Lockit
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In the last two months, I have had two submissive males try to get to know me, that seemed to want a bit more. It wasn't clear in the beginning what their situation was, but as we talked I either put things together or was told enough to know what the deal was. Now, I don't blame them for seeking out survival. I have done it before and I don't blame anyone for protecting themself. But the economic times are hitting too close to home and is effecting the home front. Both through a series of events were living with relatives. In one situation he was at fault and in the other, a devistating event that many suffered from set the stage for other life events and he couldn't be blamed for what had happened. (I did do background checks to find this out and would do it again in a heartbeat!) One seemed to look to be rescued and the other looked for a way to sustain himself and wouldn't have minded walking into a better situation. Both wished to relocate and who could blame them? We all have relative's and some know they don't always make the best roommates! lol I am not looking to rescue anyone. I am willing to help some times. It depends on the situation and I think those situations are going to increase. I have been helped in life and most of my life I spent helping others in every day life and as a career. I have had two relationships where I worked and brought home the bacon so to speak and I supported these men, while they supplimented things with their side jobs, but I was their main job. They freed my time after work which was demanding and I loved the way we worked things. It sure made things easy for me. Now I don't ever suggest, now that I know more about things that we typically think are provisions for us like social security and such and how it all really works, and would never suggest that someone not work at least part time. If one doesn't, it can really mess their life up when it comes to getting benefits when that time comes. You must have a certain amount of work hour credits within a certain amount of time. You don't have it and you will be in trouble if you become ill or disabled at some point. But my point is... I don't expect these two men to be the last who are willing to relocate or to hook up quickly so that they don't end up homeless. Everyone wants security. Everyone wants to stay warm and to eat and no one wants to be worried day in and out about what they will do if they are laid off, lose their job and whether there will be a job out there and how they will make it day to day. I see this as something that is going to happen far more than it has in the past. Men will find a vulnerablity that women knew back in the day when women were expected to play homemaker and they were dependent upon someone else. Women were brought up differently and society treated them differently... it will be far harder for a man who has been independent and employed to deal with crisis in this area. We are going to face a lot in the coming days and although some will continue to do well, other's will not. So don't be surprised if things start changing in relationships and the financial structure and expectations. It won't be just that a man may want someone to support him because of any role reversal... but could come from economic crisis. It may be a time when we learn who is willing to do well in life and who is creating their own problems and know the difference because things are changing fast and what once might have told us what to do in a situation and standards built upon... may not be as usable in the days ahead. I knew a doctor who had a wonderful career, who became ill and could no longer practice. With his last dollar he decided to go get a coffee at a coffee shop, knowing he faced homelessness and his last treat to himself was that cup of coffee. In that coffee shop he met an angel. A career woman with a heart. She took him in and took care of him and soon he was able to resource and find some income from what he could do still. I met him after this. They had married and lived very happily with her being the major income source... but he wasn't neglegent and he did all he could to create something. But admitted, if it hadn't have been for her... he would have been one of those guys eating out of garbage cans. A doctor... not some lazy bum. She saw a diamond and he was... he was just covered in a bit of muck that most wouldn't have seen through. To this day, they are both glad he went for that last cup of coffee and I have never met anyone more devoted to one another than this couple.
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