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RE: Advice for New Dominants - 9/20/2016 5:19:46 PM   
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ORIGINAL: angelikaJ



In my dynamic with [my] Master, spanking is definitely a reward.




Mine too. We engage in kink because it's fun.


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RE: Advice for New Dominants - 9/21/2016 7:58:42 AM   
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None are verified, except for my wife. This verification consumed resources - I do not recommend it to all.


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RE: Advice for New Dominants - 10/4/2016 4:06:44 AM   
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ORIGINAL: verchae

Usually we think of spanking as a punishment, but many slaves get excited and hard when spanked... so is it really a punishment for the slave?



I'm part of the spanking community in the States.

1. Spanking is used as a punishment sometimes, yes. But it is also used as play, as stress relief, and for numerous other reasons.

2. The only slaves that get hard when spanked are those with penises. The ones with vaginas do not.

3. Not only slaves get spanked. Subs and switches do. And I've known some Dom/mes and M types as well. A spanking is a physical act, and sub/slave/Dom, etc., are relationship concepts.

4. I agree with you that a punishment that makes the punished party happy doesn't work. However, I have heard of speakers that get aroused even if they hate the spanking.


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RE: Advice for New Dominants - 11/15/2016 10:53:52 PM   
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Great post MrRabbit. Where you mention assertiveness I believe another term could be "commanding pressence". This is an aura or aire about a person that through body language, facial expression, and speach patterns naturally let others know they are a leader. Many military, police, and security types of people have this taught to them and is a good trait to have, not just in the kinkster realm, but in life.

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RE: Advice for New Dominants - 1/20/2017 7:24:34 PM   
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I like this post. Weill written good advice.

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RE: Advice for New Dominants - 3/10/2017 11:14:39 PM   
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Thank you so much for sharing your thoughts. They helped me a lot. I came to this lifestyle totally naive and some men tried to take advantage of that fact. You cleared things up for me.

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RE: Advice for New Dominants - 4/1/2017 2:03:48 PM   
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Excellent.

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RE: Advice for New Dominants - 4/2/2017 5:50:48 AM   
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Boy this was a blast from the past. Over 8 years ago! Definitely one the best posts for new comers then or since.



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