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RE: Dominants Using Titles - 12/17/2007 7:22:06 PM

PanthersMom

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i hate being called Mistress by anyone. either call me by my nick, or call me Ma'am. i don't address other dominants by titles, i call them by their nick, which is what i think subs should do unless given permission to address them otherwise or asked to do so. if you didn't want to be addressed as "X", why choose that nick?

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RE: Dominants Using Titles - 12/17/2007 7:26:28 PM

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RE: Dominants Using Titles - 12/17/2007 7:44:15 PM

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I assure everyone here that I have thoroughly earned my self-bestowed honorific of...um...er...Desert Rat. It also gets me hot when the girl kneeling before me looks beseechingly into my eyes and calls me her 'senile old coot'. I don't expect it right away, though.

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RE: Dominants Using Titles - 12/17/2007 8:39:42 PM

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I tend to dislike titles 99% of the time.

I usually go by the simple rule of Russ for friends, Russell for the others.

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RE: Dominants Using Titles - 12/17/2007 8:51:38 PM

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I don't use titles, I don't use slashy speak, I don't capitalize dominant and lower case submissive.

I never would call anyone Master, Sir, Lord, Daddy, etc.

With a partner, the words I speak, mutter, whisper, moan or scream all suffice and none of them contain a moniker other than Oh My God!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

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RE: Dominants Using Titles - 12/17/2007 8:58:49 PM

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Dear cindybee, Ladies and Gentlemen;

May I have you consider using vanilla etiquette, such as addressing them 'ma'am' or 'sir' [Not as a title necessarily] and if they do have a personal preference, usually they will give you their name and or title.

Quite a few individuals use screen names as an identity. I know when I was new to the lifestyle and pre-computer and the newest gaget was the "electric typewriter;" there were several individuals named Kathy. So, they were given 'scene names' as to be distinctive and we knew who/what we were talking about. Being affectionate -- I was given the name Hugs.

As far as approaching a Dominant--I would highly recommend doing so after their 'scene.' and or position yourself as to catch his eye. What works for me, is when a submissive/slave catches my eye and smiles and 'mouths' 'may I have a word with you?' I will usually excuse myself as to listen to you and see if I may be of assistance. I wouldn't want you to fall at my feet and make a scene and a lot of noise--being new, I would hope you have me earn your respect as much as you wish to earn my respect. These things--respect, is earned on both sides. Now, if I knew the slave--and many still do, will kneel in an 'honor position' and or 'presentment position' as to physically 'honor me' as they greet. This comes from the slave's heart--not a demand or command. But, I admit I soar high when slaves/submissive/servants kneel to me--I am most honored by the gesture in their greeting. A rare occassion would be a TOP/DOM/SIR who will kneel in an honor position but, this is very rare and happened at last years MAL (Mid-Atlantic Leather Conference) of an individual who was an admirer and had his own slaves take on the 'honor position.'

Hopefully this will be of help--and I hope everything will come through brilliantly for you.

Respectfully submitted for consideration,
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RE: Dominants Using Titles - 12/18/2007 8:13:41 AM

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I call everyone sir or Mamm. It was the way i was raised. If I know the people I will call them by their full first names, Bill=William, Steve =Steven ect. It may be a little formal but I dont care. Whatever titles people have on here I will use on here But if we meet in person I would use their formal names.

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RE: Dominants Using Titles - 12/18/2007 8:27:26 AM

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titles i have had many in life,many to do with things that imply some form of power,the thing is it doesnt give people who dont know me my experiences,or the why i hold the title,when i was a younger Dom i said i was a Dom,the title master came after i believe my second or third slave,i use it as a form of intro to others but as many point out i may be a Master but not their Master,but it is a good way to break the ice

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RE: Dominants Using Titles - 12/18/2007 1:40:01 PM

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More than 20 years ago I chose Sir Guy Masterleigh as a jokey play-name, and have got used to it. I sign myself Guy.

I answer to anything you like - though as somebody else said, if it seems intended as a calculated insult, it will probably end the conversation.

I appreciate being called Sir, if it is being polite or showing respect; and am unkeen on Master unless you're mine.

But it is all surface fluff, basically. If it's respectful it's OK. If it seems ironic or insulting then it's irritating.

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RE: Dominants Using Titles - 12/18/2007 5:57:41 PM

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Hello Stephann,

I am usually formal until a face to face introduction and may ask,
"How do you prefer to be addressed?"

If they respond with, "Lord of the Universe" or some such silliness
then I quickly exit the conversation.

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RE: Dominants Using Titles - 12/18/2007 6:11:46 PM

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I can relate 100 percent with what your saying, but in my general layed back, easy-going attitude that I tend to have in real time, I don't make a fuss over it.

I simply call them whatever they introduce themselves and if they aren't someone I personally admire, then I dissassociate the title with being an "honorific". I just simply think of it as an extension of their common name.

Of course, there is a few people who I have met who I trully do admire and respect and for them, their title takes on a different meaning. However, what makes these people spell is they understand that my respect for them is a general sincere feeling and not something based on the contigency of calling them by their title. They probably won't even notice or take any offense since they know I genuinely admire them for the people they are.

The hardest part though is when I meet someone who falls more in the "D&D Nerd" category. At that point, I have to try really hard to keep from smirking from the thoughts of "High Wizard Dorkadus" that tend to pop into my head as their title rolls off my lips.

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RE: Dominants Using Titles - 12/18/2007 7:16:29 PM

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The hardest part though is when I meet someone who falls more in the "D&D Nerd" category. At that point, I have to try really hard to keep from smirking from the thoughts of "High Wizard Dorkadus" that tend to pop into my head as their title rolls off my lips.

But I'm a fourteenth level druid ranger! Thee must call me Lord Captain Highpants!

Actually I am a D&D nerd but I don't make the mistake of confusing my characters with real life. Which is good since my all time favorite D&D character is a half-orc paladin. Complex personality to say the least.

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RE: Dominants Using Titles - 12/18/2007 7:44:50 PM

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Actually I am a D&D nerd

Same here! Where do you think I get this database of information for all my BDSM/D&D analogies?

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