kyraofMists
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My Lord is at work so is unable to respond to this thread, but if needed he will make a comment... quote:
ORIGINAL: angelic then i have to ask this question...(some assumptions here... so i apologize for that)... she is standing there vowing to you and You are vowing to her... and so easily you can say 'kiss my butt' you are gone? You have made some big assumptions here. He made no indication of how easy or hard the situation would be, he made no statements on how he would do it. You have taken your own perceptions and made a very inaccurate and negative judgment about what he said. The fact is you asked a very simple question and he gave a very simple but direct answer to you. The assumptions and judgments made reflect your own narrow view point and not the view of those who answered your question. quote:
exactly LA... you would be honest and straight up with them... I can’t help but think that this is inferring that my Lord would not be “honest and straight up” otherwise the wording of this statement would be completely different. quote:
ok... but what if she felt threatened by you kyra? soooo... poof divorced... (lol no wonder we are such a litigious society)... don't like it??? sue.... what if she felt truly threatened by you kyra? what then? oh ok... she gets to divorce Him... walk away... leave... *major eye roll here*. In your hasty assumptions and negative judgments of our life, you neglected to ask some very important questions: Who suggested poly and the addition of others in the relationship? Alandra Who suggested the concept of the M/s relationship? Alandra Alandra introduced these things into the relationship and considerable discussion was had before exploring poly or labeling their relationship as M/s. Truthfully, they were living an M/s relationship from day one though they did not label it as such. The authority structure already existed where he had complete authority in her life; this is just who they are and not a role they play. Considering that alandra has always dreamed of and desired a poly relationship and told him this before they were married, means that I am a dream come true for her and not a threat. Neither entered the marriage with the assumption or idea that it would be monogamous, so no vow of monogamy was made. Considering that they have been together for almost 20 years and she has yet to feel that he has threatened her relationship with him by introducing others into their lives, her relationship with him isn’t going to be threatened by the introduction of me. Now consider this…. Two people are in an M/s relationship. The master wants to do something and the slave says “no”. The master then says, “Ok, I won’t do it”. Who has the authority? Not the master. To us, that is not an M/s relationship. To say “no” in my M/s relationship is equivalent to saying, “my Lord, I no longer wish to be in an M/s relationship with you.” That is the consequence of saying no. So who has broken vows here? Not the master; the slave has broken their vow to obey. I will reiterate, that saying "no" is vastly different from asking to give information about our thoughts, opinions or feeling regarding what he wants to do. This is encouraged by him. However, at the end of the day he will make the decision on what will be done and we will either it accept it or the M/s relationship will end. Knight's kyra
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"Passion... it lies in all of us. Sleeping, waiting, and though unbidden, it will stir, open its jaws, and howl. It speaks to us, guides us... passion rules us all. And we obey..." ~Angelus
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