MissMorrigan
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I think we (people in general) buy into needing others' affirmation a little too much instead of building our own self esteem. I have a great big scar down the middle of my stomach from an emergency C Section almost 24 years ago. I contracted MRSA and almost died from the surgery and the MRSA ate away a huge chunk of tissue all the way along the wound. I could opt to have an operation to reduce the scar and have been asked by people if I would want to undergo that procedure... my answer is always the same - a resounding NO. I never mention my scar to people prior to getting nekkid infront of them, I am also quite a large lady build-wise and can honestly say I have never encountered one person who has felt disgust or looked at me with anything other than lust. Recently, when my submissive met me from work I was asked, "How did you manage to get him? He's gorgeous!" I just wink, smile pleasantly, disregard the insult and say it's all about self confidence. I used to be terribly self conscious, that was until I met an artist who had me looking at my body with a whole new perspective - I wrote about this in one of my posts regarding body image on CM. quote:
ORIGINAL: deliciousmorsel But that's such a nice thing to hear, that "imperfections" make us unique. Women really get whaled on about body image. The thinner and supposedly better looking, the more you measure up, the worse you feel about yourself- when I was a world ranked georgeous young athlete I would NEVER take my clothes off. Now I'm old, fat, scarred from the athlete thing, and I'll just whip it all off in the dungeon- or wherever- in front of anybody... I don't know why. Leonard Nimoy did a photographic series of very large women in the nude and was amazed at how comfortable they were with themselves. Maybe if you don't play the body game you don't have it's imposed neuroses. They can do amazing things to fix ugly scars now. Maybe your freind should look into that liminal, even if it doesn't get her gardening in a bikini she'd feel better.
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The Tooth Fairy who teaches kids to sell body parts for money. A free society is a society where it is safe to find one's self unpopular and where history has shown that exceptions are not that exceptional.
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