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RE: How Do You Wished to be Addressed - 3/31/2006 3:52:39 PM

SimplyV

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ORIGINAL: SuspiciousSub

I had to jump in on this one, lets face facts, anyone can turn around and say they are a Dom or Domme, now just because someone adorns a title i for one am not about to call them Sir or Maam, how do i know they are who they claim to be, they could be swingers or kinksters in bdsm attire, i have seen that many many times.
as a submissive i believe the one that is my Dom/Master is the one to be called Sir/Master, i find in general everyday situations i will call him Sir, yes even in public, i am not ashamed of who and or what i am, and in private situations such as scening or perhaps a private party etc with other lifestylers then i am happy to refer to Him as Master.
but calling all Sir or Maam just takes me back to being a child and being made to call all adults aunty or uncle lol
there is respect and then there is rediculous!!!
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*laughs* We were never made to call them Aunt or Uncle. I think we were supposed to.. but I know I never did. It was always just first names. Always felt like it was stupid, like I was reminding them on how they were related to me.

Older people I didn't know were Sir or Maam.

Otherwise if you had a first name, and I knew what it was, that was used. If I didn't know your first name, it was Mr/Ms and your last name.

I use the same system today. If I don't know you, I might call you Sir or Maam if needed until I know your name which would be about 5 seconds. After that, you get called your first name or whatever other word you want to be called.. except Sir, Maam, Master, Mistress, Mr, Ms, God, Goddess, etc.

If you're a Dom or sub, I shouldn't have to remind you who you are by calling you some name (Master or slave). If you don't know who you are by now, a simple honorific from me aint' going to help things.

And as for showing respect, that is earned. Politeness, courtesy.. those you can expect from me (unless you're an ass then well all bets are off). But if you want "respect" for your position just cuz you say you're a particular type, then you're probably going to be disappointed in me.

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RE: How Do You Wished to be Addressed - 3/31/2006 5:58:04 PM

LuckyAlbatross

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ORIGINAL: dovanais

Personally, I feel it is appropriate for a submissive to refer to any and all male Dominants who do not own them as 'Sir'; and to refer to the one who does own them as 'Master'. This simple division is fine when speaking directly to the male Dominant in question; obviously when refering to that same Dominant indirectly - ie. when spreaking of that Dominant to another person - it is wholly appropriate to say Master Whoever said such and such, etc.

These are terms both of respect and affection. In each case, such accolades must be earn; they must have substance. Merely calling oneself Master etc. means nothing; one has to live up to that position.

Best wishes, Master Dee

What about female doms? What about switches? Why do you show extra respect to doms? You don't feel subs and slaves should be respected? What has a random person who calls themself a dom done in your eyes to "earn" sir, while a slave can do nothing to earn such a thing?

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RE: How Do You Wished to be Addressed - 3/31/2006 10:36:35 PM

MasterTonyS

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Speaking only for Myself, I have preferred to allow the use of My given name in public gatherings, if for nothing else, to keep the vanillas from catching on. When I am making preliminary inquiries with a potential sub, I usually forego the need to address Me as SIr until they feel comfortable or want to explore a relationship with Me. It is ultimately up to each individual Dom/me to decide how they want to be addressed.

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