubt she'd have given me another thought.  It just goes to show that in order to establish relationships here, it's best to start with friendship (especially here on the forums.)

Stephan




SugarMyChurro -> RE: "Under Consideration" Are most a farce? (11/28/2007 3:11:49 PM)

This matter isn't anyone else's business. But a reality check is always healthy - no problem there.

To the OP: Keep in mind that your opinion doesn't really matter to anyone but yourself. Others need to do things in their own way.




Vanatru -> RE: "Under Consideration" Are most a farce? (11/28/2007 3:21:50 PM)

I'd think that would be the way with the best chance of lasting long-term. Seems to work that way when you start person-to-person as well.

quote:

ORIGINAL: Stephann

...  It just goes to show that in order to establish relationships here, it's best to start with friendship (especially here on the forums.)

Stephan





SimplyMichael -> RE: "Under Consideration" Are most a farce? (11/28/2007 3:37:23 PM)

I have always considered people "under consideration" to be well worth stearing clear of, sort of the "slowly back away and make no sudden movement" sort...




LadyLegs -> RE: "Under Consideration" Are most a farce? (11/28/2007 3:50:03 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: SimplyMichael

I have always considered people "under consideration" to be well worth stearing clear of, sort of the "slowly back away and make no sudden movement" sort...


You're confused......it's the ones that are "under observation" that tend to bite.




Estring -> RE: "Under Consideration" Are most a farce? (11/28/2007 3:54:56 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: SugarMyChurro

This matter isn't anyone else's business. But a reality check is always healthy - no problem there.

To the OP: Keep in mind that your opinion doesn't really matter to anyone but yourself. Others need to do things in their own way.




Lol. Why even type this? What a waste of an hour.




SubmissiveGael -> RE: "Under Consideration" Are most a farce? (11/28/2007 4:01:49 PM)

I was under consideration by a Domme who, after some time, revealed that there were others under consideration also. I was gutted, but requested that she clarify if we were to be friends or to decide should we be something more. She let me down because she didn't decide when I was emotionally equipped to take the fall. She led me on, kept me hoping for something that was never going to be, and met with, and accepted one of the others without giving me a chance. In hind sight, I should have run when I heard about the others, but I liked her a lot and wanted to believe she was a descent and honest person who would not willingly hurt me. She really did, and all the more because she did not cut me loose early on. 

I won't make this mistake again. As the old Irish proverb goes:

Hurt me once, shame on you.
Hurt me twice, shame on me. 




kittensmailbox -> RE: "Under Consideration" Are most a farce? (11/28/2007 4:04:49 PM)






Ok, this is something I don’t understand; when a Dom says that he/she is putting a collar of consideration on you... I mean really, what does that mean??  You can’t talk to another Doms while the first one decides whether or not they want you or are they waiting to see if someone else better comes along..




LuckyAlbatross -> RE: "Under Consideration" Are most a farce? (11/28/2007 4:09:05 PM)

http://www.collarchat.com/m_1015458/mpage_1/key_consideration/tm.htm#1015553
"Under Consideration"

http://www.collarchat.com/m_570779/mpage_1/key_consideration/tm.htm#570947
"Under Consideration" what does it mean to you?

http://www.collarchat.com/m_437842/mpage_1/key_consideration/tm.htm#437958
Putting under consideration

http://www.collarchat.com/m_297748/mpage_1/key_consideration/tm.htm#297748
collaring levels

http://www.collarchat.com/m_293199/mpage_1/key_consideration/tm.htm#293199
some slaves have no

http://www.collarchat.com/m_249659/mpage_1/key_consideration/tm.htm#249659
"Under Consideration"???

http://www.collarchat.com/m_167264/mpage_1/key_consideration/tm.htm#167264
Under Consideration

http://www.collarchat.com/m_167264/mpage_1/key_consideration/tm.htm#167264
taking someone under consideration

http://www.collarchat.com/m_136495/mpage_1/key_consideration/tm.htm#136495
under consideration

http://www.collarchat.com/m_86003/mpage_1/key_consideration/tm.htm#86003
different "stages"/different treatment?




IrishMist -> RE: "Under Consideration" Are most a farce? (11/28/2007 4:12:04 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: DomInMinn

I have had personal experience with two female submissives who were "under consideration".  One is now a trusted friend and the other is now my wife.  With both of them the expression I most often used with them was "get the fence post out of your ass."  They both were "under consideration" by Doms who in my opinion were merely jerking them along; and they were under this consideration for long periods of times (read that "many" months).  There were lots of mystery about the details of the lives and backgrounds  of these "considering" Doms.  It seemed to me that these Doms were likely married or in some other way involved/committed.  Couldn't have their phone number, nope.  Could only contact them at certain times.  And there were a plethora of excuses and conditions from these Doms who wanted them so.  So for those who are "under consideration", are you sure about those who hold you in limbo?  Anyone ever experience what I've described?  I'd love to open this dialog and read your comments.

So, according to you...both your friend AND your wife...were umm...what's a nice way to put this....both were umm .... naive [8|] enough to hang on for MONTHS with men who placed them under consideration?

Hmmm

Ok




DiurnalVampire -> RE: "Under Consideration" Are most a farce? (11/28/2007 4:12:34 PM)

Both my boys were under consideration before I collared them. Fox for a far shorter time than Angel. My personal reasoning was that both of them were beginners, Angel was long distance, Fox is local.  I didnt want to commit them to a realtionship that was doomed to fail, so I put them under consideration while they learned a bit more about what they were getting themselves into. Once they learned what I expected, and were sure they were ready for it, they were kept.

For some, being under consideration is just biding their time until they can meet or be closer to their partner. Some get a kick out or being part of a couple, even if its not a serious thing. And some use it as a lure, hoping for the ones who like a "challenge" to try and conicne them to leave whomever they are with for them.

DV




SimplyMichael -> RE: "Under Consideration" Are most a farce? (11/28/2007 5:11:24 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: kittensmailbox

Ok, this is something I don’t understand; when a Dom says that he/she is putting a collar of consideration on you... I mean really, what does that mean??  You can’t talk to another Doms while the first one decides whether or not they want you or are they waiting to see if someone else better comes along..


Let me translate for you:

After years of women not even noticing I exist, I find a place where women want me and so I go hog wild.  Not wanting to get tied down to one, I put collars of consideration on them so I can fuck tons of them and have to do almost nothing to do so.

In the vanilla world, guys either whisper, "I love you" or "I will respect you in the morning", it is pretty much the same thing.

Of course, there are a few legitimate people who do this but they are few and far between.




Machts -> RE: "Under Consideration" Are most a farce? (11/28/2007 5:17:43 PM)

Why buy the cow-when you can have the milk for free?




Kalista07 -> RE: "Under Consideration" Are most a farce? (11/28/2007 5:18:40 PM)

This is an interesting conversation to me....Mostly because after reading and responding to a submissive's thread on here earlier this week my Sir and i had an in depth conversation about my shame/guilt/remorse regarding the things i've done, indulged in, or been subjected to...This is, sadly one of those things i was referring to...i'm not sure if i was just stupid enough or desperate enough but apparently i was (in the past) a pretty easy mark...Fortunately for me things have changed.....
Kali




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