LadyAngelika
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Ok, almost 5 years ago I started a thread on Forced Masculinity. Let's just say it had it's ups and downs. Part of it was because, as usual, I come to these forums with my half-formed ideas, ready to discuss them and I always inadvertently end up offending someone. But as we say in French, c'est la vie!
Now, I bring back the topic, a little wiser, a little more clear on what it is that I want to say. I call it "forced masculinity" to sort of counterbalance this incredibly huge demand for forced feminization.
One of things that has gotten me thinking is why do a great deal of sub men want to be dressed up like women? Is it because they want to be like us? Is it because they look up to us? What I've learned from those I've taken the time to get to know (and of course I'm not implying that this is every crossdresser's motivation) is that there is a desire to ignore the male aspect within themselves, to castrate it emotionally, to supress it.
Well fuck that! I want to bring it out the masculinity in my man ;-) You really want to be forced, boy? I'll force you to look in the mirror and reflect on what you really think a man is supposed to be, how a gentleman is supposed to act and treat his woman.
This is a crosspost from an article I wrote on FetLife about a month ago while reflecting on all this.
Respect. For your Lady. For yourself. That is what being a devoted gentleman is all about.
I crave gallant, chivalrous, masculine devoted gentlemen.
A devoted gentleman is well mannered and considerate. He opens doors for his Lady, walk on the outside side of the sidewalk and behind her up the stairs. He offers her his arm, helps her with her coat, pulls out her chair for her, stands when she, or any other Lady, excuses herself from the table. A devoted gentleman ensures his Lady's safety and comfort in a strong, confident way. Gallantry is also of high importance, lending her his jacket when she's cold, carrying an umbrella over her when it rains.
However, a gentleman is much more than a devoted man who treats his Lady well. A true gentleman behaves in an exemplary fashion, always. He is polite and courteous with others, doesn't interrupt conversations. When he contributes, he stays on topic, avoids cursing or speaking loudly. He keeps his temper in check. During moments of tension, he will keep his cool and be the bigger man. He is polite, discreet and well groomed, hair and nails well trimmed. He has impeccable manners and knows proper wine service etiquette. He greets people with a firm handshake, makes eye contact with others when he is speaking to them and is capable of discussing a variety of subjects. He is discreet about his income, assets and in general does not discuss money in public situations.
It is delightful to come across a gentleman. Unfortunately, I find they have become a rare bread.
It is also delightful to train a boy in the fine art of being a gentleman. I enjoy teaching him how I expect him to treat his Lady as well as all the aspects of being a true devoted gentleman. My incredibly high standards are appreciated as well.
There is a fabulous 3 part resource in the AskMen.com online magazine:
* Etiquette Of A Gentleman: Part I
* Etiquette Of A Gentleman: Part II
* Etiquette Of A Gentleman: Part III
So I look at my reflections from back then are still pertinent today:
My kink is masculanization. I feel a lot of men have lost touch of their masculinity. They have been "dénaturé" as we say in French, which is to take out of it's native environment, to deprive of its natural character, properties, etc,
I like to bring a man in touch with his true masculinity. Not some macho overcompensation but what it is to be a true gentleman, to take pride in manhood, in strength, etc.
Any other Domme share my fetish?
- LA
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