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ORIGINAL: UtopianRanger

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Let us hope that your income is so secure that you are never laid off, or for some reason you become seriously ill---then I guess you get thrown out like yesterday's news.

I pride myself in being judiciously prepared - It's as stable as the Rock of Gibraltar.



- The Ranger

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If you give up a good job so that you can be with a man or woman you are either deranged or desperate in My humble opinion

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ORIGINAL: meatcleaver


As in all these types of discussion people tend to give reasons to support the status quo in their lives. It is this that makes me wonder when I meet someone new whether they are really into a lifestyle thing or whether they want to indulge their sexual fantasies. Maybe the two are the same thing, who knows? Certainly most submissives I meet are what I call part-time hobbyist submissives who like to be submissive in a scene and then afterwards get on being in control of their vanilla lives. That to me is merely sexual indulgence, I don't see nothing wrong in that but let's be honest about what it is and what it isn't and it's not a lifestyle thing.

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ORIGINAL: HentaiGamerKitty

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I agree with you and you just described me in a nut shell. I don't pretend to be submissive...I'm a kinky person enjoying their fantasies, and I have no interest in lifestyle bdsm. I do think a person should be clear about this sort of thing up front. For me, it's made it very difficult to find a new partner, but I'd rather be alone than with someone who doesn't mesh with what I'm looking for. Personally, I'm probably the most selfish "sub" you'll ever meet! I have no interest in living for somebody else (and any man who tries to change my mind on ANYTHING quickly discovers that it is an exercise in futility.) I'm all for kink , but I'm not living for somebody else (and certainly not giving up my career,home, etc!)

i was personally just about to blast you for being a hypocrite (your pic shows you with a collar)... then i read READ your profile... and you are completely honest and upfront.. even tho the picture may be deceiving... your profile states what you seek... i applaud you for your honesty.

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~....and once you have tasted flight, you will walk the earth with your eyes turned skyward, for there you have been and there you long to return.~ -- Leonardo de Vinci

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ORIGINAL: angelic

ok... i still have quoting issues... so sue me!

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Awesome, then one can only assume you have invested in gold or diamonds and they are not in a bank, but under your bed and of course you own nothing based on any country's monetary system.

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ORIGINAL: IrishMist

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If you give up a good job so that you can be with a man or woman you are either deranged or desperate in My humble opinion

Sorry SirKenin, but I have to disagree with this completly. I make dayum good money at what I do, but I would give it up in a heartbeat if asked to. And I am neither deranged nor desperate.

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ORIGINAL: AAkasha

...but I'm interested to hear what female subs say as well.

Are you willing to give up (or pause) your career in order to be in a service position full time?

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If so, are you worried about your earning potential should you ever have to return to work? Do you worry about not being able to accumulate skills in your field?

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Do you worry about feeling any lack of self worth if your duties are strictly related to homemaking, housecleaning, or taking care of errands (again -- aimed toward men: Do you feel emasculated when your male friends have jobs/careers and you do not?How do you address that)?

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Would you be bored?

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ORIGINAL: Mercnbeth

the most boring times this slave has ever endured have been OUTSIDE the home, at a good paying job, or in a classroom with an uninspiring incompetent teacher, or at a seminar or excursion that promised one thing, but the reality was ALL illusion, or a club full of drunks, or en route on the train or in the car on the WAY to the boring event, etc. as the years have gone by, these times are now few and far between, as this slave has learned to appreciate the moments, stop and smell the roses, if you will, BE fully present. this slave is presently, never bored.

luckily, this slave was brought up in a very sheltered and closed environment, with LOTS of time spent on learning to amuse oneself, entertain oneself and edify oneself without the direct instruction of or even interaction with others for long periods of time. this slave couldn't possibly be bored in Master's home~are you kidding? there isn't a day that goes by that this slave doesn't wish she had just a few more hours at home to work on projects for Master, putter in the garden, finish that book, try out that new recipe, sketch the next idea that's been percolating in this slave's brain, say another prayer, learn a little bit more, do MORE for Master,...but sleep must come at some point, (Master insists on it!!!) and thankfully, before this slave can notice, another day is here, ripe with possibilities, responsibilities, rituals, surprises and things to do before Master gets home!!!

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ORIGINAL: AAkasha



This is aimed toward male subs (as they are often seen as the breadwinners) but I'm interested to hear what female subs say as well.

Are you willing to give up (or pause) your career in order to be in a service position full time? If so, are you worried about your earning potential should you ever have to return to work? Do you worry about not being able to accumulate skills in your field?

Do you worry about feeling any lack of self worth if your duties are strictly related to homemaking, housecleaning, or taking care of errands (again -- aimed toward men: Do you feel emasculated when your male friends have jobs/careers and you do not?How do you address that)?

For sub men that have a career/job right now, would you be willing to give it up -- for good -- in order to be a stay at home submissive for the long term? Would you be bored?

Akasha