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ORIGINAL: kyraofMists

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Do you worry about feeling any lack of self worth if your duties are strictly related to homemaking, housecleaning, or taking care of errands <snip> Would you be bored?

This is the tricky part and the answers are possibly. I am an intelligent person with good critical thinking skills. Curiosity and learning are key elements to my well-being. My job fulfills many things that I require for my mental and emotional well-being. I would have to find something that is as mentally challenging and fulfilling for me if I did not have a job to exercise those aspects of my character.


Knight's kyra

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This is aimed toward male subs (as they are often seen as the breadwinners) but I'm interested to hear what female subs say as well.

Are you willing to give up (or pause) your career in order to be in a service position full time?

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ORIGINAL: cloudboy

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ORIGINAL: AAkasha

Are you willing to give up (or pause) your career in order to be in a service position full time?

The last thing 99 out of 100 women want is a man who serves but doesn't earn. In the FEMDOM universe I've witnessed here, the sub would be sent to work, his money banked in the Domme's account, and once home he'd be put into domestic service. I will quote Sarah Miller from THE BITCH IN THE HOUSE here:

"There are few things that make a man less attractive to women than financial instability. We can deal with men in therapy, we can deal with men crying, but I don’t think gender equality will ever reach the point where we can deal with men broke. I realize that they don’t want us to be broke, either, but when it comes to money, their desire, their requirements, are just not on the same scale as ours. Women might lose credibility as people when we are struggling financially, but it doesn’t interfere with our identity as women. It does not make us less sexually attractive. When the situation is reversed – when the man is the one struggling – this in not the case. One of the many lessons I learned in my relationship with Mike is that I will never, ever go out with a man who isn't naturally adept at making a decent living. I don’t care if I sound chauvinistic and retro --- I might even think that of myself from time to time. But I will never change the way I feel about this."

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If so, are you worried about your earning potential should you ever have to return to work? Do you worry about not being able to accumulate skills in your field?

Do you worry about feeling any lack of self worth if your duties are strictly related to homemaking, housecleaning, or taking care of errands (again -- aimed toward men: Do you feel emasculated when your male friends have jobs/careers and you do not?How do you address that)?

This question is ludicrous, because it assumes any man would actually face this situation. Women who can carry a man rarely elect to do so b/c they view such a dynamic as "leeching" and / or "mooching." Usually high earning women have an even higher income cut for the man they might choose to date than the avg woman. I would imagine this even more true of a high earning dominant woman.

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For sub men that have a career/job right now, would you be willing to give it up -- for good -- in order to be a stay at home submissive for the long term? Would you be bored?

IBID

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Do you worry about feeling any lack of self worth if your duties are strictly related to homemaking, housecleaning, or taking care of errands (again -- aimed toward men: Do you feel emasculated when your male friends have jobs/careers and you do not?How do you address that)?

For sub men that have a career/job right now, would you be willing to give it up -- for good -- in order to be a stay at home submissive for the long term? Would you be bored?

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ORIGINAL: AAkasha
Are you willing to give up (or pause) your career in order to be in a service position full time?

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If so, are you worried about your earning potential should you ever have to return to work?

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Do you worry about not being able to accumulate skills in your field?

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Do you worry about feeling any lack of self worth if your duties are strictly related to homemaking, housecleaning, or taking care of errands (again -- aimed toward men:

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Do you feel emasculated when your male friends have jobs/careers and you do not?

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How do you address that)?

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For sub men that have a career/job right now, would you be willing to give it up -- for good -- in order to be a stay at home submissive for the long term?

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Would you be bored?
Akasha

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This question is ludicrous, because it assumes any man would actually face this situation. Women who can carry a man rarely elect to do so b/c they view such a dynamic as "leeching" and / or "mooching." Usually high earning women have an even higher income cut for the man they might choose to date than the avg woman. I would imagine this even more true of a high earning dominant woman.

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ORIGINAL: subtlesubie

Besides if you didn't work or have kids, what on earth would you do all day, everyday?

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Besides if you didn't work or have kids, what on earth would you do all day, everyday?

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ORIGINAL: MHOO314

Well not to steal Aakasha's thread, but I am going to disagree--for Myself and a few other Dommes I know that are close to Me--for Myself---I wasn't looking for someone that "matched My income"--first of all that is very hard to do as I am one of those high earning Dommes you referred to--so I knew there was a good chance of financial disparity--the subs I met who could, were arrogant blowhards that were more "trophy boys" than a real submissive ( not making a sweeping generalization here guys--calm down)---I do not equate income with self worth--I do not equate a career with income--

Now given that--currently My boy has a job, he has his own company--it is something he likes to do, he is good at it--and it affords him the opportunity to make his own hours--mind you that freedom allowed him to be on-line at normal times to seek a Domme--for which I am extremely grateful <smiles>--unless he works 24/7 and grows that business to many employees, he will not match My income--that is not the point--My need, My desire is that when he moves with Me, he can continue with his business--he "contributes" something-- he continues to do what he likes and he indeed provides the market a valuable service--but I need him to attend to Me--to My house, My life--contributes because in the blink of an eye, I could be unemployed--but everyone in My home contributes---My teen started working at 14---So I am quite happy with the way things are--when he is with Me as he just was, we spend a tad more, when I am with him, we do things at home--he cooks, cares for Me--that IMHEO is priceless and valuable.

I'd also like to add, that your theory at least here in the US is a tad outdated----today in the US in middle income families----25% see the woman working and the man " Mr Mom"--at home caring for the kids etc---in the blink of an eye--"roles" get reversed-- layoffs are a daily occurence and most middle class families live one paycheck away from bankruptcy---I get testy when someone makes "earning an income in a relationship" gender specific---

Now to Aakasha's question--I want My boy to "contribute", I want him to continue his business when he gets here--he likes it, he's good at it, it's needed--BUT I need him with Me--to help, to serve, to attend---in a NY second I could be killed and he would need to go on--no matter how massive life insurance is--it won't last long.

So I elect to "carry" in your words, not Mine, I elect to build a life and a family-(oh and My Dad died 40 years ago and My Mom developed a substantial income, in a time when that just wasn't done)---but we had to survive--and I applaud My sisters who are quite ok with working while their men take care of the house duties--and btw--My three Domme friends feel the same way---their boys work--either organizing and managing the house and chores, or act as admins--and we are all quite happy---


IMHEO.

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Besides if you didn't work or have kids, what on earth would you do all day, everyday?

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It basically comes down in reality to screening a so called Dom for their pleasure and I've never come across a submissive who in reality would give up a career for serving a Dom though I've often heard people saying they would.