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gangbangs - 6/22/2008 10:37:56 AM

hisdarlinsweetie

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My Sir has set up a gangbang for next weekend. I have never done anything like this and feel a little apprehensive. He knows that I am a little scared and is very supportive. He is not "making" me do this; but it was his idea and he has done all the work involved with setting it up (i.e. finding and then screening the participants, scheduling, etc.). While the idea of it is intriguing, it is not something I would have chosen for myself. He is inviting 7 with the thought that only 4 or 5 will show up. He will be there, keeping me safe physically and emotionally. Safe sex will be practiced.
I would like to hear from subs who have done something like this. I am especially interested in those who, like me, were a little apprehensive before it happened. Thanks for all your responses.

RE: gangbangs - 6/22/2008 11:13:33 AM

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All I can say is...
Eat lightly before hand...
Make sure plenty of towels and water is on hand...
and goodluck...there is nothing wrong with backing out if you feel too uneasy about the situation.

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RE: gangbangs - 6/22/2008 12:10:47 PM

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I'd like to voyeur on that scene! LOL!

If you're really uncomfortable, don't do it. If you are a little uncomfortable, wear a blindfold. ;)

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RE: gangbangs - 6/22/2008 12:16:25 PM

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quote:

My Sir has set up a gangbang for next weekend. I have never done anything like this and feel a little apprehensive. He knows that I am a little scared and is very supportive. He is not "making" me do this; but it was his idea and he has done all the work involved with setting it up (i.e. finding and then screening the participants, scheduling, etc.). While the idea of it is intriguing, it is not something I would have chosen for myself. He is inviting 7 with the thought that only 4 or 5 will show up. He will be there, keeping me safe physically and emotionally. Safe sex will be practiced.
I would like to hear from subs who have done something like this. I am especially interested in those who, like me, were a little apprehensive before it happened. Thanks for all your responses.

darlin,

Unless this is something that you have asked for, I recommend that you do not go forth. Trust me that at some time in the future it will bit you both in the ass.

CP

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RE: gangbangs - 6/22/2008 12:21:09 PM

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Oooh, now I want to hear the story behind this, CP.

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RE: gangbangs - 6/22/2008 12:31:30 PM

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I don't understand your apprehension. I am a real slut, I like the idea of my master commanding me to serve another or more. I am his to do what he pleases with, that is what pleases me. I also know that just 2 guys at one time can be one hell of a physical workout, so trust would be most important. Maybe your apprehension is coming from that.

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RE: gangbangs - 6/22/2008 1:27:18 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: GimpinDenial

All I can say is...
Eat lightly before hand...
Make sure plenty of towels and water is on hand...
and goodluck...there is nothing wrong with backing out if you feel too uneasy about the situation.

Dont forget the lube.

CD

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RE: gangbangs - 6/22/2008 1:59:15 PM

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Thanks for all the responses. Celtic Prince, I am wondering about your comment. As I said in my original post, it was not something I asked for or initiated, but am (at least on the fantasy level) interested in. My Sir knows this. He is not making me do it, as much as he has assumed I will. I belong to him and do the things he asks of me. I think my fear is what you (Celtic Prince) is referring to...that it may change our relationship for the worse. I have talked to my Sir about this and he assures me that this experience will only make him love me more and be more proud to have me as his.

To Ellsa, I love serving my Sir, but I've never done something like this. I don't exactly know what to expect (although I have researched it a bit because I am a total nerd and research everything). I don't exactly know how I'll feel about it. I have both the fear of hating it and of liking it. I'm scared that I'll think negatively about myself afterwards. Plus, he's planning on having me do a dp during this, which is also a first for me. (I'm afraid it's going to hurt. I have experience in anal, and enjoy it with my Sir, but anal seems much more intimate and dirty.)

I'm not going to back out of this. I am going to be blindfolded. I know he will keep me safe physically and he'll take care of me emotionally.

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RE: gangbangs - 6/22/2008 2:12:09 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: hisdarlinsweetie
I have talked to my Sir about this and he assures me that this experience will only make him love me more and be more proud to have me as his.

Has he done this before? Because if he hasn't his assurances could have nothing to do with it. He could end up pleased as punch afterwards, or actually seeing it done could change your relationship forever. Until it happens he has no idea what his reaction will be. I've seen it happen over and over in the community. Guys want to see the woman in their life be a slut for someone else and once they see it, affection turns into distaste.

So, you could be fine, or it's possible you won't.

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RE: gangbangs - 6/22/2008 2:18:50 PM

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chia* pet rips off his shirt and wipes his lips.

"Aaaaaaaaaa essay, you want a piece of this, huh essay?"

I'm sorry.

It's about what?

Ohhhh, I thought the vatos were throwin down.

Nevermind.

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RE: gangbangs - 6/22/2008 2:21:50 PM

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And the trust?
I just read your profile, and on top of this situation you find so daunting, he wants you to find him another sub.
Hmmm.
Sounds like you are gonna be a busy girl.

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RE: gangbangs - 6/22/2008 2:34:50 PM

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Here's how this story is going to go. He is going to be all full of himself as the guys show up because HE is the one with the pussy and they aren't. It is going to be a lot of fun, hot fantasy.

Doesn't sound like the woman is going to have any trouble, seven guys isn't that many
So, at some point the woman is going to just lose it into orgasm and such
Then one of them is going to have a bigger dick than he has
Woman is going to be grinding her cunt down on some big cock like a bitch in heat
Dom is going to go from hot stud to bystander and not like it

Ever after he is going to look at her and see a woman who "wanted" someone more than she wants him
Relationship spirals apart
Lots of new forum fodder
The end...

Hopefully I am wrong. To me, it doesn't sound like the guy understands the dynamics of doing this and is fulfilling a fantasy of his and is about to find out making fantasies come true is sometimes a nightmare. You have to be really secure with yourself and your partner to watch a line of guys fuck the shit out of her because if she is into it, she is going to be into it. I have done enough of that stuff to have a decent understanding of the dynamics and make adjustments but if you don't know the pitfalls it is hard to avoid them.

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RE: gangbangs - 6/22/2008 3:57:58 PM

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i have to say i'm not a big fan of gangbangs.. a few years back my gf (yea it was vanilla) wanted us to be in a gangbang.. So we went over to one of our neighbors house and there were 6 guys there.. we had some drinks and watched some porn.. The whole time i was semi interested but once we actually started having sex with the guys i was so disgusted with myself (and my gf) that i just got up, got dressed and cried.. But then again i am more of the kind of person that feels there has to be "something" there in order to sleep with someone..

That was just my experience i hope whatever choice you make makes you happy..

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RE: gangbangs - 6/22/2008 4:08:32 PM

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what if one of them doesnt want to wear condom and you get pregnant or an std?

advise is against....dont do it. its his fantasy not yours. he is not at risk of anything.

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RE: gangbangs - 6/22/2008 4:59:38 PM

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To me the main crux is the guy- being a handler in a gang bang situation is a delicate and necessary position in a lot of gang bangs, specially if he's never done one with them before. Not that it can't be done well, just that it adds a higher level of risk.

And considering it's not something you've actively wanted, it's really impossible to say how it will be for you, today or a week after the event. You could bliss out, you could be bored, or you could completely crumble.

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RE: gangbangs - 6/22/2008 6:41:57 PM

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Thank you for the responses. Just to be clear, the condom thing is not an issue. If someone doesn't want to wear one, they won't be participating. I'm not worried about his role or reaction to the gang bang. He is very secure as a man and in our relationship. He is hoping that I enjoy it and doesn't see that as a contridiction to adoring him or belonging to him. I guess I am mostly worried about how I will handle it and was hoping that I could get responses from subs who have gone through the same thing. Ferriemistie, thanks for your input. We won't be drinking, using any kind of drugs, or watching porn. I do worry that I will feel bad about myself or as LA said, "crumble" later on. I know my Sir will support me if this happens, but if there is any "tricks" to preparing myself mentally, I'd love to know them.

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RE: gangbangs - 6/22/2008 7:03:28 PM

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Its perfectly normal to be nervous about things that are new. Look inside yourself and see if you are nervous because its something you've never done before or because its something you don't want to do.
If its nerves because its something new, and therefore unknown, but still exciting then trust your Sir and enjoy the experience as you stated He will take care of you physically and emotionally.
If it is upsetting to you because its not actually something YOU want to do - then talk with him about it and call off or postpone the event.

That's my two cents anyway. I've never been involved in a gangbang - but it sounds delightful and frightening at the same time to me. If my Sir asked me to do it I would - and I'd trust that he was going to be there and take care of me.

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RE: gangbangs - 6/22/2008 7:33:56 PM

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Having witnessed a Gang Bang scene in an open Dungeon go really bad, I say to you rape is no appropriate sacrifice. . Respect yourself. You deserve better.
Don't let love get in the way of commen sence.
I saw a Dom take over a a scene in a Dungeon. It was horrible.
Totally unexcetable even if you want to do it. It degrades women beyond their lowest possible image of themselves.
BTW, this male Dom had a flogger with studs on it using it on all the sub/slaves. The Domme in charge could not get him off of them. He was hitting them in the kneck and sides which you are not to do especially with a studded flogger. And, when the energy level gets high, strange things happen.
I would run.

Regards, MissSCD

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RE: gangbangs - 6/22/2008 7:49:20 PM

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Wow.... MissSCD.... wouldn't it be legitimate to say that some women enjoy this type of play? And who decided that it is degrading to women? Was there a women of the world meeting when this was decided on that I missed?
Its all in perception - and to judge this on one scene that went wrong isn't really fair.
Furthermore, I don't recall talking about rape IF she decides that this is something that she wants to participate in then she is consenting to the event and consenting to have sex with these men.... that's not rape.

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RE: gangbangs - 6/22/2008 8:07:25 PM

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Angel, I think you nailed my feelings in my first post. I'm scared because I've never done this before and I don't know how I will react. I'm both a little scared and a little turned on by the prospect.
Miss SCD, I know that my Sir will keep me safe. If the scene starts going bad, he will end it immediately. And I know he can and will. Your remarks about how being used in a gang bang is totally degrading to women are what society tells us. And, a little of my fear is that I will feel this after the fact. Not because it will be true, but because I grew up in America and have been inundated with the message that this type of thing is degrading to women. Even though intellectually I know that this is not degrading and that my Sir is not going to think of me differently (except maybe more proud to have me as his), I am still emotionally working through the fact that I can still be "good" and do this. I've worked through this same feeling with my desire in other forms of play my Sir and I engage in. My Sir has no desire to degrade me. He's made it clear to the participants that I will be treated with respect, both physically and verbally.

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