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RE: Why do women cheat? - 11/12/2009 1:59:14 PM

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I look at it this way.

Yes my ex-husband was a jerk.......but not just because of infidelity. In my eyes the infidelity was only a symptom, not the actual disease. And for the actual disease, we were both responsible.

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RE: Why do women cheat? - 11/12/2009 2:05:40 PM

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Same reason as anyone else does it - because they are jerks. Male, female, dominant, submissive, switch, straight, gay, bi ... doesn't matter - they each give a different reason for why they cheat, but it all boils down to the fact they are selfish jerks.

I find that rather too simplistic a generalisation.

Obviously, some people are just out for what they can get, but sometimes there are logical, understandable reasons. As an example, relationships are sometimes in a state of decay and/or entropy, and as a result one partner's definition of that relationship and its meaning differs from their partner's, through no fault of that individual.

It's not true to say that all cheating, all the time, is entirely the fault of a "jerk".

Sorry, but someone who can't be honest with their partner, is a jerk.

As I say, an incorrectly over-simplistic viewpoint. But if it works for you then I'll not be the one to argue.

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RE: Why do women cheat? - 11/12/2009 2:08:24 PM

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Specifically, what drives a dominant woman to cheat? Dont get me wrong and take this as I think only women cheat. Im just asking why would a domme cheat on someone she claims to love.

I don't know but I'm glad some of them do!

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RE: Why do women cheat? - 11/12/2009 3:26:36 PM

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Sorry, but someone who can't be honest with their partner, is a jerk.

There are many reasons someone doesn't feel they feel they can be honest and not all of them make them a jerk.

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RE: Why do women cheat? - 11/12/2009 3:31:22 PM

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Same reason as anyone else does it - because they are jerks. Male, female, dominant, submissive, switch, straight, gay, bi ... doesn't matter - they each give a different reason for why they cheat, but it all boils down to the fact they are selfish jerks.

They do it because human beings weren't meant to be monogamous. It's not in our DNA to be attached to one person for the rest of our lives.

Sex with someone who isn't your partner can provide new experiences, validation, increased self-esteem and a chance to get away from the baggage... particularly if you happened to be moored to a creature who doesn't give you space, attention, or orgasms.

If monogamy is important to you, find someone who values it too. But don't expect it from the entire human race.

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RE: Why do women cheat? - 11/12/2009 3:47:46 PM

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They do it because human beings weren't meant to be monogamous. It's not in our DNA to be attached to one person for the rest of our lives.

Sex with someone who isn't your partner can provide new experiences, validation, increased self-esteem and a chance to get away from the baggage... particularly if you happened to be moored to a creature who doesn't give you space, attention, or orgasms.

If monogamy is important to you, find someone who values it too. But don't expect it from the entire human race.

I'm not sure I want to get into dna and all that. But some of this is pure human and one that is seriously lacking.

I do not get my self esteem, validation and escape from baggage, from another person. If I am fucking someone new to escape someone... I should just leave the one that doesn't give me space, attention or orgasms and build my own self esteem and validation in who and what I am. If I base these things on other people, I will always need someone when I could simply do it myself and just fuck someone for fun or love.

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RE: Why do women cheat? - 11/12/2009 6:27:20 PM

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Specifically, what drives a dominant woman to cheat? Dont get me wrong and take this as I think only women cheat. Im just asking why would a domme cheat on someone she claims to love.

I don't know but I'm glad some of them do!

This doesn't surprise Me a bit.

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RE: Why do women cheat? - 11/12/2009 6:59:10 PM

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Same reason as anyone else does it - because they are jerks. Male, female, dominant, submissive, switch, straight, gay, bi ... doesn't matter - they each give a different reason for why they cheat, but it all boils down to the fact they are selfish jerks.

They do it because human beings weren't meant to be monogamous. It's not in our DNA to be attached to one person for the rest of our lives.

Sex with someone who isn't your partner can provide new experiences, validation, increased self-esteem and a chance to get away from the baggage... particularly if you happened to be moored to a creature who doesn't give you space, attention, or orgasms.

If monogamy is important to you, find someone who values it too. But don't expect it from the entire human race.

Oh so we're all slaves to our DNA?

Bullshit.

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RE: Why do women cheat? - 11/12/2009 7:11:29 PM

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Geoff, I know how you feel. I had the same thing happen to me. Though it was with her current husband, not her ex. Funny how she neglected to mention that little bit of information eh?

That being said, trying to figure out why anyone does anything (though particularly when it comes to cheating spouses) is a pointless exercise. Its pretty much impossible to figure out whats going on inside someone elses head. Trying to work things like this out will just end up driving you nuts in the end. Believe me I know. Its best for your own sanity to just forget trying to figure out why she cheated.

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RE: Why do women cheat? - 11/12/2009 7:31:08 PM

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Same reason as anyone else does it - because they are jerks. Male, female, dominant, submissive, switch, straight, gay, bi ... doesn't matter - they each give a different reason for why they cheat, but it all boils down to the fact they are selfish jerks.

I cheated on my abusive boyfriend, and it gave me the strength to leave a situation I thought hopeless.

If that makes me a selfish jerk, so be it.

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RE: Why do women cheat? - 11/12/2009 7:33:13 PM

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'Cuz wimmins is ebil. Alla them.

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RE: Why do women cheat? - 11/12/2009 7:52:34 PM

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Ive been thinking, and Ive realized that I really dont give a shit why she did it. She's a dishonest bitch any way you slice it.

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RE: Why do women cheat? - 11/12/2009 8:57:54 PM

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'Cuz wimmins is ebil. Alla them.

Mawhahahahaha. I love it when they recognize the evil in Me.

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RE: Why do women cheat? - 11/12/2009 10:03:55 PM

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Indeed. Better watch out for LP...she can do that force lightning trick when shes angry

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RE: Why do women cheat? - 11/12/2009 10:36:25 PM

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Indeed. Better watch out for LP...she can do that force lightning trick when shes angry

OMG - LP, I will do anything if you teach me how to do that.... I will totally turn to the dark side...

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RE: Why do women cheat? - 11/12/2009 10:58:46 PM

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No big secret. All you need is a wand, and a few needles...... Then watch the lightning fly!

PS. Absolutely good chuckle there.

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RE: Why do women cheat? - 11/12/2009 11:54:44 PM

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I don't know if anyone has brought it up, but isn't there always the possibility that she was seriously getting off on the power she held and thought to try to see what else she could get away with?

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RE: Why do women cheat? - 11/13/2009 12:41:41 AM

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No big secret. All you need is a wand, and a few needles...... Then watch the lightning fly!

PS. Absolutely good chuckle there.

That's enough to make me want to start domming right there. I'd have to find a geek sub though so I could set it all up and go "Never underestimate the power of the dark side!" *FIZZLE!*

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RE: Why do women cheat? - 11/13/2009 1:06:25 AM

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Same reason as anyone else does it - because they are jerks. Male, female, dominant, submissive, switch, straight, gay, bi ... doesn't matter - they each give a different reason for why they cheat, but it all boils down to the fact they are selfish jerks.

They do it because human beings weren't meant to be monogamous. It's not in our DNA to be attached to one person for the rest of our lives.

Sex with someone who isn't your partner can provide new experiences, validation, increased self-esteem and a chance to get away from the baggage... particularly if you happened to be moored to a creature who doesn't give you space, attention, or orgasms.

If monogamy is important to you, find someone who values it too. But don't expect it from the entire human race.

Oh so we're all slaves to our DNA?

Bullshit.

Not "slaves", no. But it is true that, from a psychological and social perspective, human beings have, historically, not been monogamous - monogamy is a construct of a more modern society (or, to put it in context, tribe).

Actually, it's a construct of some more modern societies. It's not intrinsically or automatically "us". Now of course some people slip into it with little or no issues, whereas for others it comes to them later in life, and for some it's something they neither want, nor aspire to.

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RE: Why do women cheat? - 11/13/2009 2:33:04 AM

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Indeed. Better watch out for LP...she can do that force lightning trick when shes angry

OMG - LP, I will do anything if you teach me how to do that.... I will totally turn to the dark side...

She wants a dark side, and I'm a DarkSteven... there's gotta be a connection there somewhere... /searches/

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