StrangerThan
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It's not only possible, it is relatively common. Not everyone has the benefit of understanding this side of themselves, much less what they need in life before getting married. Does that disqualify the feelings they have for the one they married? No. These relationships can and often are complicated by a myriad of issues, but they can and do exist and will exist. The degree to which the vanilla side of the triangle knows is a key element of that. It is by far better for everyone concerned if all parties are aware. That doesn't mean husband of submissive wife is going to be your submissive as well. Having seen a Top push too far and be ruthlessly beaten, it's a not so fine point that anyone who chooses to involve themselves in that manner should understand. Then too, your question assumes a specific standard of committment. That assumption is faulty. What makes this lifestyle what it is, is not a defining set of rules that everyone follows. My standard for committment I'm sure varies greatly from a lot of folks here. Doesn't mean I ignore them or think them less. It means we are different. What holds value for them, has value. What has value for me, has value. Whether the two cross, meet or join isn't what's important. What's important to me above all else, is the one I choose to involve myself with, our relationship and its journey. That doesn't mean I can't enjoy other perspectives or other thoughts. I do. It just means that what you define as committment may or may not have a whole lot of meaning in the grander scope of things. Boils down to the people, and what they make of it themselves. The rest of us are just signposts on their road.
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