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CBT Techniques - 12/25/2008 8:17:05 AM

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My Mistress would like to explore CBT with me. Is there a good resource for learning bondage techniques? She is especially interested in leather laces and bounding my cock and balls and then attaching a long leash she can yank when I misbehave or when she needs attention. I have been directed to research this topic and hoped someone might be able to provide some input.

RE: CBT Techniques - 12/25/2008 8:39:46 AM

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Your mistress directed you to get this information eh? Interesting... since in your profile you seem to be seeking to meet someone and have no mention of having a mistress. Something isn't adding up for me... well, not adding up to a guy who has a mistress who is really only seeking information to feed back to a certain someone.

There is a wealth of information online... try google.

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RE: CBT Techniques - 12/25/2008 9:50:16 AM

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I had reason to learn more about CBT over the past several months. A very interesting form of play.

However, let Me make you familiar with My policy about sharing play techniques on line. I won't post such things to a message board. Why? Because I have no idea if the person who's asking for the information has a clue about doing things safely. In addition, even if I trusted the person asking to take precaution, I have no idea if that is true for anyone who would happen across the post. Not to mention, you don't know Me from Adam. How do you know that anything I would tell you would be safe to begin with?

What I will do is share information privately on the other side, with people who I've heard from these boards have experience in such matters. It's not going to anyone that I am not familiar with or that I don't have a decent knowledge of their intent.

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RE: CBT Techniques - 12/25/2008 10:10:35 AM

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Oh, honestly. Use a bit of initiative. As Locket said, try Google. If that is too much work, Hardy Haberman has a book called "Family Jewels: A Guide to Male Genital Play and Torment." He now has a sequel out. You can get both of them on Amazon. <Wanders off grumbling about people who can't lift a damned finger for themselves. Bah, humbug.>

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RE: CBT Techniques - 12/25/2008 11:20:55 AM

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...Hardy Haberman has a book called "Family Jewels: A Guide to Male Genital Play and Torment." He now has a sequel out. You can get both of them on Amazon...

Yes - what she said. Both books are part of my personal library :)-

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RE: CBT Techniques - 12/25/2008 11:51:17 AM

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My Mistress would like to explore CBT with me. Is there a good resource for learning bondage techniques? She is especially interested in leather laces and bounding my cock and balls and then attaching a long leash she can yank when I misbehave or when she needs attention. I have been directed to research this topic and hoped someone might be able to provide some input.

you can find exactly what you've described here... www.bdsmtoybox.com otherwise, my own personal brand of cbt involves things much more painful, not too sure you want that.

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RE: CBT Techniques - 12/25/2008 1:11:29 PM

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Lockit - I have an online friend that I have the fortunate opportunity to have r/t play sessions with four or five times per year. She is a switch and in a relationship. Her Dom allows her to have play sessions with me. I have met him and he approves. Technically, she is not my Mistress but I thought I was providing way too much information in my post than was necessary. I am still looking as my profile suggests. This is the first time I have ever submitted a question to collarme after being a member for years. I am not lazy, I have checked Google. We are not looking for products as much as bondage techniques. I don't think that is as easy as you are all suggesting. I thought the point of this site was to create the opportunity to ask these questions. It was not my intent to offend anyone nor did I mis-represent myself. I was asked to get some information on a topic we are both wanting to explore. I guess I was wrong about assuming this might be a place to check.

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RE: CBT Techniques - 12/25/2008 1:24:18 PM

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Sorry, but this is sheer laziness. I just typed in the words "penile" and "bondage" on Google and got 987,000 results. If not one of these results is what you are looking for, the dominas on CM are unlikely to be of much use to you.

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RE: CBT Techniques - 12/25/2008 1:56:36 PM

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I think this is a very valid question and one that should form an interest on sites such as this.
I agree that 'family Jewels' is a book worth having but the best advise I would give you and your Mistress is to experiment and feed back to her what you can and can not take.
I know when I first started doing CBT it was pretty daunting because I don't know or ever will know how it feels to be stretched, restricted and pummeled and even infused with saline! I was fortunate enough to find a guy that let me experiment on him and who gave me feedback of how it felt.

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RE: CBT Techniques - 12/25/2008 2:32:18 PM

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I think this is a very valid question and one that should form an interest on sites such as this.

It is and there's loads of interest in it. If someone makes the effort to use the search function, he or she will find plenty of threads on the subject.

I can't speak for other dominas, but what I would find nice for a change is, instead of a sub coming on the boards and demanding assistance from the dominas, if he would do his own research and post what he found out. That would really be rendering a service to us d-types. Sorry if I sound stroppy, but I'm a bit tired of all the do-me subs out there who treat the dominas on CM as the equivalent of unpaid pro-dommes. It would take me over an hour to list all the penile bondage techniques with which I'm familiar and I can't think of a reason why I should take that much time out of my day. I take it back, though, that the OP is lazy. It's his domina who is the lazy one. And now I'm going back to my Harry Potter DVD and my knitting.

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RE: CBT Techniques - 12/25/2008 2:54:07 PM

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Interesting, I would have thought the CM forums an ideal place to discuss bdsm related topics. I've almost posted questions here before asking for ideas and experiences, but was lazy enough that I never got around to doing it and relied on the small amount of appropriate material I found elsewhere. I'm glad now that I didn't ask, for all the roasting this guy is getting for asking a simple question.

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RE: CBT Techniques - 12/25/2008 3:09:51 PM

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I don't believe I roasted anyone. I think what I did in the above was explain My personal policy about posting such information to the public boards. There are a number regular posters on the boards who can tell you that I've been more than happy to discuss different forms of play on the other side with those who have asked for the information. Yes, this does depend on who it is, what type of play, and what prior experience they have.

I stand firm on My belief that posting certain types of information to anyone and everyone is irresponsible. Not everyone on this site is playing with a full deck. (I could site great examples if I wouldn't be moderated for it.) I happen to think it is better to deal with such matters on a case by case basis.

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RE: CBT Techniques - 12/25/2008 3:13:51 PM

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I think this is a very valid question and one that should form an interest on sites such as this.

It is and there's loads of interest in it. If someone makes the effort to use the search function, he or she will find plenty of threads on the subject.

I can't speak for other dominas, but what I would find nice for a change is, instead of a sub coming on the boards and demanding assistance from the dominas, if he would do his own research and post what he found out. That would really be rendering a service to us d-types. Sorry if I sound stroppy, but I'm a bit tired of all the do-me subs out there who treat the dominas on CM as the equivalent of unpaid pro-dommes. It would take me over an hour to list all the penile bondage techniques with which I'm familiar and I can't think of a reason why I should take that much time out of my day. I take it back, though, that the OP is lazy. It's his domina who is the lazy one. And now I'm going back to my Harry Potter DVD and my knitting.

The great thing about forums is they constantly move. Not everyone has been here for a while and so the same questions are going to spiral round again and again. Now whilst that may be yawn material to the veterans on here, it could still be an interesting question/debate for the new blood on the site and for this reason I don't believe it should be ridiculed.

Not all dominant men/women have the confidence to move forward without lots of advise. Geez I remember when I first started and how nervous I was but with the right questions, some good advise and some constructive teaching I went on to be confident in what I do.

Lots of threads on these forums get directed back to old posts and whilst some of them are interesting, they are nothing more than reading an article on the subject with lots of banter to plough through in between. There is nothing more interesting than a moving forum if that is what your interested in. If your not then why even comment?

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RE: CBT Techniques - 12/25/2008 3:21:45 PM

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As for actual bondage techniques, I'd be interested in hearing more about that as well.

What size rope would people use for the balls? What type of rope? I generally prefer hemp, but I haven't found much information about whether a small hemp rope would be good on those sensitive bits. (Oh, and I have that book as well, but more ideas are very much desired.)

Someone gave me a brilliant idea to tie up peoples balls with nylons as well. I have yet to perfect the technique yet, though!

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RE: CBT Techniques - 12/25/2008 3:26:36 PM

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I don't disagree with your philosophy on sharing techniques online. I've found live demos at the local dungeon / play parties to be a lot more useful than anything I've ever read online. I may not follow the same idea, but I don't begrudge you for following your beliefs. Still, others have given DB a pretty hard time for the crime of *gasp* asking a question. Sure, you could use google...but there's a lot of crap floating around out there. The very reason I tend to want to ask a question here is that there are many people here who have personal experience with different activities. I want feedback from real people more than I want whatever google happens to cough up.

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RE: CBT Techniques - 12/25/2008 3:49:42 PM

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Honestly, that's the way I prefer to teach. I do give demos, but I also do private instruction. Often, it's a combination of both. I'm happy to give additional help after any presentation to those who are looking to learn more. The difference in this is, I get the chance to give them the extra information that goes with the play. I'll even let them try things while I'm with them so that I can give them tips on what they want to watch for or precautions that they may want to take when they are doing it on their own. It's a method that's worked for Me from when I started learning and then started teaching others.

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RE: CBT Techniques - 12/25/2008 5:28:59 PM

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Sorry, but this is sheer laziness. I just typed in the words "penile" and "bondage" on Google and got 987,000 results. If not one of these results is what you are looking for, the dominas on CM are unlikely to be of much use to you.

I think you just made his point. If you get 978,000 results, do you want to wade through all of them with no guidance, or does it make sense to ask experienced people for suggestions?

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RE: CBT Techniques - 12/25/2008 6:10:19 PM

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I'm fond of the satin piping (looks like miniature rope) that is found in the trim section of any fabric store. Looks pretty when its all done.

Any one of my spanking brushes can be turned bristles-up for a bit of shock and awe on the boyz ;)

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RE: CBT Techniques - 12/25/2008 9:13:51 PM

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I think we discuss many things here and I enjoy that... what I don't enjoy is misrepresentation... wankers using us with our profiles... pictures maybe... and getting our personal information to get off on. It happens... I know that... but if I detect something questionable... I am not willing to share one damn thing. How many come here asking a question for the sake of real interest being sincere in their questions and how many wish to know which dominant to hit on... etc. by asking who likes what.. who does what and how do they do it? A new poster asking in the way this op did... brings a red flag to many of us.

Okay it's Christmas/holiday and someone is bored and think it might be nice to get domina 1 and domina 2 to tell them some tasty tid bits... all on behalf of someone's mistress. Okay... someone is lazy here... There are many ways to get this information and yes, sometimes on the boards... but if one dectects anything that might be questionable... how willing are we to rush to give them examples of what we do to our submissives. Yes they might find that information somewhere around here... but they have to work for that... we don't readily give it up to someone we don't know, who might be toying with us. Honest questions most often get answers... where a red flag goes up... well.. they get a bit of everything.

OP... I do thank you for your answering my post. I do hope that you can see where I would question where you were coming from. But again... I agree that teaching someone by way of a message board to do things that could cause harm... isn't a great idea. In general we can give information if we have it... are willing, whatever... but doing your own research is the best thing to do... get totally informed. You don't know if any of us are really telling the truth or thinking it might be funny for some guy out there to be.. what... really fucked over... or hurt. It is better to do research into the medical aspects as well as the ways to do things and to be safe.

Personally I would not allow anyone else to do my own research and that includes a submissive. I will personally check things out or learn them because it is me who will be doing the damage and is in charge of it all with a willing subject. I will not take anyone else's take on something and am accountable for one person and her take on it all... and that would be me.

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RE: CBT Techniques - 12/26/2008 4:33:15 AM

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Interesting, I would have thought the CM forums an ideal place to discuss bdsm related topics. I've almost posted questions here before asking for ideas and experiences, but was lazy enough that I never got around to doing it and relied on the small amount of appropriate material I found elsewhere. I'm glad now that I didn't ask, for all the roasting this guy is getting for asking a simple question.

There is a feeling that people who start with `My Mistress wants me to ask you about X' but whose profile says they're single, are looking for jerk-off material (tell me hot stories about CBT!) rather than advice. Most people are happy to provide the latter; many are unwilling to provide the former. I've yet to see a good reason why the Mistress isn't asking for herself.

Second, Google is an incredible resource. Often, it's hard to find things using it but a post that says, `I tried googling for X and Y and couldn't find much' or `Google gave me links X, Y and Z but I'm a novice and I can't tell if the advice there is good' will go a long way. Many people are keen to help but don't have the time to explain things that have already been explained well by others.

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