kyraofMists
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ORIGINAL: dragon2760 i have talked to quite a few ppl about this, dom and sub alike, and the majority agree that yes safewords are mandatory in the very beginings of a relationship and especially for casual play. Of course communications should be allowed too. Why should someone else have total control over determining when something doesn't feel right to me? Who better to know than me?? Fair enough; I am not part of that majority. We don't play casually, at least not casually by our definition. We never had safewords, even in the beginning. Our preference is direct communication and not a code word that may be forgotten when things start going bad. For us, it isn't about him being omniscient and knowing when something doesn't feel right to me, though he does a damn good job of reading my body language, it is about effective communication and code words are not our preference. Of course, in play, I am there for his pleasure most times and the less I am enjoying things, the more enjoyment he gets out of it. Knight's Kyra
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"Passion... it lies in all of us. Sleeping, waiting, and though unbidden, it will stir, open its jaws, and howl. It speaks to us, guides us... passion rules us all. And we obey..." ~Angelus
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