RE: what is it with girls having masters double their age?

Join Our Community

Collarchat.com

Home Login Search

RE: what is it with girls having masters double their age?

View related threads: (in this forum | in all forums)

Logged in as: Guest

All Forums >> [Community Discussions] >> General BDSM Discussion >> RE: what is it with girls having masters double their age?

Page: << < prev 2 3 [4] 5 6 next > >>

Login

Message

<< Older Topic Newer Topic >>

RE: what is it with girls having masters double their age? - 1/18/2006 6:05:37 PM

Posts: 2774
Joined: 11/29/2004
From: NM/USA
Status: offline

I agree about changing your profile text to something more positive. Talk about yourself more and skip the disparaging remarks about us older guys. No need to compare, really.

I think lots of people realize that...if it really matters...not all of us older guys have beer bellies and failing hearts. Do you really want someone reading your profile to be thinking to herself "gee, this a bunch of bullshit"?

Bob

(in reply to travlr009)

RE: what is it with girls having masters double their age? - 1/18/2006 7:03:57 PM

Noah

Posts: 1660
Joined: 7/5/2005
Status: offline

quote:

ORIGINAL: mercmjm

what is it with girls having masters double their age? it really sucks for young doms like me trying to find a sub/slave when all of them want a dom who is practically old enough to be their father or grandfather. can someone answer me that

See, it might sound unfair at first, my forty-nine years as against her twenty-six. But what no one has been nice enough to tell you, squirt, is that when it comes to partners half our age many of us have a strict policy to take two at a time.

So it pretty much evens out.

The advice about presenting your domliness with better manners is worth listening to though. For instance, you may not know this but it isn't polite to wear a hat indoors. Accordingly, you should either get an outdoor avatar picture or maybe lose the funny little beret.

(think he's still reading? Another week or two and this thread will be as old as the guy who started it)

(in reply to mercmjm)

RE: what is it with girls having masters double their age? - 1/18/2006 7:20:49 PM

Posts: 292
Joined: 5/23/2004
Status: offline

quote:

(think he's still reading? Another week or two and this thread will be as old as the guy who started it)

oh please - i think he optted out of this thread after the first few responses demonstrated that there was no sympathy. but these things happen when the children come to play with the grown-ups.

newflowers

(in reply to Noah)

RE: what is it with girls having masters double their age? - 1/18/2006 7:23:30 PM

Posts: 2774
Joined: 11/29/2004
From: NM/USA
Status: offline

quote:

ORIGINAL: newflowers

quote:

(think he's still reading? Another week or two and this thread will be as old as the guy who started it)

oh please - i think he optted out of this thread after the first few responses demonstrated that there was no sympathy. but these things happen when the children come to play with the grown-ups.

newflowers

Yeah, I don't think he was in the mood to listen and learn. Oh well. More for me.

Bob

(in reply to newflowers)

RE: what is it with girls having masters double their age? - 1/19/2006 12:24:07 AM

Posts: 1615
Joined: 2/6/2005
Status: offline

mercmjm, I think you confuse cockiness and arrogance with dominance. You're a very young stud with a long road toward maturity ahead.

afmvdp gave a thoughtful answer as have many others. The problem when you don't have enough knowledge and experience is that you don't know what you don't know.

I am a different person than when I first started, although according to my mother, my dominance gene was in full force as a boy. I did date older women, a couple double my age (at 18-19) who didn't mind my cockiness and arrogance.

So don't sweat it. Earn your stripes and you'll find what you need to find.

(in reply to mercmjm)

RE: what is it with girls having masters double their age? - 1/19/2006 12:33:48 AM

Posts: 1615
Joined: 2/6/2005
Status: offline

quote:

ORIGINAL: caitlyn
I'm all the completely wacked immaturity I can handle in a relationship.

Very clever, but don't believe it about caitlyn.

Plus she really has a brain.

(in reply to caitlyn)

RE: what is it with girls having masters double their age? - 1/19/2006 12:51:02 AM

Posts: 1615
Joined: 2/6/2005
Status: offline

I came back with an additional thought. So many people tried to help, MarquisD, FelinePers, IrishMist, Lovingmaster45, MHOO314, Noah, and others. (Noah must be REALLY old!)

Perhaps the answer is that mercmjm should SUBMIT first, so that he begins to understand the responsible behavior demanded of doms.

(in reply to FelinePersuasion)

RE: what is it with girls having masters double their age? - 1/19/2006 1:02:05 AM

Posts: 9779
Joined: 1/12/2006
From: Texas
Status: offline

quote:

For instance, you may not know this but it isn't polite to wear a hat indoors. Accordingly, you should either get an outdoor avatar picture or maybe lose the funny little beret.

I don't think that's a hat. I think it's his hair.

In response to the OP, just an observation but a good many of the submissives whom I've encountered seemed to have 'old souls' and as such, they look for someone with whom they can communicate on a higher level than is, generally, to be found among the younger generation. At the tender age of 20, your adult life experience is 2 years. Perhaps you've gone through hardships and what-not which have given you a different experience than other 20 year olds, but there's no indication of such a thing. Play to your strengths not the weaknesses or what you view as weaknesses of others. Showing your character, your charm and charisma is going to get you a lot further a lot faster than disparaging those of us who are a bit closer to medicare than you. Keep in mind that you have not, yet, experienced all that life has to offer, nor explored the vast possibilities.

Besides, lots of us will be dead when you're just hitting your prime, so cut a little slack while we live out our twilight years, will ya? Some day, when you're old and grey, some 20 year old know it all is going to be making these sorts of comments about you... and you can just smile, nod and know how far he still has to go to get to where you're already going to be.

:P

Celeste

_____________________________

"Oh, so it's just like
Rock, paper, scissors."

He laughed. "You are the wisest woman I know."

(in reply to Noah)

RE: what is it with girls having masters double their age? - 1/19/2006 8:59:58 AM

Posts: 2297
Joined: 12/24/2005
From: None of your business
Status: offline

Just playing devils advocate. But couldn't the question just as easily be why do some older doms prefer less mature subs. Given that for the most part, age has been equated to experience. I know a couple have pointed out that it's not necessarily the case, but in general it has been the consensus that age equals maturity.

So, it begs the question, why would a mature dom want a immature sub, when he could have a mature sub? Is it because he will fill threatened by an equally mature person. That wouldn't speak well for ones dom status.

It seems the assumption is that older doms must be more mature, but that does beg the question why then would they seek less mature partners? Now, take yourself and add 20 years, it's obvious you will be a more knowledgable sub, well hopefully. Now imagine yourself as a dom, if you were looking for maturity in a partner, you'd probably select someone nearer to your age or older. Here's where I brace for impact, Wanting a younger sub would seem to indicate a immaturity for your age as a dom and not of maturity, or else you'd seek out a sub that was in the same ballpark. Where's the challenge in commanding respect from someone 20 years younger, it's more a given than something that is garnered by action, just because of societal conditioning. To seek a significantly younger sub would seem to indicate that one is merely riding the coattails of the presumptive maturity level of there age group, not necessarily being mature themselves. And the sub would also "feel" they are with someone more mature, but just as likely are just with a dirty old man instead of a younger one.

Anyway, just figured I throw a possible alternative view in here. I don't know the answer but this one seems as feasible, as the current explanation. Is the Dom Mature for his age or Immature for his age. hmmm, I'm leaning immature, if they as a rule prefer younger subs as opposed to older.

(in reply to mercmjm)

RE: what is it with girls having masters double their age? - 1/19/2006 9:52:36 AM

Eir

Posts: 118
Joined: 10/7/2005
From: Iceland
Status: offline

The man that I am really hoping to be my master is 12 years older then I am but on the other hand my ex was 18 years older then I am... I have always preferd older men...

(in reply to mercmjm)

RE: what is it with girls having masters double their age? - 1/19/2006 1:08:18 PM

Posts: 1615
Joined: 2/6/2005
Status: offline

quote:

couldn't the question just as easily be why do some older doms prefer less mature subs.
…
It seems the assumption is that older doms must be more mature, but that does beg the question why then would they seek less mature partners?
…
To seek a significantly younger sub would seem to indicate that one is merely riding the coattails of the presumptive maturity level of there age group, not necessarily being mature themselves.

Need, that is an unusually penetrating and well-phrased question.

Speaking only for myself, I generally prefer and date girls my own age [±10], but it's not unusual for someone much younger to come on to me, and not just in the BDSM arena. I thought a counter girl in Wendy's the other day was going to devour me for dessert.

That's not to imply any kind of special studliness (which of course I have and my phone is 407-), but that people who are younger than I have the outstanding maturity not to fret about age.

I suppose the shallow side of me would prefer a woman with a brain my age, a face that is forever 30 and a body that is forever 20. It's a good thing we don't get what we want.

(in reply to NeedToUseYou)

RE: what is it with girls having masters double their age? - 1/19/2006 2:00:27 PM

Posts: 3149
Status: offline

okay i cant help it i gots to say it.........

girls get with men that are doubled their age because we all want to know what a penis looks like with wrinkles on it.

oh wait... my Master is younger then me.. i wonder how he has his.....

(in reply to Petruchio)

RE: what is it with girls having masters double their age? - 1/19/2006 3:04:16 PM

Hallittlelolita

Posts: 253
Joined: 8/11/2005
Status: offline

Oh me too my Master is almost 37 and i am 23. i have always gone for the older guy's ever since i was 16

i know naughty me lol

My Master married me at 18 and He was 31 or 32 i think.. Anyways age is just a number has no value as long as you are happy

Sincerely Master Hal's lil cumslut slavegirl andie

quote:

ORIGINAL: Eir

The man that I am really hoping to be my master is 12 years older then I am but on the other hand my ex was 18 years older then I am... I have always preferd older men...

(in reply to Eir)

RE: what is it with girls having masters double their age? - 1/19/2006 5:05:00 PM

Posts: 2297
Joined: 12/24/2005
From: None of your business
Status: offline

Wow, thanks my first compliment up here. Not joking either.

(in reply to Petruchio)

RE: what is it with girls having masters double their age? - 1/19/2006 5:43:11 PM

MysticalPhoenix

Posts: 212
Joined: 11/30/2005
From: Kelloggsville, Vanilla County MI
Status: offline

quote:

ORIGINAL: NeedToUseYou

Just playing devils advocate. But couldn't the question just as easily be why do some older doms prefer less mature subs. Given that for the most part, age has been equated to experience. I know a couple have pointed out that it's not necessarily the case, but in general it has been the consensus that age equals maturity.

So, it begs the question, why would a mature dom want a immature sub, when he could have a mature sub? Is it because he will fill threatened by an equally mature person. That wouldn't speak well for ones dom status.

Anyway, just figured I throw a possible alternative view in here. I don't know the answer but this one seems as feasible, as the current explanation. Is the Dom Mature for his age or Immature for his age. hmmm, I'm leaning immature, if they as a rule prefer younger subs as opposed to older.

There is some inconsistency here. Either age=maturity or it doesn't.

Perhaps, the Doms who choose young female Subs like being the trainer, the Master and the Teacher. Age is power, older people are generally viewed as more powerful, and perhaps they like that dynamic. Or, because he enjoys having a sexy young hottie as his sub. Younger subs may prefer an older and (to their perceptions) more experienced Dom. They may find older Dominant males more attractive than their younger brothers.

But it is a moot point. As long as there are Doms who like younger subs and subs who like older Doms, and they are happy together, that's all that matters. Yeah, it's tough for the younger Doms who are competing for the young subs, but no one ever said that being a Dominant means that the world is handed to you on a silver platter.

And calling older Doms immature because their subs are young is just plain sour grapes.

I wonder what the poster above says about Dominas and older subs. I could have had a sub my age or a younger sub, but the person I have chosen to offer a training collar to is 28 years older than I am. And if anyone doesn't like that, I'll bend over and they can pucker up, I live my life my way, and choose my subs according to my criteria.

Phoenix

_____________________________

---------------------------------------------------------
Every one sees what you appear to be, few really know what you are.

(in reply to NeedToUseYou)

RE: what is it with girls having masters double their age? - 1/19/2006 6:08:42 PM

Posts: 2949
Joined: 11/17/2005
Status: offline

OK this thead is still breathing.. so it's time to say this again........

SEAN CONNERY can use me anytime he wants too.............

(in reply to MysticalPhoenix)

RE: what is it with girls having masters double their age? - 1/19/2006 6:24:35 PM

Posts: 2297
Joined: 12/24/2005
From: None of your business
Status: offline

I don't really believe that persay, I was just trying help the OP out to some degree. As no one was even trying to see his side of it. Personally, I don't care much about it, I just don't like one sided arguments. And, LOL, I do like younger women. Probably will forever.

(in reply to MysticalPhoenix)

RE: what is it with girls having masters double their age? - 1/19/2006 7:09:36 PM

Posts: 3807
Joined: 3/18/2005
From: Delray Beach, FL
Status: offline

quote:

ORIGINAL: truesub4u

OK this thead is still breathing.. so it's time to say this again........

SEAN CONNERY can use me anytime he wants too.............

[grin] Have you seen my picture?

_____________________________

www.lovingdominant.org

(in reply to truesub4u)

RE: what is it with girls having masters double their age? - 1/19/2006 7:39:34 PM

Posts: 292
Joined: 5/23/2004
Status: offline

quote:

ORIGINAL: JohnWarren

quote:

ORIGINAL: truesub4u

OK this thead is still breathing.. so it's time to say this again........

SEAN CONNERY can use me anytime he wants too.............

[grin] Have you seen my picture?

so the options for the young so far are sean connery and john warren - add in harrison ford and i'll subtract 15 or 20 years from my birthdate and join that line.

newflowers

< Message edited by newflowers -- 1/19/2006 7:42:08 PM >

(in reply to JohnWarren)

RE: what is it with girls having masters double their age? - 1/19/2006 10:03:48 PM

Posts: 24
Joined: 11/24/2005
Status: offline

I'm an older guy 50 and a newbie at all this online stuff. I'm also a newbie at seeking out BDSM for real. The very first contact I made here on CM was with a young lady 26 years old. Yes I'm double her age and frankly it bothers me more then it bothers her. Yes I have more life expeirence then her,but when it comes to BDSM r/t play she is way ahead of me. Now the number (1) reason I made a connection with this young lady was because she has a desire for rope bondage. (2) She lives in the same province. (3) The demands of our work makes travel of any great distance very difficult ; more so for me since I'm a mixed farmer who has to look after cattle.
What I'm getting at is that sometimes an old guy and a young lady may end up together simplely because they have compatable desires, they live close to one another and they live in a place where there are very few other choices.
At the moment this young lady and I are no more then potenial friends having only exchanged a few messages with each other. Would I play with this lady? Sure,if she wants to.Would I like to have along term relationship with this lady? No.
Now someone asked on here, "Why an old Dom would want to seek out a young sub?" Well I don't know? I think everyone has diffrent motivations. Myself I would likely seek a young sub because: 1) I still enjoy looking at a beautiful young women. 2) I have always wanted try doing glamorus erotic photography. 3) I would like to put a women into some very stringent bondage, the kind that an older women just wouldn't be able to endour. So for me my motivation for a young sub would be more for artistic purposes then for sex,however if sex was part of the deal between me and a young sub. Would I?...
Now maybe they are shallow empty and immature reasons?
I was watching an guy interview "Playboys", Hugh Heffner and his three girlfriends. Heff is 80 years old his three girlfriends are 27, 24, and 20. Hey! I'm 30 years younger then Hugh. Would I like to have girlfriends 27, 24, and 20. What do you think? And God willing if I ever make it to 80 I hope that I to will have girlfriends 27, 24, 20, 35, 44, 85, and 120.

(in reply to NeedToUseYou)

Page: << < prev 2 3 [4] 5 6 next > >>

All Forums >> [Community Discussions] >> General BDSM Discussion >> RE: what is it with girls having masters double their age?

Page: << < prev 2 3 [4] 5 6 next > >>

Jump to:

New Messages	No New Messages
Hot Topic w/ New Messages	Hot Topic w/o New Messages
Locked w/ New Messages	Locked w/o New Messages

Post New Thread

Reply to Message

Post New Poll

Submit Vote

Delete My Own Post

Delete My Own Thread

Rate Posts

Collarchat.com © 2024

Terms of Service

0.262