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RE: Would you give up your career for submission? - 12/19/2007 12:35:13 AM

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I do live the life versus just being in it for the sex and kink. However, I rather be with a dom (not too sure about a Master) whose more realistic. A dom that understands having a sub with a career does not make them any less devoted and loyal than a sub who gave up having a career for them.

If decided to stay at home, I would be one bored woman. Unlike some subs, I haven't learned how to cook and rarely done any housework. I do not plan on having kids which makes for a life directed towards having a career. If I had to travel less in the event a dom I served became ill, I would do that but never quit over it.

I'm still mooring against the tide to where I can have a career, no point in waisting all of this effort to be someone's live-in maid.

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RE: Would you give up your career for submission? - 12/19/2007 1:15:10 AM

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I recently did give up my career of 40 years to become a full time slave. One of the things that both Master and i talked about prior to doing so was what i would keep busy with. My children are grown so they don't take any time. But i have an hobby which Master wants me to spend more time on and maybe make it a business. After 5 months of being 24/7 slave, i find that i am learning to cook better, work my hobby more and enjoy spending time doing things for Him during the day. I do get bored sometimes but then just go exercise, yuk. Yes, that is one of the things He wants me to do to stay in shape.

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RE: Would you give up your career for submission? - 12/19/2007 1:31:43 AM

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Greetings,

Now, granted this thread was aimed at men submissives, but ....

As a Dominant woman I would like to chime in on wanting a stay-home, man submissive. Currently, this doesn't seem to be something on the horizon (our house is undergoing renovation, no decent prospects around, etc) but it is something that both my partner and I really do want for the long term. However, finding decent, hardworking, intelligent, articulate, not-solely-motivated-by-penis types is seemingly hard to come by - go figure - lol.

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RE: Would you give up your career for submission? - 12/19/2007 2:08:10 AM

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In the short term, I have financial obligations that require me to continue working. In the long term, I would be willing to pause or give up a career for the right woman, however, with caveats.

I don't think I could do nothing but stay at home and do menial chores. I have an advanced degree, am working toward another, and I require a great deal of intellectual stimulation. I also feel the need to do some good for the world, and I'm not talking about volunteer work that just about anybody could do, but using my intellectual and professional skills to help identify and solve problems. I'd feel like a traitor to the human race to have such abilities and not attempt to use them in some way for the greater good.

If those issues could be resolved, I'd be willing to give up a career, relocate, you name it.

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RE: Would you give up your career for submission? - 12/19/2007 3:57:46 AM

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If I won the lottery, yeah I could see giving up my career...maybe. I don't feel all that great about myself when I'm not working for an extended period of time, but at least if I won the lottery I'd be managing some investments etc. In a more general sense having a career and making my own money is a kind of security I just can't see myself giving up. I need to know that I can stand on my own. There is also the problem that with the field I'm in, if you leave for a few years the technology has advanced enough that you've been left behind and will have a hard time getting back in.

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RE: Would you give up your career for submission? - 12/19/2007 5:25:23 AM

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not in a million years Babe dream on , not me anyway , not saying other submissives or slaves might but not me Honey not me

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RE: Would you give up your career for submission? - 12/19/2007 5:26:10 AM

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RE: Would you give up your career for submission?

never

i honestly love my career as a radio personality / music reviewer. i would never give it up as a tradeoff for submission and neither of my dominants wouldnit want me doing that. they know how much fun i have rockin' and partin' with bands 2 to 3 night a week. it would be hard for me to give up something that i truly enjoy. besides they enjoy hearing the wild tales and adventures of this famous local personality.

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RE: Would you give up your career for submission? - 12/19/2007 5:32:50 AM

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Just because he wanted me to?...not in a million years...

Because he's ill and needs care...yes...

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RE: Would you give up your career for submission? - 12/19/2007 5:33:47 AM

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After reading this post I have come to the conclusion that most females on here can't read. This question was asked of MALE subs. These are some of the same women who bitch that men dont read their full profiles. There need's to be mass disipline handed out here.

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RE: Would you give up your career for submission? - 12/19/2007 5:43:22 AM

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ORIGINAL: Dnomyar

After reading this post I have come to the conclusion that most females on here can't read. This question was asked of MALE subs. These are some of the same women who bitch that men dont read their full profiles. There need's to be mass disipline handed out here.

From the original post:

This is aimed toward male subs (as they are often seen as the breadwinners) but I'm interested to hear what female subs say as well

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RE: Would you give up your career for submission? - 12/19/2007 6:06:59 AM

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People should piss in the shower, not in Dnomyar's wheaties.

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RE: Would you give up your career for submission? - 12/19/2007 6:14:59 AM

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ORIGINAL: Dnomyar

After reading this post I have come to the conclusion that most females on here can't read. This question was asked of MALE subs. These are some of the same women who bitch that men dont read their full profiles. There need's to be mass disipline handed out here.

ok who pissed in his coffee this morning?

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RE: Would you give up your career for submission? - 12/19/2007 7:13:38 AM

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Are you willing to give up (or pause) your career in order to be in a service position full time?

yes, I have actually. we joke about this constantly. seven years of college to become an engineer and the most difficult thing I built today was a peanut butter sandwich. ( I did build two bookshelves and a bed last week though)

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If so, are you worried about your earning potential should you ever have to return to work? Do you worry about not being able to accumulate skills in your field?

yes, this worries me some, I know it will be hard for me to return to work, but the truth is, I learned way before I agreed to be a stay at home subbie, that my seven years of college wasnt going to ever do me any good and no one takes short blonde chicks who look like they are 16 seriously in the construction feild so Im regulated to using my degree to wipe my ass with and asking "you want fries with that"

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Do you worry about feeling any lack of self worth if your duties are strictly related to homemaking, housecleaning, or taking care of errands

truth is, I think it makes me feel better, knowing that I provide those things. It hurts my feelings of self worth when i CANT do those things for some reason, even when that reason is that I was outside making some extra cash building something for someone. If I spent all day in the barn making money, and didnt get the dishes washed, I feel compleatly useless.

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RE: Would you give up your career for submission? - 12/19/2007 8:23:53 AM

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I'm a female sub, and was actually presented with the choice of ownership vs my job. Mainly, I need my job for the health insurance. And I haven't let anyone support me ever in my life...I've always worked and provided for myself, believe it or not, it's hard for me to wrap my head around the thought of ever being that dependent on someone. I happen to love my job, and can seperate that from being sub. In giving up my job, my biggest fear would be ending up on the street with nothing, and having to start all over again. My career is not an easy one to get into, not becase of the skills or education needed, but the hiring process takes at least 90 days, and that's if you're lucky! We had worked out the issue tho, but again, life intruded, and everything was out on hold.

Me, I'd be bored to tears if I was a stay at home anything! While my career does not define me, it at least keeps me off the streets and out of trouble....well, off the streets anyway! I have total respect for anyone who can do that, but I was raised with a working mother while dad was in the Navy, and she just never quit once he got out.

As mentioned, reality has a way of sticking it's nose into all situations. In a perfect world, yes, the Dom/me could support the sub, the sub would be available for ALL of the Dom/me's needs and wants, and neither would want for anything. I myself just don't think it's a realistic way of thinking.

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RE: Would you give up your career for submission? - 12/19/2007 8:31:55 AM

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ORIGINAL: AAkasha
Are you willing to give up (or pause) your career in order to be in a service position full time? If so, are you worried about your earning potential should you ever have to return to work? Do you worry about not being able to accumulate skills in your field?

Yes to all. But I wouldn't give up my career without assurances / trust in place. One of my most favorite fantasies is being at a Dom's beck and call, keeping the place gorgeous, entertaining for him - coworkers and muckety mucks in attendance, delivering his "lunch", keeping a happy peaceful home. I am a service sub and the thought appeals to me no end.

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Do you worry about feeling any lack of self worth if your duties are strictly related to homemaking, housecleaning, or taking care of errands

Not in the slightest. It would be heaven.

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For sub men that have a career/job right now, would you be willing to give it up -- for good -- in order to be a stay at home submissive for the long term? Would you be bored?

I'd give up my career for good in order to be at s-a-h sub. I might get bored, depending on the D-type's personality about calling me out during the day, but there are ways around boredom. Obviously I couldn't stay home unless the D made decent money, so I'd make good use of it by learning to invest it wisely and keeping track of it, taking classes, redecorating, etc. I'd probably also do service-oriented volunteering if it were suitable with the D.

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RE: Would you give up your career for submission? - 12/19/2007 9:19:13 AM

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I did give up my career to relocate to be with my owner. That was over two years ago and the best thing I ever did. I am so much happier now being a stay at home slave then I ever was doing my past job. I do miss the excitement some times but it was well worth it. My owner makes plenty of money to support us. She is one of the leading people in her field and a part–time professor at a local university. She makes me very happy.

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RE: Would you give up your career for submission? - 12/19/2007 9:19:43 AM

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I'm a girl and yes although the opposite happened in my case. My Master required me to have a certain career.

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RE: Would you give up your career for submission? - 12/19/2007 9:21:59 AM

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Katy that explains the yellow milk. Mmm I don't drink coffee.

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RE: Would you give up your career for submission? - 12/19/2007 9:34:46 AM

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In the short term, I have financial obligations that require me to continue working. In the long term, I would be willing to pause or give up a career for the right woman, however, with caveats.

I don't think I could do nothing but stay at home and do menial chores. I have an advanced degree, am working toward another, and I require a great deal of intellectual stimulation. I also feel the need to do some good for the world, and I'm not talking about volunteer work that just about anybody could do, but using my intellectual and professional skills to help identify and solve problems. I'd feel like a traitor to the human race to have such abilities and not attempt to use them in some way for the greater good.

If those issues could be resolved, I'd be willing to give up a career, relocate, you name it.

There's a misconception that staying at home means just menial chores. It's funny, that original post was a year and a half ago. My husband was and still is a 'stay at home husband' and I haven't change my view points on it. His time is extremely full with the activities related to running the household and keeping things smooth, and it's not just about chores - it's everything from the mail to the social calendar to shopping and home improvements, taking care of animals and cars, and also supporting me from an administrative standpoint in my career. I'm a workaholic so I need that kind of support system - he is basically an executive assistant at the same time. He manages my travel schedule, upgrades my gadgets, screens my calls, and does research and some writing for me.

The biggest thing, though, is that by having one person manage the household domestic duties full time (without working), you free up your already limited quality time. Our weekends are now our weekends -- not us running around catching up on chores as a couple. We can have a sit down dinner every night, one that he prepared started in the afternoon, if we want. The quality time we spend together is so much better. That's important to be, because I have an unpredictable and unforgiving sex/kink drive, and when I work hard, I want to play hard - even if that means 48 hours he will be incapacitated. Imagine if the chores were too piled up to free up that time? I wouldn't be a happy camper.

He volunteers part time as his schedule allows. He keeps himself very educated and up to speed as it relates to his background and career, so he's not slacking in his skills. Recently he started moving a hobby of his to part time work (for very little money, he just wants the experience) and even though it's only 12 hours a week, it put a visible ripple in our day-to-day life and I nearly nixed it. He enjoys it, though, so we made some adjustments, but we both know he won't be working part time permanently, because I have a "busy season" in my career and he'll have to go back to being available 24/7.

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RE: Would you give up your career for submission? - 12/19/2007 9:35:16 AM

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As a female sub NO, I am not getting any younger and trying to reenter the work place again at a liveable wage will become more difficult should things not work out. I have got nearly 18 years in at my currently work place and have 12 more possible less depending on if the contract changes or if early retirement options become available so if I quit I toss my retirement income and benefits out the window to me that is too big a gamble not knowing what the future will hold and I sure as heck do not want to be working if I don't have to after age 61 and the thought of working into my 70's inorder to have enough income to live off is not a position I want to put myself in. I have been supporting myself for around 25 years after leaving finally finding a way the leave an abusive relation that I felt trapped in because I did not have the financial means to leave, and as a result financial independence is what I need to help me feel secure in a relationship, plus my job has become very much part of my life, it is my place for social interactions, it became my escape when family problems arose and gave be a break from the stress of dealing with, it provides we with a routine, I am home now on 2 months recovery from surgery and I find myself becoming stir crazy, being a house keeper and not interacting with people on a daily basis would be very boring for me, I am not self disciplined enough to keep myself physically fit, my job is the type that helps to maintain fitness, when I am working I know I have limitid time to do house chores so so routines because of get established inorder to fit what has to be done in the available time I have, when I am on vacation I tend to put off chores because I suddenly have extra time and decide I want to use to relax and enjoy so I end up procrastinating till the last minute and they don't get done as well or may not complete all that needs to be done because I waited too long.

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