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ORIGINAL: gypsygrl

I stopped wearing a bra for him.  That took some getting used to but now when I have to wear a bra for some reason, its a pain in the butt. 

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ORIGINAL: darchChylde

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ORIGINAL: gypsygrl

I stopped wearing a bra for him.  That took some getting used to but now when I have to wear a bra for some reason, its a pain in the butt. 

i'm thinking that if wearing a bra is a pain in the butt, you probably aren't putting it on right. *wink*

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ORIGINAL: ownedgirlie

Maybe that's why it's a pain!

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ORIGINAL: darchChylde

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ORIGINAL: gypsygrl

I stopped wearing a bra for him.  That took some getting used to but now when I have to wear a bra for some reason, its a pain in the butt. 

i'm thinking that if wearing a bra is a pain in the butt, you probably aren't putting it on right. *wink*

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ORIGINAL: nothing4ever

I am actually a female. I do not understand this. It is JUST hair & it will grow back... to me anyway. So to say it's just men who don't get it is oh so wrong.

Smiles.

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ORIGINAL: bamabbwsub

As someone who has had both long hair and short hair, my opinion on the topic is this, stated from a woman's perspective -- although I suppose it could go either way:

For me, when a man (Dom or not) asks me to change my hair, or to change the way I dress, I may view that as the first step in a long line of requests to change ME. Subtle things, like "Cut your hair" or "Wear this kind of dress" can eventually lead up to other, more substantial changes that can end up making a woman feel as though she isn't good enough -- pretty enough, classy enough, etc. -- for her man. After all, when a woman first meets a man and he is attracted to her, isn't he attracted to her hair, face, body, clothing, etc.? The whole package? So when he asks her to start changing things about herself, I believe it tends to undermine her self-confidence and she starts to ponder why he's asking her to change at all. Is he attracted to a woman with shorter hair and wants her to emulate that? Or is he the jealous type and doesn't want her to be attractive to other men, so he tries to make her less attractive by changing her hairstyle or style of dress? Also, I believe that asking a woman to ADD things -- piercings, tattoos, etc. -- doesn't quite have the same effect as changing what already exists.

I once dated a man who declared that he didn't want me to wear make-up. Believe me -- I NEED the make-up!! But to please him, I complied and went au naturel on the face. When he saw me without the make-up (probably even forgetting that he'd even asked), he said, "Do you feel okay? You look sick." LOL That did wonders for my ego, and from then on, I continued to wear make-up.

So...maybe the issue of refusing the request to cut one's hair isn't about the hair at all. It's about maintaining self-confidence, or even perhaps a measure of control not to lose the identity that the person had at the beginning of a relationship. After all, if you liked me when we first met and I had long hair (or short hair), why do you now want to change me?

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ORIGINAL: ForcefuIHands

This is a bit of a random post but after talking to a fellow Dominant about our own choice of hair styling, an interesting subject arose. There's a bit of an unusual hard limit out there, and it deals with hair.

Let me say, I am a fan of short hair on girls. Not that I expect anything as sheared as a buzz cut, but I like to see the shoulders and neck. A good rule would be enough to get a fist full. But, in reflection, every sub has posted an objection to the idea of getting a hair cut. I find this suddenly amusing. There have been less objections to piercings, tattoos, spanking, humiliation, nasty names, and roughly every depraved thing one can imagine. The minute you suggest cutting someone's hair, welcome to a new limit. I suppose a piercing heals, but a bad haircut feels like forever?

I think they should add this to the limits lists, and in curiosity, I want to know if anyone else has stories related to their locks, or the loss thereof. So, question, girls: Would you let a Dominant choose your hairstyle?

We'll say they make a salon trip out of it, a professional cut, and not just grabbing a pair of scissors. Cheers!