Collarspace Discussion Forums


Home  Login  Search 

putting under consideration


View related threads: (in this forum | in all forums)

Logged in as: Guest
 
All Forums >> [Community Discussions] >> General BDSM Discussion >> putting under consideration Page: [1] 2   next >   >>
Login
Message << Older Topic   Newer Topic >>
putting under consideration - 6/20/2006 4:04:06 PM   
Mynwlkr


Posts: 7
Joined: 5/30/2006
From: Catawba, N.C.
Status: offline 		can I please get someone to explain to Me the process from which you put a sub under consideration in real life?
Profile   Post #: 1
RE: putting under consideration - 6/20/2006 4:06:40 PM   
enthralled


Posts: 249
Joined: 9/13/2005
From: Nashville, Tn
Status: offline 		Perhaps you'd get more response placing this in "Ask a Master" forum?

~enthralled

_____________________________

A man never discloses his own character so clearly as when he describes another's.-Jean Paul Richter

(in reply to Mynwlkr)
Profile   Post #: 2
RE: putting under consideration - 6/20/2006 4:29:48 PM   
Reflectivesoul


Posts: 1777
Joined: 4/25/2006
Status: offline 		To put someone under consideration r/t would be like offering a training collar. If you like this person let them know you'd like a trial period to see how well you mesh together in a relationship setting. Start with a 3 month contract or so and see how things go, if it goes well extend the contract 3 more months and so on.

_____________________________

ooooo..I bet THATS gonna leave a mark!!!!

Equal opportunity pisser on-er ... heh..

Gimme some crayons, I want color and I want it now DAMNIT!

(in reply to enthralled)
Profile   Post #: 3
RE: putting under consideration - 6/20/2006 4:32:56 PM   
ShiftedJewel


Posts: 2492
Joined: 12/2/2004
Status: offline
quote:

ORIGINAL: Mynwlkr

can I please get someone to explain to Me the process from which you put a sub under consideration in real life?


I have put someone under consideration mainly because we haven't met in real time yet. We seem to click intellectually and have had many phone conversations but I need to see someone face to face, see their reactions when we talk and find out if we connect in any other ways before I'll even consider a collar.
 
Jewel

_____________________________

Don't ask, trust me, you won't like the answer... no one ever does.

(in reply to Mynwlkr)
Profile   Post #: 4
RE: putting under consideration - 6/20/2006 4:39:08 PM   
feastie


Posts: 1793
Joined: 6/4/2004
Status: offline 		Actually, there's a wholeeeeeeee thing about collars of consideration...

http://www.steel-door.com/Consideration_Collar.html

It's the collar one gets before a training collar...according to those that believe in it

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Collar_(BDSM)



_____________________________

Snarky and loving it.

Disclaimer: Any views expressed in any post are my opinions only. They may or may not be yours.

(in reply to ShiftedJewel)
Profile   Post #: 5
RE: putting under consideration - 6/20/2006 4:43:27 PM   
GoddessDustyGold


Posts: 2822
Joined: 4/11/2004
From: Arizona
Status: offline
quote:

ORIGINAL: ShiftedJewel

quote:

ORIGINAL: Mynwlkr

can I please get someone to explain to Me the process from which you put a sub under consideration in real life?


I have put someone under consideration mainly because we haven't met in real time yet. We seem to click intellectually and have had many phone conversations but I need to see someone face to face, see their reactions when we talk and find out if we connect in any other ways before I'll even consider a collar.
 
Jewel


Precisely...
I have a wondeful boy under consideration now.  He is at My 14 carat level...*Smile*  We email, he journals, and we also speak (a lot!) on the phone.  Tentative plans are to meet at the end of July, when I get back from My trip to Europe.  At that point, we will know, and we can begin a new level of relationship with a more formal training collar. 
I am not one to stand on much formality regarding collars and levels, but when dealing in this medium particularly, I think an "Under Consideration" time can be very productive. 

_____________________________

Dusty
They that give up essential liberty to obtain a little temporary safety deserve neither liberty nor safety
B Franklin
Don't blame Me ~ I didn't vote for either of them
The Hidden Kingdom


(in reply to ShiftedJewel)
Profile   Post #: 6
RE: putting under consideration - 6/20/2006 4:53:15 PM   
Totalmaster4you


Posts: 1359
Joined: 6/19/2006
Status: offline 		The idea usually is similar to a promise ring. For whatever reason a Dom has connected with a submissive and they think that more of a connection is possible. More needs to be learned befor more of a commitment is made. This is generally determained by the Dom because it's his collar she's trying to earn..So the Dom will place the slave under consideration, meaning she's off the market until a final decision is made. Hope this explanation helps.

Master Alan
Taking you toInfinity and Beyoonnnddd!

< Message edited by Totalmaster4you -- 6/20/2006 4:57:28 PM >

(in reply to feastie)
Profile   Post #: 7
RE: putting under consideration - 6/20/2006 5:01:02 PM   
JessieMe


Posts: 510
Joined: 6/5/2006
Status: offline 		I am a slave under consideration to a Master and the answers are correct for me as well. Although he is in the process of moving to be local to me (for work.. not for me LOL) we have only interacted through emails, phone and webcam. We feel we are a very strong match and for this reason we have pretty much "taken ourselves off the market for others" as we "consider" each other for a more permanent M/s relationship. I hope this makes sense to you. :)

jessie

(in reply to Totalmaster4you)
Profile   Post #: 8
RE: putting under consideration - 6/20/2006 5:10:11 PM   
LuckyAlbatross


Posts: 19224
Joined: 10/25/2005
Status: offline 		http://www.collarchat.com/m_297748/mpage_1/key_consideration/tm.htm#297748
collaring levels

http://www.collarchat.com/m_293199/mpage_1/key_consideration/tm.htm#293199
some slaves have no

http://www.collarchat.com/m_249659/mpage_1/key_consideration/tm.htm#249659
"Under Consideration"???

http://www.collarchat.com/m_167264/mpage_1/key_consideration/tm.htm#167264
Under Consideration

http://www.collarchat.com/m_167264/mpage_1/key_consideration/tm.htm#167264
taking someone under consideration

http://www.collarchat.com/m_136495/mpage_1/key_consideration/tm.htm#136495
under consideration

http://www.collarchat.com/m_86003/mpage_1/key_consideration/tm.htm#86003
different "stages"/different treatment?




_____________________________

Find stable partners, not a stable of partners.

"Sometimes my whore logic gets all fuzzy"- Californication

(in reply to Mynwlkr)
Profile   Post #: 9
RE: putting under consideration - 6/20/2006 5:14:05 PM   
kickinchick


Posts: 129
Joined: 10/20/2005
Status: offline 		It's a two way street with me....If I'm under consideration....so is he.
What's it mean?
Simply, we both will see where it goes and if a collar is in the future? However, it should not only be about the submissive under consideration...should it?

looks at fastlane as she asks?

(in reply to LuckyAlbatross)
Profile   Post #: 10
RE: putting under consideration - 6/20/2006 5:17:57 PM   
ownedgirlie


Posts: 9184
Joined: 2/5/2006
Status: offline 		For me it meant I begged him to train me to his liking and he agreed, after much discussion.  While he was training me, he was watching and monitoring me to see how I was responding to him.  In other words, he was considering ownership of me.  There was no collar, however.  There was no "promise."  There was nothing but contemplation and observation on his part, and work on mine.

(in reply to LuckyAlbatross)
Profile   Post #: 11
RE: putting under consideration - 6/20/2006 8:20:09 PM   
CrappyDom


Posts: 1883
Joined: 4/11/2006
From: Sacramento
Status: offline 		I think I am going to create a new brand image for collars.  I want a "collar of wanton useage" where I get to use the hell out of the woman till the biodegradable collar wears off.

(in reply to ownedgirlie)
Profile   Post #: 12
RE: putting under consideration - 6/20/2006 9:18:44 PM   
akisha


Posts: 2071
Joined: 6/25/2005
Status: offline 		Would it not be like "going steady.

You agree not to see or play with anyone else and she agrees not to see or play with anyone else so that you can focus on one another and see if the possibility of a long term relationship is a realitic ideal?

Maybe spend a week or two with just each other and see how things go?

But really, it's completely individualistic just like everything else. Do what works for you and the other person. Why does what others think or what others do matter to your relationship?

No ONE person has all the answers. No ONE person is right about everything or anything for that matter. There is no Rule Book or How Too book for BDSM.

Look with in yourself and do what you think will work for you.  Best of all, talk to the person you are considering and see what works for the TWO of you.

Good luck and I hope it goes well.

_____________________________

I'm confused.... No wait!!! Maybe I'm not

It's not a blonde moment! It's momentary peroxide posioning. ;)

Your pain makes me smile ~ Happy Bunny

532-095-649

(in reply to Mynwlkr)
Profile   Post #: 13
RE: putting under consideration - 6/20/2006 9:20:21 PM   
akisha


Posts: 2071
Joined: 6/25/2005
Status: offline
quote:

ORIGINAL: CrappyDom

I think I am going to create a new brand image for collars.  I want a "collar of wanton useage" where I get to use the hell out of the woman till the biodegradable collar wears off.


I think you might have a marketable item there CD *grins* i know a few ppl that would Love to have a few of those around

_____________________________

I'm confused.... No wait!!! Maybe I'm not

It's not a blonde moment! It's momentary peroxide posioning. ;)

Your pain makes me smile ~ Happy Bunny

532-095-649

(in reply to CrappyDom)
Profile   Post #: 14
RE: putting under consideration - 6/20/2006 9:38:11 PM   
Noah


Posts: 1660
Joined: 7/5/2005
Status: offline
quote:

ORIGINAL: CrappyDom

I think I am going to create a new brand image for collars.  I want a "collar of wanton useage" where I get to use the hell out of the woman till the biodegradable collar wears off.


Brilliant!

And how about a Collar of INconsideration under which she just takes shit till she gets a clue?

Maybe a Collar of Anticipation where you give it to her and then just disappear for a month or so.

I think first of all I'll start developing the Collar of Equivocation, which is fraught with deep relationship meaning but at the same time isn't, really.

Thanks for the inspiration.

(Biodegradeability was a nice touch.)



(in reply to CrappyDom)
Profile   Post #: 15
RE: putting under consideration - 6/20/2006 9:49:25 PM   
DesertRat


Posts: 2774
Joined: 11/29/2004
From: NM/USA
Status: offline 		I believe in "The Collar of Plausible Deniability", I think it will be popular with people who want to have it both ways. Commitment/no commitment. Now you see it, now you don't...or...did you ever? Was it really there? Were you? Was I?

Bob

< Message edited by DesertRat -- 6/20/2006 9:52:34 PM >

_____________________________

When the going gets weird, the weird turn pro--Hunter S. Thompson
It's crackers to slip a rozzer the dropsy in snide!--Chief Dead St. Knockout, 1933, Liverpool
Damn the crops. I'll only find peace at the end of a rope.--Winston Van Loo, 1911

(in reply to Noah)
Profile   Post #: 16
RE: putting under consideration - 6/20/2006 9:53:05 PM   
spankmepink11


Posts: 1310
Joined: 9/28/2005
Status: offline
quote:

ORIGINAL: Noah


quote:

ORIGINAL: CrappyDom

I think I am going to create a new brand image for collars.  I want a "collar of wanton useage" where I get to use the hell out of the woman till the biodegradable collar wears off.


Brilliant!

And how about a Collar of INconsideration under which she just takes shit till she gets a clue?

Maybe a Collar of Anticipation where you give it to her and then just disappear for a month or so.

I think first of all I'll start developing the Collar of Equivocation, which is fraught with deep relationship meaning but at the same time isn't, really.

Thanks for the inspiration.

(Biodegradeability was a nice touch.)






Wicked funny Gentlemen........

(in reply to Noah)
Profile   Post #: 17
RE: putting under consideration - 6/20/2006 10:28:36 PM   
Noah


Posts: 1660
Joined: 7/5/2005
Status: offline
quote:

ORIGINAL: DesertRat

I believe in "The Collar of Plausible Deniability", I think it will be popular with people who want to have it both ways. Commitment/no commitment. Now you see it, now you don't...or...did you ever? Was it really there? Were you? Was I?

Bob


Better have your people contact kikkinchik. I believe he holds the patent.

(in reply to DesertRat)
Profile   Post #: 18
RE: putting under consideration - 6/20/2006 10:39:22 PM   
DesertRat


Posts: 2774
Joined: 11/29/2004
From: NM/USA
Status: offline
quote:

ORIGINAL: Noah


quote:

ORIGINAL: DesertRat

I believe in "The Collar of Plausible Deniability", I think it will be popular with people who want to have it both ways. Commitment/no commitment. Now you see it, now you don't...or...did you ever? Was it really there? Were you? Was I?

Bob


Better have your people contact kikkinchik. I believe he holds the patent.



But even the patent is deniable...which is part of the beauty of it. I am sure he would agree. Denying is everything, isn't it?

Bob

_____________________________

When the going gets weird, the weird turn pro--Hunter S. Thompson
It's crackers to slip a rozzer the dropsy in snide!--Chief Dead St. Knockout, 1933, Liverpool
Damn the crops. I'll only find peace at the end of a rope.--Winston Van Loo, 1911

(in reply to Noah)
Profile   Post #: 19
RE: putting under consideration - 6/20/2006 10:50:20 PM   
Noah


Posts: 1660
Joined: 7/5/2005
Status: offline
quote:

ORIGINAL: DesertRat

But even the patent is deniable...which is part of the beauty of it. I am sure he would agree. Denying is everything, isn't it?

Bob


I give up. You just can't be denied. Happy birthday you desert demon.

(Or not)



(in reply to DesertRat)
Profile   Post #: 20
Page:   [1] 2   next >   >>
All Forums >> [Community Discussions] >> General BDSM Discussion >> putting under consideration Page: [1] 2   next >   >>
Jump to:





New Messages No New Messages
Hot Topic w/ New Messages Hot Topic w/o New Messages
Locked w/ New Messages Locked w/o New Messages
 Post New Thread
 Reply to Message
 Post New Poll
 Submit Vote
 Delete My Own Post
 Delete My Own Thread
 Rate Posts




Collarchat.com © 2025
Terms of Service Privacy Policy Spam Policy

0.125