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ORIGINAL: supportourtroops

Take your fat overweight ass, hick hillbilly hat and bite my @ss. Your a c@ck bite, it appears most of you on here are. I cant say any of you are worth squat except a few of the ladies.
Of being on here a month I've seen and met games players, losers, ugly's, senior citizens, and men with small brains and over inflated egos. You being one of them with your lazy cut and paste jobs.
Go jogging, get yourself into shape, how do you expect a sub to follow the lead of a undisciplined slob. DOM my @ss, you can't even take care of yourself. A joke.

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ORIGINAL: Lockit


So don't mind us darlin... we find it and your attitude offensive.

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ORIGINAL: STLDom48

This thread is a perfect example of why these forums are a waste of time. A person asks a question, sincerely seeking feedback and the advice of others who may have the benefit of experience - and the forum police jump all over them to insult, belittle, judge, ridicule, lecture and generally act like rude idiots. I see it over and over again - I don't know why anyone would ever post a sincere question here. You should all be ashamed of yourselves.

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ORIGINAL: STLDom48

This thread is a perfect example of why these forums are a waste of time. A person asks a question, sincerely seeking feedback and the advice of others who may have the benefit of experience - and the forum police jump all over them to insult, belittle, judge, ridicule, lecture and generally act like rude idiots. I see it over and over again - I don't know why anyone would ever post a sincere question here. You should all be ashamed of yourselves.

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ORIGINAL: STLDom48

..and name calling, rudeness, insults and the lack of basic human decency protects you how exactly? I read the entire thread and my opinon stands. If you truly have age of consent issues and concerns, I don't think public ridicule is the most effective way to "protect the site" do you? Well, apparently you do. Like I said - you should all be ashamed of yourselves.

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ORIGINAL: DrkJourney

To the original issue:  How could they be stringing you along?  I don't know who contacted who, but if they contacted you they might have just stumbled on your profile and thought you would be a fit for them, so they contacted you.  They knew the house stuff was coming up so they wanted to meet while they had time, you're weren't ready, that's understandable, but life goes on. 

Also, as far as stringing you along, did they tell you not to speak to anyone else?   Doesn't look like they were trying to remove you from the market or anything, seems to me in the case of them, life just happened, and you are upset that you aren't the center of their world.  Remember, you are just words on a screen and a voice on a phone until you actually meet and start a relationship...there is no reason they would put you in any higher place in their lives at this time, and if they did, that's when you should worry.

They are in fact still in contact, just because they don't have time to beg you 24/7 to please come and be ours doesn't mean they are stringing you along.  Why is there talk of a deadline all of a sudden?  Good thing they didn't have one with you or you would've been kicked to the curb when they wanted to meet and you said you weren't ready...how about just taking things one day at a time, if it's not right you will know it.

Your age has loads to lend to the fact that you need to be in the research stage now and not in the meeting "anyone" stage.  You are focused on totally the wrong things.  How about focusing on, they are going to live in a house so remote that there is no phone reception?  If you go to visit these "strangers" will you be safe?  Too late to ask when you get there, you will already be isolated and no phone coverage remember?

Second:  Don't you think it's strange you've only talked to the wife once?  Does he even have a wife?  Did he bury her in that remote location?  maybe the first time you said he was aggitated?

To the issue of your age:  you shrug off the fact that you came on here a year early and how you wanted to learn about bdsm.  The reason everyone is up in arms is because this is a good site and good sites are hard to come by.  Second if someone had taken you up on your offer, they could go to jail, you were in fact a minor.  Third. for all of those that gave you advice thinking you were older and if it had worked, that person would be in big trouble if caught with a minor, and they would feel responsible.

The issue of learning:  When I was a teen I learn by reading.  There are tons of sites on the net where you can read, watch movies, even go virtual, and learn all that you need to get you started without impacting someone else's life.  Getting someone in trouble with the law is definitely impacting their lives.  On a more minor note, people come here to learn, and make friends, if your little "lie" had gotten this site shut down, it would impact a lot of lives.  Case in point if this site had been shut down a year ago I wouldn't have met the guy here that is now my husband....remember that butterfly flapping it's wings thing?

the honest issue:  You yourself are wondering about the honesty of these people.  What about your honesty?  If someone you were talking to were found to be lying about anything, doesn't matter....could you really trust them to be telling you the truth about anything else?  You be checking and rechecking everything that person told you...what kind of relationship is that?

I don't think it's really impatience that drives you, I think you know how easy it is to lie, so you don't trust anyone either, as well you shouldn't on the net.  That is why you get to know someone at length before you jump into anything.

Personally, I think you need to research more, and if you want hands on, do things locally...see if this is really what you want, if so the right situation will be there for you when it's time....stop pushing it.  And for goodness sake, keep in the practice of being safe.  The two situations that I've seen that you posted, neither of them sound like winners to me.  I mean the first one obviously didn't work or you wouldn't be involved in this second one.

take your time....no reason to rush into anything

just my buck fifty worth...take it or no

good luck to you

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ORIGINAL: STLDom48

Well, since we measure our worth in the number of posts to this site - you are obviously a better person than I am. I have to be silent now in the face of your superior worth, wisdom and intellect.

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ORIGINAL: supportourtroops

Your right I've had no prior experience with meeting DOMs online and entering a BDSM relationship online without meeting the person first. My last DOM of 5 years I was here in Seattle also in the military, prior to that my husband of 12 years. Online is totally new to me and I hoped someone wiser would shed light on the subject for me.
In my case as the man I'm subing to is overseas I thought I could come here and get some real advice on others experiences, no smug, bullshit, condscending answers. I had hoped this was a true BDSM community not just a bunch of bitter, single, wanna be DOMs. You however are the perfect example of it and are the reason why so many subs I do know have not found a mate on this site. I believe its a waste of my time as well. A pity as there is on one BDSM club in Seattle its hard to meet real Dominants. Here there is clearly no guidence or support.
Hence...useless.