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RE: Worst rejection reactions -- subs, what NOT to do - 12/17/2005 2:49:16 AM

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He was insulting me in so many different ways and working himself into such a frenzy that soon he was typing in all caps and his spelling and grammar were quickly erroding.

I am always amused by someone who is so quickly swung to extremes...

*Laughs* It's really sad when they reveal their true colors - sad for them of course. I'd hate to be mid-meeting with one of these nutjobs should he decide to lose himself right then and there.

They're doing us favors by becoming irrational, emotional and completely off kilter. Good for them... I needed a gardener to do some weeding.

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RE: Worst rejection reactions -- subs, what NOT to do - 12/17/2005 5:01:00 AM

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LOL well let's see...."this" week's candidate emailed me wanting to exchange use of his OC Maryland condo for kink play and sex (options of which he listed in great detail - apparently I was supposed to have a posse of Domme friends who would be willing to gang bang him). I responded that wasn't interested and found such an offer inappropriate, I was told to "get with the program - this is a sex site - this is what kink is all about" LMAO

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RE: Worst rejection reactions -- subs, what NOT to do - 12/17/2005 7:35:08 AM

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If we were to write a book on rejection reactions anyone not in the lifestyle would consider it fiction.

I think the most common are ... you must be a fake ... or you dont like men do you?

Most of the time I just sit and shake my head and laugh ...but occasionaly I do get frustrated and angry .....and angry at myself for answering politely that Im not interested ... perhaps I should be rude and crude....

If they knew how stupid they sound I wonder if they would change ??? NOOOOOOO LOL I answered my own question

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RE: Worst rejection reactions -- subs, what NOT to do - 12/17/2005 7:45:33 AM

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When a potential sub is rejected, he:

1. Says something like, "Oh, ok. Do you have any female friends I can contact or submit to?" (this is especially annoying if you barely know the guy -- he's just looking for someone, anyone -- and it's obvious.)

2. Says, "Your LOSS!" or something negative in a huff. Or "You don't know what you're missing."

3. Does not take no for an answer.

4 Says something totally insulting -- like "You're ugly anyway" -- the guy just previously slobbering all over your photos.

5. Claims that you must not be a REAL femdom then. Or says, "I knew you were a fake."

6. Tries the, "Well, it's obvious you think you can't handle me, then. Admit it, you can't handle a real man!" and/or insults those that submit to you already.

Any other good ones? Subs, have you ever responded less than gracefully to rejection? Ever said anything you regretted?

Akasha
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yes i have asked this myself. i figure there is nothing wrong with asking...i was not aware it was an issue. just because 'a' domme doesn't want me..doesn't mean She couldn't have a domme friend that might..
#2
i feel i may as well toot my own horn. i don't see anyone doing it for me. and the way "I" have seen SOME ads on here...i swear SOME females think they walk on water..
#3..i am not this bad..
#4 i'm not that much of an ogre
#5 nor this one
#6 i have done. i had not met ANY female anywhere that was woman enough to handle a man like ME. i am EXTREMELY macho and very highly self independant. "I" had not met anyone anywhere woman enough to calm the beast within..........until i met THIS Mistress i am with now.
She has not...put me down verbally....and accused me of being less human just because i am more macho than MOST males...i have always been known to be more guts than brains.."I" never turned down a challenge in my life..

so anywhoway.....
these are my replys to Your statements here..

You ask any more replys?
let me think for a minute..
i believe...my standard is something like;

"are you even sure you KNOW what you want?" in MY experience in life..."I" have found very very few women even know what it is they want in life. most "I" find are too fickle and have no idea which side is up or down.
"I" had not met ANY female that knew her own mind...until THIS Mistress i now have.

take care

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RE: Worst rejection reactions -- subs, what NOT to do - 12/18/2005 3:19:19 PM

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A true sub would show RESPECT to any Mistress period.

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RE: Worst rejection reactions -- subs, what NOT to do - 12/18/2005 8:50:19 PM

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I don't see this as being all that different from being rejected in a vanilla situation.

I have to give you credit for being up front about how you feel.

I have been rejected by so many women who simply stop calling or who keep keep giving me excuses hoping I will get frustrated and go away. I've even be dropped and cut off.

Granted, many guys, vanilla or kink, don't take things well.

It is still nice to get respect and honesty.

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RE: Worst rejection reactions -- subs, what NOT to do - 12/19/2005 4:56:05 AM

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I think I have heard every rebuff listed once I determine it is a person that wouldnt work in My life. It amazes Me that so many people who claim to be looking for friends will react in such a negative way when you offer friendship but nothing else.

It still confounds this Mind why anyone would want to be in any type of realtionship, D/s or vanilla, where both parties weren't happy. I can only think that those particular persons are selfish and think only of themselves.

Personally I am leary of anyone who wants to rush the relationship. What is it that they are running from that they can't wait to get to know the Dominant or submissive.

Things that make you go hmmmmmmmmm

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RE: Worst rejection reactions -- subs, what NOT to do - 12/20/2005 1:40:39 PM

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oh they become so angry when you tell them this is not for me, like when someone wanted me to dress and help then do they make up! i do not wear make-up, so i could not help him at all . once i spoke to a male he was not for me but i told him he could find someone if he took he time , why did i say that he went off told me i knew it your a fake, said my picture was not me and go srcew myself, when i block him he chnage his sn and oh i know it was him when he said why do youhave sunglasses on you do not want me to see you face right WHY NOT???????, he was truly scary and i am glad i had a pocily of waiting to meet males not so very soon but other have been so sweet

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RE: Worst rejection reactions -- subs, what NOT to do - 1/1/2006 2:25:55 AM

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i do not know if i wrote this but one sub was deaf and when it was not going his way he said" i hate you hearing women i should had stay with the dear community, he was loud and then he trick me with a different name wrote lovely letter but when i sent him my picture he was crazy he said why can't i seeyou eye you do not want me to see them that is when i knew it was him again wow left him alone did not speak to him at all sometimes saying nothing helps to

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RE: Worst rejection reactions -- subs, what NOT to do - 1/1/2006 10:22:27 AM

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Ive gotten every response listed here then some. They never cease to make me laugh. It doesnt make me angry it amuses me to see them get worked into such a frezy over someone they dont even know and have only swapped a note or two with. The funniest one we have gotten thus far has to be the sub female that we talked with on yahoo messenger a few times. We told her that we didnt think she was right for us but thought she was a nice girl. Well a few days later she IM's the Mister and tries to start of all things a political argument with him. She is from another country and was bashing America. My husband is a former Marine. He didnt play into her game he just laughed at her which pised her off all the more. LOL I swear I think the girl must have been on sometimes cause she was OUT there that night.

My personal favorites are the Dom men and Lesbian Fem Dom women who try to convince me that I am submissive and just have not found the right macho tough super Dom who could top me yet and assure me that they are the ONE. ROTFLMFAO

Then there are the Dominants who write to you begging to be your submissive WTF??? LOL This is particularly funny when you read their profile and its extremely Dom in nature.

Ive thought about posting these emails that I get in my journal and respond to them in that way. I think if we made public these rude assholes and non-reading morons they would find themselves blocked from enough profiles they might just leave!

Dark Goddess

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RE: Worst rejection reactions -- subs, what NOT to do - 1/7/2006 8:15:08 AM

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Ma'ams, as a male subbie i am apalled at the behaviour You describe and am very sorry You would ever have to endure this.

i get turned down both live and online and have realized WE are all seeking for one thing or another and if i am a true subbie i acknowledge the Dommes right and even responsibility to say "Not interested" and say " Thank You Ma'am for Your honesty !"

A couple of times at live Play parties i have been turned down, said my "Thanks", moved on and later had Her come up to me either later that night or at other parties and ask me to "Hold My glass!" and i gladly do and follow and hold as She plays with others... this last happened in Austin and all i did was hold Her glass, fetch Her food and be there for Her as She played but it was so very Hot for both of us.

Good manners are never in bad form and i have been fortunate to have had many Dommes play with me who would never have except they noticed i was polite, did not Stalk and appreciated them and took a "No for a No ".

It almost seems like it may be good strategy for Dommes to test us poor subbies with a "Not at this time...contact me in...? Or i May contact You in the future!" to see how we do handle it. It certainly seems to do an ideal job of weeding out the surfers, wannabes and "do me's"

Thank You.
Respectfully,
art

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RE: Worst rejection reactions -- subs, what NOT to do - 1/7/2006 1:17:34 PM

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Very well put. To bad more are not the same. :)

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ORIGINAL: artglfr

Ma'ams, as a male subbie i am apalled at the behaviour You describe and am very sorry You would ever have to endure this.

i get turned down both live and online and have realized WE are all seeking for one thing or another and if i am a true subbie i acknowledge the Dommes right and even responsibility to say "Not interested" and say " Thank You Ma'am for Your honesty !"

A couple of times at live Play parties i have been turned down, said my "Thanks", moved on and later had Her come up to me either later that night or at other parties and ask me to "Hold My glass!" and i gladly do and follow and hold as She plays with others... this last happened in Austin and all i did was hold Her glass, fetch Her food and be there for Her as She played but it was so very Hot for both of us.

Good manners are never in bad form and i have been fortunate to have had many Dommes play with me who would never have except they noticed i was polite, did not Stalk and appreciated them and took a "No for a No ".

It almost seems like it may be good strategy for Dommes to test us poor subbies with a "Not at this time...contact me in...? Or i May contact You in the future!" to see how we do handle it. It certainly seems to do an ideal job of weeding out the surfers, wannabes and "do me's"

Thank You.
Respectfully,
art

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RE: Worst rejection reactions -- subs, what NOT to do - 1/7/2006 2:39:51 PM

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Thank YOU Ma'am

Respectfully,

art

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RE: Worst rejection reactions -- subs, what NOT to do - 1/8/2006 5:53:00 AM

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ORIGINAL: artglfr

Ma'ams, as a male subbie i am apalled at the behaviour You describe and am very sorry You would ever have to endure this.

i get turned down both live and online and have realized WE are all seeking for one thing or another and if i am a true subbie i acknowledge the Dommes right and even responsibility to say "Not interested" and say " Thank You Ma'am for Your honesty !"

A couple of times at live Play parties i have been turned down, said my "Thanks", moved on and later had Her come up to me either later that night or at other parties and ask me to "Hold My glass!" and i gladly do and follow and hold as She plays with others... this last happened in Austin and all i did was hold Her glass, fetch Her food and be there for Her as She played but it was so very Hot for both of us.

Good manners are never in bad form and i have been fortunate to have had many Dommes play with me who would never have except they noticed i was polite, did not Stalk and appreciated them and took a "No for a No ".

It almost seems like it may be good strategy for Dommes to test us poor subbies with a "Not at this time...contact me in...? Or i May contact You in the future!" to see how we do handle it. It certainly seems to do an ideal job of weeding out the surfers, wannabes and "do me's"

Thank You.
Respectfully,
art

Thanks and I salute you. You have the proper mindset and have set the standard we should all try and follow.

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RE: Worst rejection reactions -- subs, what NOT to do - 1/10/2006 4:32:40 AM

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i had one sub who was death and he was nice at fisrt very kind and we talk then he became angry over something but i cannot remember why! but he changed his sn and came back he was a wonderful writer and wrote letter so lovely, then when he asked for my picture i sent it i was wearing sunglasses. oh lord he was crazy after that saying "why did you wear sungalsses you do not want me to see your eyes. well when he said that i knew it was him for sure i een told him you lie, then he tried to be nice but i will neve trust him he is about to explode at anytime. and yes i was a no good b domme.

mons

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RE: Worst rejection reactions -- subs, what NOT to do - 1/12/2006 4:05:22 PM

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would you send this to stef?
she has in her mind there are NO rules........

and as to this....
"I" dont GIVE anything.....
ya gotta EARN it...
i like to play hardball...
ask anyone here.

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RE: Worst rejection reactions -- subs, what NOT to do - 1/12/2006 4:18:46 PM

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ORIGINAL: veronicaofML

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would you send this to stef?
she has in her mind there are NO rules........

and as to this....
"I" dont GIVE anything.....
ya gotta EARN it...
i like to play hardball...
ask anyone here.

If the sig line read "A true sub clucks like a chicken" would that make the rule a real rule that all most follow to be considered a true sub?

Akasha

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RE: Worst rejection reactions -- subs, what NOT to do - 1/12/2006 6:43:25 PM

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ORIGINAL: AAkasha

If the sig line read "A true sub clucks like a chicken" would that make the rule a real rule that all most follow to be considered a true sub?

According to veroniwolf logic, yes. "If I read it on the intarweb, it must be a rule!"

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RE: Worst rejection reactions -- subs, what NOT to do - 1/12/2006 6:50:01 PM

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2. Says, "Your LOSS!" or something negative in a huff. Or "You don't know what you're missing."

LOL ok ok, I know I am in the wrong forum...but this was too good to pass up

I actually had a self-proclaimed DOM tell me that one when I told him politly that I was not going to give him my phone number and addy lol.

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4 Says something totally insulting -- like "You're ugly anyway" -- the guy just previously slobbering all over your photos

Same DOM told me this also......that is too funny....I needed a good giggle tonight

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RE: Worst rejection reactions -- subs, what NOT to do - 1/12/2006 8:13:12 PM

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If the sig line read "A true sub clucks like a chicken" would that make the rule a real rule that all most follow to be considered a true sub?

Akasha

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between YOU and STEF and SWEETDOMMES name on it/// YOU # CLAIM ..YOU are always right..........REMEMBER?

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