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RE: Dommes & penetration - 8/21/2004 5:54:48 PM

Madame

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Goodness .. when I tie the sub's balls up with ace bandages .. make him get hard by his own hand .. push his legs together and fuck him on Top with my back to his face .. That's submitting.

The thing .. the toy .. the slut ..
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RE: Dommes & penetration - 8/31/2006 7:08:09 PM

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I remember hearing someone say once that the vagina consumes the penis. Maybe think of it like that?

Bravo!

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RE: Dommes & penetration - 8/31/2006 9:05:57 PM

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ORIGINAL: LadyAngelika

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ORIGINAL: subman29
I've actually been talking about this early on in my discussions with potentials and I find their reaction to the topic has been very telling.

Yes? What sort of reactions have you been getting?

Well I've realised that most of the men who get uncomfortable with the idea of penetrating their Domme where not allowed to do it with another Domme they had a significant relationship with. Which brings me to the idea of unlearning behaviours...

I feel another thread coming on in General BDSM....

- LA

*Laughs* - I was one of those Dommes that never permitted it. For several years, I immensely enjoyed orgasm control/chastity, denial and cuckolding. I had no desire to engage any of My own subs, and as I seemed at the time to attract those with a 'Fem superiority' slant, they wouldn't have expected Me to ask that of them. Suffice to say they, as mentioned earlier in the replies, would have had difficulty performing even if requested.

It was just My headspace at the time, I suppose, coupled with the fact that these were servitude relationships, not situations I considered a 'personal', intimate relationship.

My most recent playmate was the first one I had any desire to pounce upon, and I'd agree with your quote above wholeheartedly, LA. It took him several months to wrap his mind around the idea that it was truly what I wanted, but I think he was pleasantly surprised.

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RE: Dommes & penetration - 8/31/2006 9:11:59 PM

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I love penetration and I will have it as I like it as often as I want it. I don't feel that penetration is a "dominant" act, I feel its me telling him to put that thang in there and get it going. I want to cum and I don't want any excuses, afterall he's MY lifesize fucktoy and I'll use him.

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RE: Dommes & penetration - 9/1/2006 1:15:54 AM

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greetings

i prefare a male not to have sex with me, this is a personal thing, i am his domme and he is my slave he has not right to my ktten but to kiss it and make me happy i agree with you sub.
i too have had males write to me and tell me or ask me if i mind them not having sex with me i have told many no way some leave other like the control part and the sumission of the thought of now having sex with me. i think it is ok very much so unless i fall in love then i may think of it but i still will not do it

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RE: Dommes & penetration - 9/1/2006 3:59:15 AM

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ORIGINAL: Lashra

I love penetration and I will have it as I like it as often as I want it. I don't feel that penetration is a "dominant" act, I feel its me telling him to put that thang in there and get it going. I want to cum and I don't want any excuses, afterall he's MY lifesize fucktoy and I'll use him.

~Lashra

This is the first time I've seen Your pic, Lashra.

I knew You were hot! <eg>

OK, hijack over. *snort*

~Thea

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RE: Dommes & penetration - 9/1/2006 4:03:10 AM

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I agree with Miss Lashra. I read what others have written on this subject. I do appreciate their thoughts. I do understand that each Domme is different. I am a submissive servant and I am here to serve a Domme’s needs. The power is not in the act itself but her telling me what she wants me to do. She is in control and I submit to her will.

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RE: Dommes & penetration - 9/1/2006 4:43:04 AM

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Thanks

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RE: Dommes & penetration - 9/1/2006 4:57:56 PM

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I do agree I really like your photo too, Miss Lashra.

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RE: Dommes & penetration - 9/1/2006 5:06:40 PM

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ORIGINAL: MistressTheaZ

My most recent playmate was the first one I had any desire to pounce upon, and I'd agree with your quote above wholeheartedly, LA. It took him several months to wrap his mind around the idea that it was truly what I wanted, but I think he was pleasantly surprised.

Lucky man.... If only I lived in New York, I'd teach him a lesson he wouldn't soon forget! (1+1=2, 2+2=4 etc.)

Yours,

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RE: Dommes & penetration - 9/1/2006 5:45:22 PM

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I agree with you Lashra (and what a lovely photo btw).

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RE: Dommes & penetration - 9/1/2006 10:43:23 PM

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G'morning all:

*waves cheerily to Angelika* Lovely to see you again. You were missed.

As to your topic; I don't feel in the least bit less in control because I enjoy straight sex. My boy knows it's for my gratification, no matter what the activity, position, duration, what have you. Then again, I'm not a high protocol dominant nor am I rigid in my interpretations about D/s. It's more about the mental energy that's exchanged, for me.

A lot of what of people perceive as "correct" or "acceptable" is simply a product of their upbringing and in our case (female dominants), the typical role reversal of the power dynamic is to deny or limit sexual interaction. As if we have to become ice queens to establish our dominance. Phooie. Making love is an intergral part of my relationship. I couldn't dream of having a long term romantic involvement without physical intimacy. In the end? Follow the sage advice of one of my co-workers "You do you.".

Stay safe, play nice, & share your toys w/ others...

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RE: Dommes & penetration - 9/2/2006 3:37:43 PM

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MistressZanthia ... you go girl. Been there done that. Only the flip side. It was a female slave who was a tad (okay more than a tad) bigger than I am. Which was never a problem and never will be. The point. she had those same problems, that she would be in control by shear size ... NOT IN THIS LIFETIME *lol*. I had a very good time showing her the problem with that thinking. Much the same as with men ... do the front, do the back and perhaps some rope, paddle and the cage. Use Your imagination ... as always.

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RE: Dommes & penetration - 9/3/2006 4:53:33 PM

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Hello All,
Some very good insights into, everyone has the right way for them, Me not excluded...I agree with Most of the Ladies here...It is My way, how I say and (generic) you are not thru until I dismiss you.....No matter the itch, I have to be scratched....It ends when I am satiaded. If you are Very pleasing....I am known for generous rewards...chuckles wickedly here.....severe chastisement otherwise .... bois tend to learn quicker that way. Indeed I do and have enjoyed before the flogging rythm method....again My way.

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RE: Dommes & penetration - 9/4/2006 11:03:39 AM

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For me penetration a Mistress is something I have to earn.

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RE: Dommes & penetration - 9/4/2006 11:28:01 AM

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I have found this discussion very interesting. I have recieved an influx of many emails from subs/slaves that are looking for a Domme. I read profiles along with the emails and it always perplexes me that the majority of them all have this laundry list of thier demands things they like, dislike without even being asked. If they were a true sub/slave then they would only have on their profile is thier experiences and a note saying whatever you wish. So why is this an issue?

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RE: Dommes & penetration - 5/14/2007 4:15:47 AM

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I know that I am submissive in nature. Most of my authorities in my life were and are women. I feel most comfortable to submit to a woman’s rule. I feel that I can still be a submissive servant and obey my Mistress. My heart desire is to please my Mistress in all things. I feel she would always be in control and would tell me when, where and how she wants me.

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RE: Dommes & penetration - 5/14/2007 4:37:56 AM

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hmmm

this one has been resurrected twice in it's nearly 3 yr life

Is that a record?

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RE: Dommes & penetration - 5/14/2007 11:25:00 PM

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ORIGINAL: LadyAngelika

I’ve had mixed feeling regarding this topic for a while now. So I open it up to all of you for your feedback. Let me explain a little further.

When I was 27, I had a male sub my own age who told me that he would find it sacrilegious to penetrate me with his penis, that since he accepted male submission, he realised he gave up his right to ever penetrate another woman, as that would be a form of dominating her. At the time, I was quite perplexed. Since him I met a few men who have a similar perspective, though not so extreme. I don’t necessarily agree with this. And on another level, I don’t disagree entirely.

I’ve reduced men to the state of a toy (either tying them up or making them remain immobile), referring to them as nothing more then a dildo for my pleasure. I’ve also strapped face harnesses with dildos to male & female subs. So far, I still feel in control. But what about straight up fucking? I’m not one to limit myself but I’m trying to reconcile the idea of a man actively fucking me and still retaining control. I know control is a mental thing and the act should never override the dynamic… Anyhow, as I said, I have mixed feelings about this.

This may seem basic for some of you. This might be something you struggle or have struggled with as well. I’m eager to hear your perspectives/suggestions.

- LA

Isn't a dominant woman the same whether on all fours, her back or squatting? If he gets your juices flowing honey, just take him. Anyway that feels good.

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RE: Dommes & penetration - 5/15/2007 11:25:32 AM

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There's nothing that says that heterosexual missionary position sex has to be experienced by either partner as:

1. Having any kind of D/s flavor at all. The underlying dynamic can be two people who love each other and relate as friends and equals giving each other pleasure.

2. Having a specifically male dominant D/s flavor if there is a D/s flavor.

I promise that lying back on comfy pillows and relaxing while your boy crawls up to service you, with a riding crop or a cane firmly in your hand to apply to his backside as a means of timing his strokes to best please you, does not lend the interaction any kind of male dominant dynamic whatsoever.

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