SylvereApLeanan
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Joined: 11/1/2007 From: Hell Status: offline
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ORIGINAL: BlackPhx Hmmm there is something I really need to think about on this thread and I would like to hear from others, especially those who don't tolerate a lie.. IF your sub/slave knows something or has information that you don't and you force them to agree with you despite that knowlege or experience..is that a lie that you are now going to tolerate because you have forced that issue despite their trying to inform you of other factors? A facetious example: You believe you told them about something you were planning to do. The sub states that you didn't and were hurt by the fact that you didn't inform them according to your contract with them. You are certain you did and insist that you are correct. After several go rounds the sub finally agrees even though they know you didn't... At that point they have lied in order to appease you... Should they stand their ground and cause a rift that way, or refer to rule One Master/Mistress is always right and Rule Two..If Master/Mistress is wrong, see Rule One, thereby being forced into a lie to comply? poenkitten I expect my girl to tell me if she knows something I don't. Since she's incredibly bright and has degrees in political science and philosophy, the odds of her having more or better information than I do about certain subjects is pretty high. I'd be doing us both a disservice if I didn't listen to what she had to say. I might not agree with her at first, but if she can back up her statements with solid evidence, then I'll listen. She would never agree with me for the sake of agreement and I wouldn't expect it. I can't imagine a situation like the one you describe ever getting to the point of stooping to lies. I have so much going on in my life that it's easy to forget things. I'm queen of the To-Do list and the sticky note. One of my sub's regular duties is to remind me of things I need to accomplish. Of course, it's just as easy for the sub to forget something. You could be dead sure that I failed to mention Plan 9, but that doesn't mean it's true. Or I could be sure that I did, but I could be in error. Mistakes happen; they don't necessarily equal lies. In the case of a situation like this, I expect that we'd both agree that either of us might have forgotten and let it go before it caused a rift in the relationship. There's no need to lie about it. If you feel the need to lie, then I'd say there's a bigger problem that needs to be addressed.
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Sylverë Dark Muse 30 Fluffy Points Grumpy Cat is my spirit animal. Shadow Governess & Mean Girl "There's something that doesn't make sense. Let's go and poke it with a stick."— The Doctor
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