MystressDream
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Joined: 7/11/2004 From: Colorado Status: offline
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ORIGINAL: DiannaVesta As you probably already know, you will always have to confront shit like this. You can’t justify or make good common sense to people who have no clue and shrouded with ignorance. Once they have this agenda wild horses won’t change their mind. Even if they say, “Oh yeah, that makes sense!” The reality is that they will never really understand. I have spent years and years making contributions to the community. Countless venues, articles, workshops, groups, free sites, way too many damn emails. There are the people that appreciate what you do, learn from it and then there are the people that want to pick it apart and find something evil. Its an aspect of human nature I hate but nonetheless part of our existence. I hate seeing such a beautiful and intelligent woman as yourself (and the other truly incredible Goddesses that SPEND their precious fucking time being here in the first place) waste your time to defend any of this. I understand why you do and I’ve also been up on that soap box. My profile clearly states that I charge a fee for training. Nope, not a pro domme but and experienced lifestyle mistress that accepts student for a journey. Call it what you will but that I my platform. So I give them my web site and after they actually READ that they have to PAY money to talk to me I get these nasty ass, ignorant replies about NOT being real, only in it for the money, blah blah. “But Goddess I am applying for a domestic servant to make YOUR world better. A full time 24/7 slave.” Yeah right! 95% (or higher) of the ALL people (yes even here with all the REAL lifestyle people) haven’t a clue what that really means. Sometimes I read these threads and shake my head. WTF? They honestly have no idea what goes into building a well balanced D/s relationship, ESPECIALLY one that integrates the lifestyle. So I am learning to do what I do in the state I live in now (Virginia) filled with hardcore conservative bible thumping prejudice beings… I smile, say “God Bless you too.” and I walk away. I don’t let it ruffles my feather… I mean I try not to - lol- and I remind myself that it’s the journey they are on. Big, small, right, wrong- we all are on one and the only thing you can really do is live as an example of what you truly believe. You're absolutely right, which is no surprise. I have to wonder if I have a masochistic streak when I click on threads that are obviously bashing pro dommes. I can't remember the exact term, but there's something like Skinner's law of intermittent reward that explains why people play slot machines, wear down their beaks on little levers and only occasionally get some seeds, or continue to argue with complete strangers whose minds are made up. After 11 years in my own community, full of people who had very set ideas about what a pro domme is and isn't, I've had so many conversations with people who've told me some variation of, "You know, I used to think X about pro dommes, but after getting to know you, I've had to completely rethink all that. I'm sorry, and thank you for your patience." It only happens a couple of times a year, but it feels so good, I keep up with the repetitive behavior that yields questionably adequate rewards. It also feels good to say "up yours" to a smug jerk now and then. MsSaskia gets those kinds of comments from people in our community because of the person she is. They see the quality, and the dedication to this community, and appreciate it. She is very knowledgable, and is willing to share her expertise by way of demos and presentations. She is appreciated and brings respect to what some very close minded people didn't believe was a respectful profession. It's why I send submissives her way when they appear to need the services of a pro rather than a relationship with a lifestyle Domme. Count me as one of the local people who respect her.... for what she does, and for who she is.
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