MsDominiquenz
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Joined: 4/1/2006 Status: offline
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In my experience openminded..giving up lots of things to do with BDSM / D/s / Fetish / Lifestyle / searching etc happens all the time, that and shades of grey of the same. Sometimes people will need to back off, do a turn around, spring clean their life and/or their thinking, change the skys above their head, throw away the crossdressing clothes, get vanilla married, take a profile or 7 down, and take a break from Domination on either side of the fence. From the Domme point of view..it can be hard, yes. Its not a candy store, where all the people to be met or contacted are the flavour you want, and sometimes the silly emails etc can become overwhelming, but it depends on what you are looking for. I find if someone interests me, I will put some time into them, and sometimes that pays off, with them being given a chance to see something other than what they already know.. I have been a part of many communities, and I have taken on a few very disruptive or fantasy laden men who with some smiles and tsk's can become wonderful... and ever so grateful *Bliss* Women are nurturers, and its just a matter of knowing where to put that, who is worthy, and if they seek this or not. I have a fairly hard guideline I set for myself with new subs, my personal rules, and if these are still broken after discussion, (I have a strike 3 rate)..byeeeee. I always say to folk struggling with why didnt it turn out better when they are dealing with someone new, " you were looking for different things" sometimes that is not apparent straight away because the common link is the BDSM D/s..and that can be fine, but anything more than that takes commitment/time/energy and often is not what is sought. So... yes, everyone needs some space now and then..the amazing thing is we all seem to surface again, wiser and refreshed to do it again !! Its lovely that you see this side of Us..but you know, people are just people, we would be dealing with the same falseness, demands, no shows and let downs in any other situation too..its just people.
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