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RE: Worst rejection reactions -- subs, what NOT to do - 9/12/2005 12:53:15 PM

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ORIGINAL: collarmee

Irrespective of how much effort has gone into an application to a Mistress, a sub should accept Her rejection immediately and without question or complaint. It is She, and She alone, who can decide what She wants for Her pleasure. Pestering a potential Mistress who is obviously not interested, is the height of discourtesy. To do so to the point where She feels it necessary to block e-mails is nothing less than disgraceful.

Nicely said, collarmee. I simply couldn't bring myself to snip it, anywhere. Lovely profile, as well.

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RE: Worst rejection reactions -- subs, what NOT to do - 9/12/2005 1:27:53 PM

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I think all of you have gotten off easy. I once had a sub female ask to join my harem. I didn't think she was a good "fit" and told her so. Two of my girls had already had bad

She reacted by flaming me on the listserv of the local bdsm group; then organized a new group so people would be able to avoid the "evil one"...lol.

Two of my girls had already heard some disturbing things about her mental stability; luck for me, I listened to them.

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RE: Worst rejection reactions -- subs, what NOT to do - 9/12/2005 6:30:26 PM

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Oh btw, "Good luck in your search"

Okay! I confess! That's my exit line! lol I'm "polite", and tolerant for a couple of emails, but honestly, since my profile says I'm not actively looking, why should the sub be surprised that I'm not interested?

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RE: Worst rejection reactions -- subs, what NOT to do - 9/16/2005 1:51:56 PM

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LMAO: This forum is the best yet. I could kick myself for not reading it before now. Any time I feel down, I think I will come back and read some of the funny replies men are tossing back at people.

I don't get many bad e-mails, and it is rare that I will engage someone who tries to get the last word in. My most common reply to men is "read my profile if you want to know the answer". It is rare I ever hear from them after that.

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RE: Worst rejection reactions -- subs, what NOT to do - 9/26/2005 1:36:42 AM

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This has been fun/sad to read how people act so stupidly.
Sad that it seems to me after reading these post that there really are MANY of those people who are rude (subs). Sad that those also put dark clouds over the people who can behave.
What I think is that how they can not understand that not all are ment for all. Even if you would be a "total slave" there still would have to be some kind of connection... but that is what I think.

The other thing which I have read and heard so many times is all those subs who want to meet and then do not show up and do not even bother to send email or call that I can not be there. Ofcourse something sudden may happen but still. Ok I look this from the different perspective.
That is something I would never do, that set a meeting and not showing up there without letting the other people that I can not come. To me that is so strange in this age of mobilephones. Ok I am a finn so cellphones has been here since they came to the market. So here basicly every one has a cellphone... even the 5 year old kids.

I do not know how many people in the other countries has cellphones, etc in the U.S. Nordisk countries are very well covered as is island. But not calling a 30sek. or 1 minute call that I can not make it? That is also rude. Ok here in Finland it is pretty hard to find a payphone due to reason of the cells, but calling from the payphone to Mistress or Dom's cell and telling that I can not be there, and I will explain later... would be better than no notification what so ever.. or that is what I think....

*G* a lot of text that was supposed to be quick reply... argh...

brahma, the evil saint

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RE: Worst rejection reactions -- subs, what NOT to do - 9/26/2005 4:14:37 AM

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I am so pleased to have happened on this posting this day....as it would happen, I just recently met a "sub" for the first time, after meeting him in an aol chat room...I broke a number of rules, particularlr in seeing that he didn't seem very bright and tended towrd obsession (calling multiple times when asked not to), I STILL chose to meet him( ladies, showing what happens when the crotch does the thinking) Not surprisinly it eventually ended in an ugly way, with him calling me fat and ugy etc, and other embarrasssing degradation...fortunately, in keeping with the spiritual beliefs, I tried very hard to to take any of this personally...still it stung me...fortunately, i followed up with a coffee date (and very limited playtime in a car! heh)with a far more worthy sub...and was able to take a deep breath...and move on,,,thanks so very much for assisting me in keeping perspective,....... A Newcomer

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RE: Worst rejection reactions -- subs, what NOT to do - 9/26/2005 1:47:19 PM

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I've found one that really goes to the core of a domme. When a sub finds out that a dominant isn't all he/she is cracked up to be, there are two words that will piss them off so much, they'll never talk to you again. Those two words:

You're dismissed.

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RE: Worst rejection reactions -- subs, what NOT to do - 9/26/2005 1:48:10 PM

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RE: Worst rejection reactions -- subs, what NOT to do - 10/15/2005 11:44:14 AM

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sorry to interject, but whatever happened to people actually showing some respect? it's dumbasses like the subs all of you mentioned that make actual nice people like me look bad.

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RE: Worst rejection reactions -- subs, what NOT to do - 10/15/2005 12:35:01 PM

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A college group I was in for a few years offered a workshop on basic etiquette a few times just because it does indeed seem that common politeness is foreign to some folks who want to find kinky partners.

Though I'm betting it might be a combination of low self-esteem issues and lack of social skills in general.

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RE: Worst rejection reactions -- subs, what NOT to do - 10/15/2005 9:07:19 PM

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although i am owned, i feel compelled to ask this question: ever notice that, whnn looking for someone in the lifestyle (Dom/Domme, sub/slave) locally, not many are to be found or they aren't interested (go figure)?

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RE: Worst rejection reactions -- subs, what NOT to do - 10/17/2005 1:57:07 PM

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I have to say that I haven't had that problem, ever. If I wanted to have a full time slave, submissive, or bottom, I would pretty much have to announce my availability, and I would have an array to choose from.

Would he or she be my perfect submissive? Not likely, at least not at first. But there's plenty of action out there, even in the shallow pool that is Detroit, if you are willing to expand what you are looking for.

Ms Francine

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RE: Worst rejection reactions -- subs, what NOT to do - 10/21/2005 6:30:38 PM

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I get a lot of hate emails from so called subs that I turn down and I have a lot of switches I have turned down because I am not interested in either. Or they get angry because I am in financial domination and are rude. I have had them worship me in one email and call me names in another lol. So I dont too much pay attention to guys who only been on collarme for a few days and I dont do switches or dominate men which I get a lot of emails from and like clock work when I turn them down they show there turn colors. They assume that since I am into financial domination I will just met anyone. But I am seeking one long term slave damn is that so hard to ask for lol. Good luck to the other mistresses on your quest because I have heard it all also.
MistressEvilynn

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RE: Worst rejection reactions -- subs, what NOT to do - 10/21/2005 11:17:55 PM

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The Mistress I have rejected have been very dignified maybe its just the ways we negotiated things. Oh apart from one whom I am suspcious was a male, quote unquote from an online MIstress if it seems to good to be true it usually is.. LOL.

I have been ignored by an online female player, whom had stated was my GF, she was a domme type and very wealthy, but on further investigation I realised she was quite socially retarded.

I, upon abandonment sent her a link to a website that spoke of the Narsassitic personality dissorder suggesting kindly it may be of some interest.

It all very much depends on the boundries that are being set from the beginning if there are sloppy boundries its more likely some bad emotional reactions may occur. But when it comes to mens reactions I have no idea.... I dont engage, as we know womin are the superior lifeform.

I find some very descent people online and it usually starts with good healthy boundries and a slow process of getting to know each other. If things are lusty and rushed into its more likely to be messy.
"stupid is as stupid does"

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RE: Worst rejection reactions -- subs, what NOT to do - 10/22/2005 7:08:14 PM

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I find that I am able to weed out most of the flaming responses by clearly posting requirements to subs who may choose to contact me. Since less than 1 out of 10 posts do not meet those requirements, I simply do not respond.

I have never risen to the bait of an angry sub. I merely thank the powers that be and my instincts that I did not have to waste any precious time on him.

~Cloudz

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RE: Worst rejection reactions -- subs, what NOT to do - 10/22/2005 10:09:09 PM

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Thats interesting tammyjo!

I am having those exact problems with my lecturer at university. It seems your analalogy was as consise as mine was. She lacks self esteem and basic social skills leading to a grose transgression of basic social etiquette..... I am at present dealing with her through a mediator, as I dont trust her communications skills are up to stratch.

simian

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RE: Worst rejection reactions -- subs, what NOT to do - 10/23/2005 3:59:06 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: brahma
Sad that it seems to me after reading these post that there really are MANY of those people who are rude (subs).

Now when I think about it, I didnt have one rude message from people defining themselves submissive or slaves. And I rejected a lot of them. Some answer to rejection, some dont, but neither one of them have been rude or pushing so far.

All the rude messages I get come from the ones calling themselves "Dominant men", either trying to "convince me into my undiscovered submissive self"

, or just being offended by my attitude in general. *shrugs*

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RE: Worst rejection reactions -- subs, what NOT to do - 12/16/2005 7:43:12 AM

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I have always replied very kindly to the first email that I get. If the sub is rude, crude and obnoxious I don't lower myself to their level. I either let them know that they are not a fit for me for whatever reason...distance, diametrically opposed interests...or I let them know why I am interested to talk with them further and how I would like them to contact me. For the most part the boys that I reject simply thank me for my honesty and go their own way....for the most part.

Recently I had been contacted by a "slave" that I deemed worthy of further exploration and asked via email that he contact me on a messenger. I then left for work and neglected to log out of Collar Me. The slave emailed me back thanking me for the opportunity to talk with a "real Mistress" (which apparently I am simply because I responded to him) as well as praising my interests and appearance. And saying that he would message me later in the requested manner. 10 minutes later I got another email from him negating all of the praise he has previously heaped on me because I had yet to respond to the email he had sent 10 min earlier. He was insulting me in so many different ways and working himself into such a frenzy that soon he was typing in all caps and his spelling and grammar were quickly erroding.

I am always amused by someone who is so quickly swung to extremes...

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RE: Worst rejection reactions -- subs, what NOT to do - 12/16/2005 11:09:46 AM

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LOL!! Everyone of these replies made me laugh!

Some self proclaimed male subs are just too pathetic and it shows through in answers like that...

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RE: Worst rejection reactions -- subs, what NOT to do - 12/16/2005 11:48:17 AM

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i knew of a guy who was regected and he started stalking the woman who regected don't do this remember dommes have friends and they look out for each other

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