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RE: Switches Finding Partners - 12/1/2006 7:30:39 AM

jthorne

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Well, Laura, I identify as polyamorous (and I've learned the hard way I should not have only one partner) so it's not as big a deal for me. I can see myself having subs and serving a domme as well...as long as the domme didn't have any funny ideas of ownership regarding MY subs.

I don't think I could ever bring it down to just one partner, no matter which way they swung. Never say never, of course, but it's just not how I am, I don't believe. I tried being mono by choice to a poly domme and WOW did that not work. Not because I was skirt-chasing, but there were other breakdowns in our relationship. I was happiest when I had three other girlfriends besides her, to be honest. All my different needs were met then.

I do feel bad for monogamous switches, however...their search must be so tiring.

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RE: Switches Finding Partners - 12/31/2006 6:31:29 PM

VeryMercurial

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I often avoid talking to switches, because often they are not sure if they are willing to play
the submissive role or not.
I am not a submissive, so maybe switches should stick with other switches.

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RE: Switches Finding Partners - 12/31/2006 6:38:10 PM

MistressCatLady

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I agree with VeryMercurial. I havent had much luck with switches, either. The ones I've come into contact with are very head strong, and tempermental. I didn't find them submissive, at all.

~*~ Ms. C. ~*~

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RE: Switches Finding Partners - 1/2/2007 10:21:53 AM

perfectlycast

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As a Switch myself, I can totally relate to Laua and the problems she is having, because I'm in the same position. Since my Switch girlfriend moved to another part of the country 2 years ago, I've had a hard time finding someone to click with. True Switches are totally comfortable playing either role, and I feel that you can't excel at either side without seeing "how the other half lives". I think you need the dual perspective. There seems to be a lack of female Switches here in northeast Ohio, and most people who identify as something else will not switch. I'm not interested in having to have more than one person satisfy my kinks, so I keep on looking for a true Switch, hoping that lightining will strike twice for me. Hang in there Laura, we'll find our true partners sooner or later.

CJ

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RE: Switches Finding Partners - 1/3/2007 6:35:28 AM

Daurazor

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I am extremely switchy and monogamous. my wife and D/s partner is Domme. So I understand completely about having 1/2 fantasy fulfillment.

Sad but at least I'm not 100% oppressed...

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RE: Switches Finding Partners - 1/10/2007 1:31:14 PM

subsidize

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i must disagree with wynter...if she submitts then she can be only one thing...a submissive!

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