Phoenixandnika
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Joined: 4/22/2005 From: Aberdeen Maryland Status: offline
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ORIGINAL: LotusSong Hi Nika (or any that are in this unique situation), I Have always wondered something. I know the answer will be different in all cases.. but since you are the first collard switch I've connected with here :).. here goes: If switch is collared and own a slave/submissive, and both your submissive and Master need you at the same time.. where would your immediate allegiance be? Would Master have to wait for you or your submissive? This is a sincere question and one that I have wondered about. Being that I have a husband AND a slave... Slave knows that my husband's requests trumps his :) This is how it works in our household. Phoenix is my Master. I answer to him in all things even in the actions of my submissive/slave. Though they would answer to me. So I kind of get a double wammy.*laughs* As his, everything I do or anything connected to me (ie posts,my actions, actions of my submissive/slave,e-mails, ect) reflect upon him. Regardless of my role at any given moment, weather submissive or Domme his expectations for me are always there(ie tactfulness,alchohol limitations,ect) Our relationship MUST be respected at all times by my submissive/slave. As far as your question. That would be taken case by case. That is like asking if both of my children need/want my attention which gets it? (No,I am not calling my Master or submissives/slaves children it is simply a comparision) An example. If my Master knew I was talking to a friend who was upset and needed me emotionally and perhaps physically for support he would defer his needs and allow me to help my friend. But if I was simply having girl talk with a friend he would expect me to see to him rather than continue yapping. I hope that answered your question and perhaps helped you understand how we handle our various roles. Edited to add: In my previous D/s relationship my submissive lived with myself and my Dom. Though we didn't consider ourselves poly, but this was an easily avoided issue. *laughs*
< Message edited by Phoenixandnika -- 9/15/2006 12:33:32 PM >
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