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RE: Putting an OL collar on a slave - 6/27/2008 1:06:09 PM

LordODiscipline

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By the way - when you ask people for advice - you are bound to get some.

Just because you do not like the advice does not mean it is not valid.

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ORIGINAL: LordODiscipline

Male dominant's point of view:

I agree with the female dominants and the female submissives:

This sitiation is screwed.

Try getting to know her a bit in real life - ensure she is not attached - do not go after this collaring like your sex life was depending on it; but go after it like your world mattered more than a piece of tail (which incidentally sounds like it is just bringing trouble your way).

Just a suggestion from a male dominant POV

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ORIGINAL: pr5sa1

Is there any male doms that can give me their point of view?

A fem Doms POV is really different, and while I thank them for there advice I am looking for a male masters response.

Thnk you.

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RE: Putting an OL collar on a slave - 6/27/2008 1:06:24 PM

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ORIGINAL: RedMagic1

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ORIGINAL: Madame4a

I'm in but do you know how to say this:

Mmmmmaybe. You'll have to work on Lynx though. She doesn't like me "that" way. It's too bad, because she's one of the smartest posters on the message boards, so I'm smitten.

Flattery will get you no here!! Well... it might... O.o

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RE: Putting an OL collar on a slave - 6/27/2008 1:23:14 PM

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The online collar seems to be the equivilant of "YEAH! We're going steady." (JMO)

A real life collar (almost always) has far more significance, thus the less than positive nature of some of the posts.

I would think it must be very difficult to go from online to real life, I wish the two of you the best.

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RE: Putting an OL collar on a slave - 6/27/2008 1:46:03 PM

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ORIGINAL: Lynnxz
Flattery will get you no here!! Well... it might... O.o

Holy shit!

Completely serious: you, BoiJen and MadRabbit are my favorite under-age-25 posters. How you got so good with "so little" life experience is astounding. I swear, the three of you put together would have enough brains to take over the world.

Also serious: I'm taking a date to M's wedding next week. Of course, she's bi. (So's M. She told me that my date "sounds delicious."

) Atlanta's not close to DC, but a more important potential obstacle for me would be to ensure that my really-wanna-do-it playdate not get in the way of a potential relationship. So for now, who knows? I sure am flattered, though.

Maybe the flirting earlier was a thread hijack, but this sure has gotten on point. Real life is better than online any day, and it's better to go one step at a time, instead of wearing an online collar as a virtual trophy.

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RE: Putting an OL collar on a slave - 6/27/2008 2:02:30 PM

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I suppose my question here is...why do you need to have your actions validated by other Dominant Men?(seeing as how those without "dangly bits" are invalid to you) If you want the girl to have an online collar and she is going to respect it, won't that be enough?

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RE: Putting an OL collar on a slave - 6/27/2008 2:19:01 PM

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*looks in the mirror... yep D type*
*looks down his pants ... yep meat and two veg*

Guess that "qualifies me to answer ... so .....

What does a collar mean to you, is it some bauble to hand out to anyone who happens to catch your eye or who answers an email ? Does a collar mean anything more to you than a declaration of "hands off she's mine" ? To me it sounds like you barely have the first frigging clue what you want, what you need or even how to go about getting it never mind keeping it.

You came here asking for advice, well the previous posters have spelled out their advice and I have just one more piece to add ... Stop ignoring the advice you are given just because it doesn't fit with what you want to hear. When you ask for advice you are asking (supposedly) to gain others insights into thing, not for some validation of your own damn choices .... if you need someone to validate your choices, buy a glove puppet and learn ventriloquism and you'll always have the answer you want.

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RE: Putting an OL collar on a slave - 6/27/2008 3:07:16 PM

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ORIGINAL: LordODiscipline

"Anyone who thinks they're important is usually just a pompous moron who can't deal with his or her own pathetic insignificance and the fact that what they do is meaningless and inconsequential."
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RE: Putting an OL collar on a slave - 6/27/2008 3:17:04 PM

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ORIGINAL: kaylana
but im in chats alot and i wouldnt mind an OL collar letting everyone knwo i was his.

Why? Do you consider yourself "his" now? Is it just giddyness and wanting to say "lookie lookie, someone owns me!"?? Are you unable to control yourself in chat without an imaginary title to back you up? (the imaginary title being "collared online")?

If you want to be his, then be his. Say he is your Dominant or Master. But an online collar? Seriously? Does an online engagement, an online wedding, and an online honeymoon sound good too?

What are you going to do if it doesn't work out in two weeks? Take off your imaginary collar and imagine giving it back to him?

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RE: Putting an OL collar on a slave - 6/27/2008 3:31:05 PM

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ORIGINAL: pr5sa1

Yes please read the whole story before answering this. There are some on here that are reading nd responding but haven't read a response I had posted about that slave/sub. I am sure it will become clearer to them not to spek without knowing the whole story first. GO BACK AND READ MY RESPONSE FROM YESTERDAY. Then give advise.

Thank you.

Wait a minute. You're asking questions in the forum without giving all the info someone would need to give you advice, and now we have homework we have to do before answering?
Really?
Wow.

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RE: Putting an OL collar on a slave - 6/27/2008 3:53:01 PM

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ORIGINAL: SlaveOwnerDave

The weirdness here is reaching political proportions.

Sincerely,
Master Dave

{Quick post}

that made me laugh, i love that line!!!

heres a submissives point of view -

no matter how perfectly wonderfully 'real' it all feels, take it from me, until you meet a person in the flesh you cannot possibly know if the chemistry will work. the intensity of the internet is well know, youre desire to own a sub is strong and right now youre in that delicious rose tinted state of thrall.

however, if she is in a position to accept your on-line collar and you both feel it would enhance the moment, for now, theres no harm in it - but just be aware that until you meet everything is still in the mix. it wont make the chemistry any more or less likely to work, it wont make her yours if she decides after meeting you that it isnt going to work, the thing isnt set in stone - and for that reason its somewhat pointless -

kaylana (hope ive spelt that right) - i dont know a great deal about on-line collaring, but i would suspect its something that on-line relationships go in for, more than r/l. theres nothing wrong in wanting to feel owned and protected, its perfectly normal for s/types to want that. but it is just a status symbol in the end, and a status that really doesnt mean a whole hill of anything much until you guys meet. do not think that just because he has collared you that you are automatically obliged to continue as his sub if it doesnt feel right... ok? collaring, in real life, real time has heavy and meaningful symbolism to it - its like a wedding ring, there is no comparison to what you two are wanting to do and the connection of two D/s people who have been in a long term real life relationship, sometimes for years before a collar is given. so long as that is clear in your head then theres no harm in it, just be sure that it holds you to nothing until you meet and you are sure enough that it is safe and sensible to continue.

do not be bamboozled into thinking that just because you have been given an on-line collar you are his sub. it is your decision as much as his and if it doesnt feel right you can still walk away with no harm done and no obligation to him. i hope you both realise that and that he has told you this.

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RE: Putting an OL collar on a slave - 6/27/2008 4:09:46 PM

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Real question....do online collars fall off if you lose power in a thunderstorm or God forbid....you accidently hit that little "x"?

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RE: Putting an OL collar on a slave - 6/27/2008 4:13:36 PM

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This is exactly why I prefer online branding.

Oh wait, nevermind.

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RE: Putting an OL collar on a slave - 6/27/2008 4:20:26 PM

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ORIGINAL: Thadius

This is exactly why I prefer online branding.

oooooOOOOOooooo.....you're sooooo kinky!!!!

I never met an online edge player before!

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RE: Putting an OL collar on a slave - 6/27/2008 4:27:04 PM

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ORIGINAL: mistoferin

Real question....do online collars fall off if you lose power in a thunderstorm or God forbid....you accidently hit that little "x"?

im pretty sure the fantasy fairy hits the delete button and it all goes 'poufff'

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RE: Putting an OL collar on a slave - 6/27/2008 4:51:52 PM

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Get yourself a keyboard with those squiggly brackets on it. Better yet, get two such keyboards and present one to her.

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RE: Putting an OL collar on a slave - 6/27/2008 4:53:48 PM

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ORIGINAL: pr5sa1

Yes please read the whole story before answering this. There are some on here that are reading nd responding but haven't read a response I had posted about that slave/sub. I am sure it will become clearer to them not to spek without knowing the whole story first. GO BACK AND READ MY RESPONSE FROM YESTERDAY. Then give advise.

Thank you.

Wait a minute. You're asking questions in the forum without giving all the info someone would need to give you advice, and now we have homework we have to do before answering?
Really?
Wow.

Exactly.

pr5sa1, do you realize what you're doing?

1. You're giving us a crazy soap opera. The stories change day to day. Then you refuse to organize it for us, and tell us to go and sort through your weirdness yourself. And you shout at us, no less.

2. You specifically say that you don't want to hear from females. If your situation was gender specific, that might have some validity. But it isn't.

3. You say that you want to give her an online collar, and then you ask what it means. Wrong order. FIRST you figure out what you want to do with her and THEN you figure out how to do it. Your situation is the equivalent of some guy picking up a hammer and then telling folks you're a carpenter and - what's the hammer used for?

4. I disagree with those who state that an online collar means nothing. That said, it DOES mean nothing if you don't have a solid basis for a relationship.

That said, you're the Dom and she seems willing to do whatever you say. Decide what you want the collar to mean and tell her that's what it is. You're the Dom, right?

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RE: Putting an OL collar on a slave - 6/27/2008 5:01:37 PM

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*SNERK*

Did you ask her Master if you could put this pretend collar on her?

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RE: Putting an OL collar on a slave - 6/27/2008 7:23:35 PM

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This is exactly why I prefer online branding.

Okay, that was a good one!

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RE: Putting an OL collar on a slave - 6/27/2008 7:32:42 PM

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ORIGINAL: pr5sa1

Hi,

I am potentially considering Kaylana for my slave. I would like to give her an OL collar first. Is there any advise anyone can give me on how to do this. I will be seeing her in 2 weeks in person. But I would still would like to pursue an OL collar for her.

I am open to any advice,

Thank you.

Why do you want to collar someone whom you are only considering? Online or offline, it seems to me that a committment of that magnitude should be done with thoughtfulness and full consideration of the consequences. My advice is make the decision, first, if you want her as your slave or not, decide what a collar means to you then, make her earn it so it has meaning to her as well.

MMV

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RE: Putting an OL collar on a slave - 6/27/2008 7:35:13 PM

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This is exactly why I prefer online branding.

Okay, that was a good one!

I want someone to paint my house online-It would be very interesting to see how THAT turned out.

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