OttersSwim
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ORIGINAL: AcademyForSlaves Hi. I know lots of Mistresses personally that LOVE feminizing subs. One at the Academy likes to have a sissy secretary. But she likes them really slutty. Don't know if you could handle that. Hope this helps. OMG, you are just too nice... So, to the OP...a couple of points of reality here. As has been said, it is not "forced" if you actually want it. To actually force fem someone who did not want it would be highly unethical, not to mention illegal in most places. The BDSM dynamic between a girlie boy and a prospective mistress must have three key components: 1. She must be at least open to being served by a girlie boy, if not actually into it, or if you hit the jackpot, totally enthusiastic about it. 2. You must be in touch with your female side enough to be able to own your kink, embrace what you want, and in effect, be willing to 'feminize yourself'. Otherwise, it just becomes all about you and your single kink. Most Ladies view that as far too much work and totally in opposition to the point of a power exchange relationship. 3. Your being girlie must be but one component in the rich tapestry of a BDSM relationship. Otherwise you are simply a one-trick-pony and the Lady is left asking "What's in it for me?". If you are looking here, you will be seeking a D/s or M/s relationship with a Dominant Lady who has Her own interests at heart -first-. Kind of what it's all about, eh? You must be about Her first, and your own kink second or third. Her dominance 'inspires' your submission, and your submission 'inspires' her dominance. You willingly meet her needs, and She in turn meets your needs. Your being girlie is indeed important, but it is just one aspect in this sort of relationship and it can not, indeed -must- not, usurp the dynamic. What you ask for in your original post is mostly the stuff of fantasy, and don't get me wrong, it's a great fantasy! But when you actually put a -real female- into that scenario it breaks down. Think about, and internalize what you actually want from your girlie side - embrace it, celebrate it, make it part of a host of things you bring to a relationship - and then apply it to a real life search for someone who will see you - all of you. Hope that helps.
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