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RE: Deeply Troubled - 1/1/2009 7:50:03 PM

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There are very very long waiting lines for special housing, low income housing or hud housing, and you have to qualify first and being on SSI or government assistance, isn't always a qualifier I do not believe.

And, there's very limited low income or HUD housing availible, you could be on lists for years. And some of the places that accept low income vouchers and stuff are in VERY crappy parts of town. Places any sane person would be afraid to be home alone at night in.

I have a friend in LA, who's homeless, and she's been waiting for SSI for 3 almost 4 years now, and they keep denying her claim and making her go back to court. She also hasn't been able to find very many places that will take her section 8 vouchers, The one place she was hoping for, gave the apartment to someone else, And you only have so long to find a place, or you loose your section 8 and start all over again.

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ORIGINAL: lusciouslips19

You should go on goverment assitance. I am not sure what it is in Canada but I am sure Canada has it. I am sure they will asist you in job training too. I the U.S people also can apply for special housing if on assistance.

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RE: Deeply Troubled - 1/1/2009 8:09:18 PM

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This is Canada, you can get govt assistance if you stubbed your toe. lol

Medical or mental illness disability payments are approx 1200/month in most places. Even emergency housing is available and you can bump others off the list (especially if you were abused).

Welfare takes you on in the meantime before you have proven you qualify for disability.

Job skills, the same. The welfare department will put you in any training program you request for free. If not, they will order you to go to their manditory programs or no cheque.

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RE: Deeply Troubled - 1/1/2009 8:09:55 PM

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Coming from someone that of course knows better than me how to deal with my present situation.

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RE: Deeply Troubled - 1/1/2009 8:11:20 PM

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There are very very long waiting lines for special housing, low income housing or hud housing, and you have to qualify first and being on SSI or government assistance, isn't always a qualifier I do not believe.

And, there's very limited low income or HUD housing availible, you could be on lists for years. And some of the places that accept low income vouchers and stuff are in VERY crappy parts of town. Places any sane person would be afraid to be home alone at night in.

I have a friend in LA, who's homeless, and she's been waiting for SSI for 3 almost 4 years now, and they keep denying her claim and making her go back to court. She also hasn't been able to find very many places that will take her section 8 vouchers, The one place she was hoping for, gave the apartment to someone else, And you only have so long to find a place, or you loose your section 8 and start all over again.

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ORIGINAL: lusciouslips19

You should go on goverment assitance. I am not sure what it is in Canada but I am sure Canada has it. I am sure they will asist you in job training too. I the U.S people also can apply for special housing if on assistance.

The OP lives in Canada.

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RE: Deeply Troubled - 1/1/2009 8:14:37 PM

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Coming from someone that of course knows better than me how to deal with my present situation.

Well, actually, since you seem unable or unwilling to make adult, mature decisions on how to deal with your present situation, I'd have to say ALL of the advice you've gotten on this thread would prove that, yeah.. these folks DO know better.

Now, knowing your usual response to a comment above I'm going to back away from this thread, because I already know the essence of what you're going to say.

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RE: Deeply Troubled - 1/1/2009 8:16:02 PM

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Greetings..

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Third thing mistress pointed out that she wants to be kept informed of my progress but how she said it was very cold.

On this..perhaps in her own way she is attempting to detatch you for your own well being knowing that she will not be able to continue having you dependent upon her.

Being reliant is a very scarey and lonely path to walk sometimes. If it was never your choice from the onset to venture this path..then for that I'm sorry you now have to try and find a way to self reliance..but "if" you chose this path of your own accord in order to really get deep and closer to that feeling of slavery and being owned property then surely you must know this could have always become a possibility at any given time. I am no where near down this path as you state you are but I do know the possibles and probables of traveling it. I also know that all though it may be an extreme difficulty with alot of fails..that I have that drive to survive, and will do so even if it means becoming independent again as a sheep among the wolves of the world.

I think your just as capable of doing so even if it is truely not where your heart lays or wishes to be.

starshine

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RE: Deeply Troubled - 1/1/2009 8:16:02 PM

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Coming from someone that of course knows better than me how to deal with my present situation.

It seems everyone knows better than you how to deal with your present situation. Its you who remain motionless.

You have been given lots of good advice on how to seek help including how to get free housing and money from your government. What more do you want from us other than to feel sorry for you?

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RE: Deeply Troubled - 1/1/2009 8:21:29 PM

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forget it.

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RE: Deeply Troubled - 1/1/2009 8:27:23 PM

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It really depends on where you are when claiming for disability. When it was NDP here in BC it was easier but since the Liberals have been in office a lot of the benefits have been cut in half or are no longer available. There is a big stink here concerning all the affordable housing that has been removed to make room for the olympic venues being constructed. Anything that was once affordable have since increased beyond the means of income assistance. Even if you do manage to find a place to live, scrape to pay for your utilities and eat out of soup kitchens and food banks, it would eventually result in my displacement with barely a pot to piss in.

As I said in an earlier post:
legal issues concerning my own identification is still in dispute
the only reason my employment is an issue is because I am currently caught in limbo because I am waiting for SRS since I am intersexed (which I have mentioned in another thread, even my own doctor considers it factor in my current state of mind)
there is also male factor, which I still have a real problem with ( 4 attempts on my life by men takes a long time to get over )
now I have the issue with my mistress, I am not as close as I once was and only now I have began to really feel it
avoiding master keeps me confined to my room when he is home, except at meals

as I also stated before having the internet keeps me from being completely alone.

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RE: Deeply Troubled - 1/1/2009 8:30:15 PM

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ORIGINAL: starshineowned

Greetings..

quote:

Third thing mistress pointed out that she wants to be kept informed of my progress but how she said it was very cold.
On this..perhaps in her own way she is attempting to detatch you for your own well being knowing that she will not be able to continue having you dependent upon her.

Being reliant is a very scarey and lonely path to walk sometimes. If it was never your choice from the onset to venture this path..then for that I'm sorry you now have to try and find a way to self reliance..but "if" you chose this path of your own accord in order to really get deep and closer to that feeling of slavery and being owned property then surely you must know this could have always become a possibility at any given time. I am no where near down this path as you state you are but I do know the possibles and probables of traveling it. I also know that all though it may be an extreme difficulty with alot of fails..that I have that drive to survive, and will do so even if it means becoming independent again as a sheep among the wolves of the world.

I think your just as capable of doing so even if it is truely not where your heart lays or wishes to be.

starshine

What you said I understand.

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RE: Deeply Troubled - 1/1/2009 8:32:34 PM

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http://www.bccpd.bc.ca/programs/advocacy.htm

http://www.eia.gov.bc.ca/publicat/vol1/Part3/3-5.htm

http://www.pwd-online.ca/pwdlist.jsp?&lang=en&fontsize=0&cat=5_29&geo=2

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RE: Deeply Troubled - 1/1/2009 8:35:33 PM

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Coming from someone that of course knows better than me how to deal with my present situation.

Aszhrae, please consider the options many have offered here. We understand that you spend most pf your life serving another, yet you also have to realize that you still have to take care of yourself. You asked "where do you go from here", take this one small step at a time. Since you are living in British Colombia, I know that if you go talk to someone in Social Services and they will be able to assist you in housing, emplyment and they will also issue you emergency finds to suppliment your savings if you are unable to afford rent and/or groceries. There are also organizations who help low income people obtain housing and they have resources to aid you in finding an apartment for yourself. Just because you had always served the needs of others, you still have the ability and the capability to focus that upon yourself....we all do!
I spent most of my adult life without having any sort of a safety net underneath. It is amazing how I was able to draw upon inner strength to see me through tougher times then you are facing. No I am not playing one upmanship, just pointing out that we all have the ability to survive and cope when all seems lost. There are resources and avenues which you can use and it's a matter of you taking that first step, because we can't do it for you.

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RE: Deeply Troubled - 1/1/2009 8:36:13 PM

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Get off the bloody pity pot already - PLEASE. All the whining and complaining is NOT going to fix a damn thing. Yes, you do have issues - get therapy, get public assistance, and live your life. Oh, and stop blaming others for YOUR misery. Everyone has choices. Either take the suggestions here or stay miserable. It's entirely YOUR call at this point. No one can help you unless you start helping yourself.

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RE: Deeply Troubled - 1/1/2009 8:42:57 PM

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Here's what I found for your area Aszhrae:

Affordable Housing at bottom of that page is several organizations geared to helping people find housing

Social Services - this page is full of contact info for several different agencies geared towards basic needs.

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RE: Deeply Troubled - 1/1/2009 8:45:38 PM

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came4U
how do you propose I greet those at the advocacy group? I can't really tell them that I have been a service submissive to a mistress and master for the last 18 years

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RE: Deeply Troubled - 1/1/2009 8:48:22 PM

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Paid live in caretaker?

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RE: Deeply Troubled - 1/1/2009 8:51:51 PM

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Who says you have to tell them anything?

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RE: Deeply Troubled - 1/1/2009 8:54:06 PM

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Many women have had relationships and never had their own property bills, even at our age. If BDSM of nature, that is certainly not their business, nor will they ask.

I don't know how either, but if one day I had to, I certainly would learn damn fast lol.

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RE: Deeply Troubled - 1/1/2009 8:55:27 PM

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So true lushy. Though in Aszhrae's case, if she did state she was a live in caretaker/companion, it still is legit, just omitting the fact of the Master/Mistress/slave aspect.

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RE: Deeply Troubled - 1/1/2009 8:57:52 PM

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its not pity that I wanted
I am trying to understand what is going on because I have never had this happen to me before
its not like I am still in Toronto,
I had family there and friends there to help me as I would have helped them
but I am not there now am I
9 months is not a hell of a lot of time to correct 42 years of reliability on others

some advice has been helpful, but other advice has only uncovered other serious issues concerning my own well-being

*sigh*

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