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RE: anyone else with a married Dom? - 1/27/2010 9:14:22 AM

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Perhaps that is not how the poster who brought it up intended it but that is how I see it and I think it's a valid point on the subject of morality.

I don't agree because its detracting from the OP and I can see why people can feel the way they do when using molestation as an example. I tend to give people more credit - If a shock tactic wasn't part of it, then some other example could be used, that was not illegal and far closer to peoples subjectivity.

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RE: anyone else with a married Dom? - 1/27/2010 9:19:49 AM

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I don't agree because its detracting from the OP and I can see why people can feel the way they do when using molestation as an example. I tend to give people more credit - If a shock tactic wasn't part of it, then some other example could be used, that was not illegal and far closer to peoples subjectivity.

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That is certainly a fair point. I suppose it doesn't bother me because I so very rarely care about threads drifting this way and that. I agree that perhaps a different example would have been better. While I think the point was to draw on something so "bad" that most people would agree that it's morally wrong, that particular example hasn't been effective.

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RE: anyone else with a married Dom? - 1/27/2010 10:08:30 AM

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Eh, the OP hasn't been here in what? two weeks? and week and a half? I think she decided to stay in her situation and just doesn't want to discuss this any longer. So, the thread kind of evolved.

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RE: anyone else with a married Dom? - 1/27/2010 11:23:00 AM

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Might not matter in the UK. It does matter in the US though and that is where the OP lives.

You have an excellent point there and after skimming through the article you so thoughfully provided the link to

this sprung out from the text:
the defendant’s malicious conduct contributed to or caused the loss of affection in the marriage.

So it seems we are not talking about a single girl taking a married mans offer, we are talking about a seductress with an agenda

also all the quite large amounts of money rewarded... smells like a lot of gold digging going on...

so it seems best to have an affair with a poor girl then.. can't pluck any feathers of a bald chicken eh?
I do not know how well of the op is... but if she is rich she better watch out for the wolves obviously... he might only have an affair with her so his wife can sue her and then the marrieds can have a ball with her money....

I had forgotten about the money crazed Americans suing each other about everything in an attempt to be rewarded money for nothing... a trend that we try to discourage on this side of the pond... more and less successfully... as far as i know there is no way a bunch of skin flint cheaters will be made to pay any money to anybody except for alimony of course.

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RE: anyone else with a married Dom? - 1/27/2010 11:31:39 AM

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this sprung out from the text:
the defendant’s malicious conduct contributed to or caused the loss of affection in the marriage.

So it seems we are not talking about a single girl taking a married mans offer, we are talking about a seductress with an agenda

Unless you've got the case notes you really can't say that. Malicious can mean a lot of things. And, frankly, my point was solely that cheating is not without it's legal drawbacks on this side of the pond.

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also all the quite large amounts of money rewarded... smells like a lot of gold digging going on...

I don't see how that is any worse than cheating or helping someone cheat.

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I do not know how well of the op is... but if she is rich she better watch out for the wolves obviously... he might only have an affair with her so his wife can sue her and then the marrieds can have a ball with her money....

I had forgotten about the money crazed Americans suing each other about everything in an attempt to be rewarded money for nothing... a trend that we try to discourage on this side of the pond... more and less successfully... as far as i know there is no way a bunch of skin flint cheaters will be made to pay any money to anybody except for alimony of course.

Mmm... insult my country some more. You know how hot humilation gets me...

Let's totally make this a bash America/UK thread.

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RE: anyone else with a married Dom? - 1/27/2010 12:57:02 PM

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Your country is amazing Aqua, i have travelled from New York to San Fransisco, tackled the Rockies in a snow blizzard, saw the Cow boy in Vegas. oh i had an totally ace trip (sorry to disappoint you, i would put a smiley here if i knew how to do it)
but the money crazed Americans that sue for idiotic amounts of money and the system you have that actually encourages this behaviour, is very strange in my opinion... unfortunately something that is slowly becoming more acceptable here too... i am not sure if it is really any worse behaviour than the people doing the cheating, but i think it is at least as bad... like the article said, it depends on the circumstances.... and the amount of money to be gleaned obviously...
i have to admit that somehow i find greed for money worse than lust for sex... so i don't think it is my cup of tea really.

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RE: anyone else with a married Dom? - 1/27/2010 1:08:24 PM

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but the money crazed Americans that sue for idiotic amounts of money and the system you have that actually encourages this behaviour, is very strange in my opinion... unfortunately something that is slowly becoming more acceptable here too...

Oh come on now, I am from the UK and I really don't think that the divide is that great, 'had an accident at work...' adverts are on ALL the time, and shit loads of people are in debt, I think you are wearing rose tinted specs.

Also the real or imagined difference between the two is naff all to do with shagging a married person

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RE: anyone else with a married Dom? - 1/27/2010 1:31:07 PM

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Your country is amazing Aqua, i have travelled from New York to San Fransisco, tackled the Rockies in a snow blizzard, saw the Cow boy in Vegas. oh i had an totally ace trip (sorry to disappoint you, i would put a smiley here if i knew how to do it)
but the money crazed Americans that sue for idiotic amounts of money and the system you have that actually encourages this behaviour, is very strange in my opinion... unfortunately something that is slowly becoming more acceptable here too... i am not sure if it is really any worse behaviour than the people doing the cheating, but i think it is at least as bad... like the article said, it depends on the circumstances.... and the amount of money to be gleaned obviously...
i have to admit that somehow i find greed for money worse than lust for sex... so i don't think it is my cup of tea really.

It truly does not affect, suprise or disapoint me if you had a good time touring the US or not. Nice to hear that you did but truly doesn't affect me. I didn't, after all, say that you'd never been here, that you had a miserable time in America, that you hated America or anything else.

I simply don't see any point in you bringing in your negative opinion of the country or painting Americans with such a wide brush. Quite frankly, it's the same thing that you were objecting to before when people were saying "Everyone who helps cheat is X, Y and Z".

I agree with you that gold-digging isn't particularly moral. I never said it was. Personally, I don't find greed for money or lust for sex any better or worse than the other. It's specific actions people take that I would view as worse or better.

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RE: anyone else with a married Dom? - 1/27/2010 1:32:17 PM

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but the money crazed Americans that sue for idiotic amounts of money and the system you have that actually encourages this behaviour, is very strange in my opinion... unfortunately something that is slowly becoming more acceptable here too...

Oh come on now, I am from the UK and I really don't think that the divide is that great, 'had an accident at work...' adverts are on ALL the time, and shit loads of people are in debt, I think you are wearing rose tinted specs.

Ugh, ya'll have those too? They make me giggle half the time.

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RE: anyone else with a married Dom? - 1/27/2010 4:59:40 PM

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Having studied law, I do know that our law is based on old English law. They may have both evolved differently, I don't know. But I kind of doubt they evolved much differently.

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RE: anyone else with a married Dom? - 1/27/2010 5:38:35 PM

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"Malicious" would easily be defined as she knew he was married and did it anyway. A spouse who sues for alienation of affection can not be made "whole" again with the lawsuit (which is the "objective" of a civil suit), but the concept of the large money awards is to make the attempt to dissuade people from committing the act by making the consequence significant enough to potentially deter anyone hearing about it from getting involved. Our laws wouldn't permit the "other" from wearing a great big scarlet "A" on their chest, and hitting someone in the wallet is usually a good way to make a point.

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