From: Central Texas / Hill Country
I just found this thread and thought I'd add my 2 cents. I have been sub to my hisband-Master-Daddy 24 7 for almost 10 years now. We were married long before we admitted our "fantasies" to each other and thankfully we were on opposite and corresponding sides of the whip! A few years ago I began to want to "top" someone and Master gracefully allowed me to experiemtn under his or others guidance. He ahd I have since co-topped several friends, male and female, and have even been "auctioned off" as co-tops! We work very well together, mostly when we top together it is with knives or electricity. We have even co-topped along with the "owner" of the person we were topping - that was fun!
I do not get a sexual thrill out of it, as many sadists do. but I love doing it. I love seeing and hearing different reactions, I love watching someone squirm and wriggle around, but I do not get sexually excited at all. I am finding that I love to give lomg spankings (two weeks ago I had to sit with an ice pack in my hands after an hour long bare hand spanking!) I will never top my Daddy and he will never switch for anything or anyone. I am fulfilled being his girl, but something deep inside now almost craves "doing unto others ...". I have been called a "service top" but thats ot true, while I want the bottom to have fun, it is really about ME having fun! well, to me it is. As a bottom-sub I know things like exactly where to hit or drag my fingernails or a knife blade, I know about aftercare, I know about checking in during play. If my goal of being a "good top" makes me a service top, then perhaps I am that as well.
I have a boy now, who stays with us on weekends, there is no sexual contact and never will be. He does service like doing the dishes and helping me if I in the middle of a project like cleaning out the garage. He sits at my feet and I stroke his head as I snuggle with Daddy on the couch. It all comes together to make me feel good.
I could live without topping, but I could not live without my Daddy.
MsOpal aka Daddy Argent's babygirl