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RE: Would you take on a bi Master/Dom? - 9/15/2009 10:30:02 AM

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Greetings

I am bi myself. It would not matter at all if my Dom was bi.

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RE: Would you take on a bi Master/Dom? - 9/15/2009 10:30:26 AM

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I disagree. There is many out there like her. Im one of them. I support your need to be bisexual and you and I could be great friends. However, you would be out of who I would consider as I dont think of bisexuality as dominant and I just dont want a bi guy. Now you may feel I am wrong, but I have a right to my preferances just as you have a right to be attracted to anyone you want. I would in no way impede you of living your dreams or deny you your rights to it. But I will not be labeled a hypocrite just as i should not be labeled one for likeing men with blue eyes if I have brown eyes.

This kind of baffles me. Why would you be any less dominant for being bi or is it only bi men you feel this about?

WOAH!!!!! So does that mean GAY men cant be dominant either?

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RE: Would you take on a bi Master/Dom? - 9/15/2009 10:30:57 AM

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I was wondering about that myself.

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RE: Would you take on a bi Master/Dom? - 9/15/2009 10:33:32 AM

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Edit, yeah I jumped the gun on that one lusciouslips. My bad, I'm sorry.

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RE: Would you take on a bi Master/Dom? - 9/15/2009 10:35:35 AM

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I disagree. There is many out there like her. Im one of them. I support your need to be bisexual and you and I could be great friends. However, you would be out of who I would consider as I dont think of bisexuality as dominant and I just dont want a bi guy. Now you may feel I am wrong, but I have a right to my preferances just as you have a right to be attracted to anyone you want. I would in no way impede you of living your dreams or deny you your rights to it. But I will not be labeled a hypocrite just as i should not be labeled one for likeing men with blue eyes if I have brown eyes.

This kind of baffles me. Why would you be any less dominant for being bi or is it only bi men you feel this about?

WOAH!!!!! So does that mean GAY men cant be dominant either?

It has nothing to do with another person and everything to do with individual prefererance. I am not stating facts, just individual desires and preferances. I never said anything of the sort. I was talking about my right and others to want what they want without being considered a hypocrite.

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RE: Would you take on a bi Master/Dom? - 9/15/2009 10:36:30 AM

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The actual question isn't relevant to Me but frankly... what the fuck has sexual orientation got to do with D/s orientation. I have Owned straight girls, Bi girls and even a couple of Lesbian girls. I have known fellow Dominants of every variant of sexual Orientation.

That said, where does personal preference end and prejudice begin... Frankly I don't assume prejudice unless other factors indicate it and EVERYONE has the right to have a preference.

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RE: Would you take on a bi Master/Dom? - 9/15/2009 10:38:28 AM

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Greetings

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It's a hard limit because his dick in another guy is the biggest turn off in my mind ever.

Just one question. You seam to assume that if a man i bi, then he will have a relationship with a man in addition to you. I am finding this a rather strange thing, that so many pepole seam to think that bi means having several partners. You said it would be a turn off if he had sex with men. What if he did not have sex with men, but was faithful to you, even if he was bi and therefore could find both men and women sexually attractive.

I am bi, I get turned on by both women and men. And I know that if I was out looking for a relationship, my partner might turn out to be a man or a woman. But however I am in a relationship, with a man. But so many pepole seam to think that since I am bi, I have to be unfaithful to him and have at least one female lover to. This is not true. Being bi means that one is sexually attractive bot both sexes, that one can fell in love with both sexes. It do not mean that one sleep around.

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RE: Would you take on a bi Master/Dom? - 9/15/2009 10:40:45 AM

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For me it would be a deal breaker espically if they only told me after the fact. I have no problems with people being bi, one of my best friends are, and a close college friend is a lesbian. I am 100% straight, but that does not mean eveybbody is. I would really have problems with my Master being bi. If i knew from the get go i would not enter into the relationship. That is just me.

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RE: Would you take on a bi Master/Dom? - 9/15/2009 10:41:45 AM

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I was talking about my right and others to want what they want without being considered a hypocrite.

It is not up to you to dictate others what or what not to consider hypocrite. It is obvious you are biased and hypocrite.

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RE: Would you take on a bi Master/Dom? - 9/15/2009 10:46:17 AM

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I was talking about my right and others to want what they want without being considered a hypocrite.

It is not up to you to dictate others what or what not to consider hypocrite. It is obvious you are biased and hypocrite.

Well guess i am. My bad. But my life, my choices. Im a hypocrite? Im cool with that? Are you cool with the fact that we can want what we want? I wish some hot guy would think Im hot. But he might not like me cause I have a big nose or Im old or too chubby. Even though he is old, chubby and has a big nose. I dont come on the forums and complain about it. I will look for someone who finds me cool and vice versa.

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RE: Would you take on a bi Master/Dom? - 9/15/2009 10:52:45 AM

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Greetings

Ok pepole, no one is a hypocrite for having a preference, or for not being turned on by some group or another. If someone do not want a bi partner that is up to them. I think that sometimes this preference comes from a stereotype which is not true, that a bi person have to have at least one lover from each sex, and it is a shame if pepole let stereotypes run their lives. However sometimes pepole just have a honest preference to purely straight pepole, and there is nothing wrong with that. I do not see why anyone would need to get their feathers all ruffled over that. It is a personal preference.

I wish you all well

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RE: Would you take on a bi Master/Dom? - 9/15/2009 10:54:19 AM

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Are you cool with the fact that we can want what we want? I dont come on the forums and complain about it.

Then how did you complain about it when you did not come on the forums to do so? With each post there's more confusion!

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RE: Would you take on a bi Master/Dom? - 9/15/2009 10:54:54 AM

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No I would not date a man who was bisexual. I don't think bisexuality would make him less dominant (unless he was the 'receiving' partner with his male partners) but I don't find male-male sex appealing and I would be turned off if I knew he was into that. I don't think that's prejudiced or homophobic, I'd never date a guy who was really into having a "puppy slave" either.

As to why, there are several reasons I can think of, I'm sure there are more reasons that are subconscious:

- I would feel threatened/less special as a woman if he were also attracted to men.
- I would wonder if he would be able to go the rest of his life without any sexual contact/flirting with men, as I am the type of person who is interested solely in monogamous relationships with the potential for marriage.
- Watching my guy flirt with women is kind of hot, but I would be utterly turned off if I saw him flirt with a man, and it would be unfair of me to ask him to repress this part of his personality.
- My partner's sexual past does matter to me. Past sexual experiences with men (aside from the whole boarding-school-experimentation that happens but nobody admits to it) would be a deal-breaker. Again, not homophobic, because sleeping with 100 women would also be a deal breaker. And honestly, if there was some random casual prepubescent experimentation, I would not want to know. I don't think it's appropriate to tell your girlfriend that you fooled around with a guy once a long time ago if she thinks its squicky..."honesty" has a limit, and I wouldn't want to hear about the time you got diarrhea on the train either. Bottom line: if it's something I would find distasteful, and it isn't terribly important, why tell me?

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RE: Would you take on a bi Master/Dom? - 9/15/2009 10:57:53 AM

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I was talking about my right and others to want what they want without being considered a hypocrite.

It is not up to you to dictate others what or what not to consider hypocrite. It is obvious you are biased and hypocrite.

What about a black man who only wants a white woman or vice versa? Would they be hypocrites? How about an overweight man who only prefers skinny girls? How about a short girl who prefers tall men? What about all the straight guys out there who want bi girls? Are they all hypocrites too because they're not bi themselves? Is that what you're saying?

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RE: Would you take on a bi Master/Dom? - 9/15/2009 11:00:40 AM

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Totally starting a new thread so I dont hijack this.........

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RE: Would you take on a bi Master/Dom? - 9/15/2009 11:03:10 AM

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No I would not date a man who was bisexual. I don't think bisexuality would make him less dominant (unless he was the 'receiving' partner with his male partners) but I don't find male-male sex appealing and I would be turned off if I knew he was into that. I don't think that's prejudiced or homophobic, I'd never date a guy who was really into having a "puppy slave" either.

As to why, there are several reasons I can think of, I'm sure there are more reasons that are subconscious:

- I would feel threatened/less special as a woman if he were also attracted to men.
- I would wonder if he would be able to go the rest of his life without any sexual contact/flirting with men, as I am the type of person who is interested solely in monogamous relationships with the potential for marriage.
- Watching my guy flirt with women is kind of hot, but I would be utterly turned off if I saw him flirt with a man, and it would be unfair of me to ask him to repress this part of his personality.
- My partner's sexual past does matter to me. Past sexual experiences with men (aside from the whole boarding-school-experimentation that happens but nobody admits to it) would be a deal-breaker. Again, not homophobic, because sleeping with 100 women would also be a deal breaker. And honestly, if there was some random casual prepubescent experimentation, I would not want to know. I don't think it's appropriate to tell your girlfriend that you fooled around with a guy once a long time ago if she thinks its squicky..."honesty" has a limit, and I wouldn't want to hear about the time you got diarrhea on the train either. Bottom line: if it's something I would find distasteful, and it isn't terribly important, why tell me?

The prejudice and hypocrisy drips from your post. You thinking you are neither has nothing to do with this. Once again: one can not dictate others who to consider hypocrite.

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RE: Would you take on a bi Master/Dom? - 9/15/2009 11:04:52 AM

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- I would wonder if he would be able to go the rest of his life without any sexual contact/flirting with men, as I am the type of person who is interested solely in monogamous relationships with the potential for marriage.

I find it interesting that male(in this instance) bisexuality is assumed to be poly or that a bi male cannot be trustworthy?
I am not bisexual. But that doesn't make me more likely to be monogamous.
I get the whole personal preference thing. What I do not understand is the assumption or concern that a bisexual man is more likely to either cheat/flirt or end the relationship because of attraction to another? Because that is the vibe I am getting from some of the responses.

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RE: Would you take on a bi Master/Dom? - 9/15/2009 11:06:14 AM

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I was talking about my right and others to want what they want without being considered a hypocrite.

It is not up to you to dictate others what or what not to consider hypocrite. It is obvious you are biased and hypocrite.

What about a black man who only wants a white woman or vice versa? Would they be hypocrites? How about an overweight man who only prefers skinny girls? How about a short girl who prefers tall men? What about all the straight guys out there who want bi girls? Are they all hypocrites too because they're not bi themselves? Is that what you're saying?

No, that is not what I am saying.

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RE: Would you take on a bi Master/Dom? - 9/15/2009 11:08:34 AM

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- I would wonder if he would be able to go the rest of his life without any sexual contact/flirting with men, as I am the type of person who is interested solely in monogamous relationships with the potential for marriage.

I find it interesting that male(in this instance) bisexuality is assumed to be poly or that a bi male cannot be trustworthy?
I am not bisexual. But that doesn't make me more likely to be monogamous.
I get the whole personal preference thing. What I do not understand is the assumption or concern that a bisexual man is more likely to either cheat/flirt or end the relationship because of attraction to another? Because that is the vibe I am getting from some of the responses.

the.dark.

Not at all. I would be a fool to think that my fiance will never flirt with another woman for the rest of his life. In fact we like to joke about the woman at the coffee shop who has the hots for him, I know he flirts back with her. I flirt with guys. I do draw a distinction between flirting and cheating, and I don't think that a bi male would be any more likely to cheat than a straight one. Hell, I don't think a bi male would be more likely to flirt than a straight one, the only difference is that my fiance flirting with women turns me on, whereas my fiance flirting with a man would turn me off.

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RE: Would you take on a bi Master/Dom? - 9/15/2009 11:09:55 AM

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I bet if the question was if the Mistress/Domme was bi would a male sub have a problem the answers would be very very different lol. funny how things work sometimes.
I'm straight and prefer bi women. I don't think they will want a woman or cheat on me with a woman I just prefer them because they are more likely to like my femme side.   a large number of my ex's have been bi and only 1 ever left me for a woman.
I'm a bit over weight I want a skinny female.   am I a hypocrit?   perhaps but my reasoning is logical to me. They can tell me to lose weight I can't tell them and if i am trying to lose weight there is no way a Domme that was overweight and happy about it would be suitable with me.
to me "BI" means they wil love either male or female it doens't mean they need both only that they have left the door open for the possiblity of either. if they are faithful they will be faithful weather they like men or women or both.   If they are not it doens't matter if they are bi or straight or gay they will cheat with their prefrence regardless.
so regardless of sexual orintation in my opinion you are either faithful or not and it's not based on the type of person you want to have sex with :P

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