Tavane
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That brings back memories. I think in high school it was not that uncommon for a boyfriend to sometimes carry his girlfriend's books for her, and sometimes would walk her home from school. We didn't have backpacks then. You just carried your books under your arm, and girls carried them in an arm, but across their chest. We didn't carry the girl, just her books, and it had nothing to do with submission. It was just a nice gesture guys did sometimes. These are very vague memories.
I don't know why financial control would be a burden, since it would be the slave who opened the bills, wrote the checks, and mailed them out after the mistress signed them, and kept track of her income and expenditures. (if she wanted him to know that). I saw a site on FLRs which did think that was a good idea in a somewhat vanilla relationship, but female led. The wife spent money as she pleased, but the husband had to ask her for things he wanted. His check went into her account, and he'd get an allowance for lunch money and small stuff. She'd often ask his opinion on things, but she made all decisions on expenditures, where they'd go on vacation, and everything else. If she wanted to buy a car, she'd just buy it. If he wanted a new shirt, he'd have to ask her, and she could pick out his clothes if she wished. She'd decide what she wanted him to cook for her each night, or what she wanted to cook for them, if she liked cooking, but his opinions were important to her. It was just that she always made the decisions if they disagreed, so it wasn't extreme, but she was the final authority on everything, so it was very like the 1950's household, with lots of communication and love, but the husband always deferred to the wife.
That's incredibly appealing to me, and I dont' see it as any more of a burden on the wife than it was on the husband 50 years ago. If a woman actually liked housework, laundry, and cooking, then she'd do it. I personally don't know why a woman would enjoy that kind of stuff, except cooking, (but not dishes), but if she did, she'd do it, but knowing how much he enjoyed doing it for her, I'd think she'd have him do most of that,and probably all the laundry and housework. I don't see that as a bizarre lifestyle, just a role reversal from what was a very common lifestyle from long ago. Unless she was very controlling, the husband would play golf and do the things he'd do anyway, but it would be with her permission, and there would never be any arguments in the household, since although she'd listen to him, once she made a decision, that would be final. Although perhaps most women wouldn't have much pampering, being in that kind of role reversal would still be a wonderful way to live for a submissive, and I think it would be a very nice life for the woman, too. Women still complain because it's rare for a husband to do an equal share of domestic tasks and child care. In that scenario, the husband would do all or almost all of them, or whatever she wanted, while she was free to watch TV, read, or go out shopping with her girlfriends, and the husband's role was a supporting role, and attuned to making her happy. Many women were very happy in that kind of life long ago, and it would be a really nice way to live.
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