CelticSubM
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I think I can understand your frustration. Definitely, there's a lot here on CM and in the larger world that's going to be very frustrating to anybody whose sensitivity is above the level of solipsism. I often wonder, in all kinds of contexts, why every woman in the world doesn't become Lesbian. I admit, I could have worded my comments better. I was probably trying too hard to be catchy.
Again, I find myself in agreement with everything you are saying. I'm very glad that sites like CM exist. I'm very glad there's a bdsm subculture. But I think those have their downside as well. On sites like this, it's easy to focus just on the kinky and forget about making a connection with someone on any other level. Personally, I believe if a man and woman, (or two men or two women, for that matter), like each other, enjoy spending time with each other, have reason they want to be around each other besides sex or d/s, are turned on by each other, things are probably going to work themselves out just fine when they get to the bedroom. It's an illusion to think we can find a lover or spouse or dominant or submissive that's made to our specifications. If we could, we'd probably be disappointed. A lot of the excitement, the enjoyment of intimacy comes from the open, joyous exploration and bridging of differences, large and small.
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So many "dommes" want money first because there are so many men who are stupid enough to give it to them, and the "dommes" want to get what they can before the sap maybe wises up. Funny, it seems like a lot of submissive men never heard the old saying "Never pay for what you can get for free."
First of all they are not domme's! They are women who see men who want to wank a certain way with their fantasy, who are willing to pay for it. They are not professional dominant's and they are not lifestyle dominant's. They are opportunist! They are only there because your brothers in sexual/kinky needs aren't willing to do what it takes to get it for free... a relationship.
To blame lifestyle dominant's and compare us to this type is getting real tiring for me. I rarely call someone an idiot on the boards, but let me tell you, anyone who thinks so lowly of women and dominant women who live female led lives, is an idiot. You can join that group.
How dare you judge us all as you both have. Does judging and giving opinions about women who are dominant justify something you all are doing or not doing? Do you like women? Did some woman hurt you and you want to get even? You don't like being labeled any more than we do, but I will throw one more at you. Loney, one handed lovers to yourselves because after the way you all have talked about us, you are going to be doing a solo hand job around here. Oh... what's new?
I won't blame you for my frustration or even at times, anger. I think what set me off the most about your post was the last line and the take I took, which it seems is all my fault. "Why buy the cow if you can get the milk for free?" So as you can see, I went off on your post because of a long standing frustration with men who are constantly trying to get the goods before putting anything of themselves into something more. This is also the fault of women who so readily jump into sexual and kinky things without expecting some respect and more than a fling or giving the goods in hopes of some relationship evolution.
So if you are in agreement with me, you can maybe understand how tired one can get of being compared to people who take advantage of others and those who expect women to continue to be the good little stand by your man with ready cock that needs service.
I typically laugh and move on. But one thread too many, add a number of emails from those who wish only to serve me... lol... and you have a red headed dominant wonder woman who is armed and dangerous. Maybe toward her own demise, but it is what it is.
We are dominant women who wish to live female led lives with our partners, however that manifests between our partners and ourselves. The slam dunking of dominant women is getting real old.
So... I am sorry if I misunderstood you and bashed you because of my own fault.
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RE: Why Do So Many Mistresses Want Money First? - 
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Gee......do you think some of them might be after your money???
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