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ORIGINAL: Wickad
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Wow!!!
I feel really sorry for those that some have labeled mentally ill. How hard it must be to deal with the prejudice that exists due to societal ignorance, only to be followed up by the condescending tones of someone purporting to want to help but really only succeeding in ex-changing one label for another, and giving further credence to the bigotry they profess to hate.
A lot of mentally ill people do not take their medications or get the help they need ... for a variety of reasons (poor me syndrome, a crutch to not have to take responsibility, the meds have awful side effects, lack of medical insurance (some countries), lack of a support structure, denial, etc)
Then ... there are a huge number of mentally ill people who take their medications, follow their doctors advice, monitor their own behaviour and are responsible for their actions (no matter if those actions happen while 'crazy' or sane). Many of these types of people have a mental illness but one would never know it unless they told you. They are called 'high-functioning' by the medical establishment and are the very silent but over whelming majority.
The choice to have a relationship with someone is just that, ... a choice. Some folks don't like their partners to be too tall, others prefer blondes to brunettes, and some don't have the capacity to deal effectively with certain situations (children, ex-partner/husbands/wives/ect, mental illness, religion, etc). We all make choices and we are all responsible for those choices be they good, bad, bigoted, short-sighed, or otherwise.
Simple enough, don't you think???
Wickad
As Lockit already said, some people have dealt with these sorts of things and know what a struggle it can be. Regardless of treatment.
Mental illness of various sorts, seems to run in my family. What the issues are, seems to depend on the doctor, the type of medication they want to peddle, and whatever the cool new catch phrase of the day is. My mother will very likely remain untreated for the bulk of her life due to her own denial, and partially a lack of finances, but mostly denial.
One of my sisters would never speak to me again if I even suggested she has a problem, even though it is apparent to many of the rest of us she does. To say spending any time around her is difficult, is an understatement. One minute you can be laughing and having a good time then the next she is either screaming at you, or has disappeared crying. She has left family members homes halfway through a visit to return to hers, hundreds of miles away without a word. She rarely comes to mine because her religious views find a great deal to be offended about here. 90% of my movies and music are the work of the devil. The last time she visited she began screaming at me for playing an old Aerosmith CD around her children.
My 28 yo daughter was in and out of mental health treatment, attempted suicide or threatened it multiple times, dealt with drug addiction as a form of self medicating, and has been on various medications, since early teens. Not to mention the thousands of dollars I spent on every alternative holistic anything I could research and find. Now, at age 28, she has taken responsibility for her wellbeing and lives a productive and relatively happy life. YET, there is NO WAY, I would want to live with her!! As much as she as changed and improved, she can be hell on wheels when she has forgotten, or run out, of meds. Or, as when she was pregnant then breastfeeding, and did not want to take anything. I may not care for her husband but I have tremendous respect for the way he deals with her moods and the way she treats him at her worst moments. I quite simply do not have the patience for that sort of thing that he does. I am the fantastic support system that she calls, crying, to vent to, to ask my opinion, to ask for help, anything but having her scream at me for looking at her wrong, or throw a pan at because I said or did the wrong thing. Those are the things living with her like he does, that I would struggle with.
That is just three examples. There is also the alchoholic father, the shopoholic brother......and on and on..
So yeah, I love these people, I support them as much as my resources will allow, I will do damned near anything for them, but I cannot live with their issues day in and day out and be the support system they need, in that way. I don't have the patience. It really is that simple.
My appologies to the OP for the side track.
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