Focus50
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Joined: 12/28/2004 From: Newcastle, Australia Status: offline
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ORIGINAL: dwmstl Seeking advice and opinions from other Doms on this one. Some quick background: I'm a DaddyDom with a sub/little girl. She's been in my home two weeks. I relocated her here from another state. I discovered that she has already lied to me several times. Most of the lies revolve around her talking to her former boyfriend (vanilla relationship there) via text and phone (while living under my roof, mind you) for the past week, after being clearly forbidden to have any further contact with him. She knew this was one of my terms upfront before either of us made any decisions. She says her reasons for talking to him were to "get over him". Basically, she left him for me, so yes it's a very recent former relationship. My initial reaction is that I will never be able to trust her and to release her and send her back where she came from. She has begged me not to do so, said she's sorry a million times and offered to do anything to earn my trust back if I would keep her. She says she still wants to be mine and never discussed getting back with the ex, only to get the closure she claims she never got. She admits she still has "feelings" for him, which I'm not happy about, but at least she was honest about that much. She says that although she cares about the guy, she was never happy in a relationship that didn't meet her needs and that I'm everything she wanted in a DaddyDom. Up until this point, I believed she was everything I was looking for as well. So, fellow Doms, am I over-reacting? Should I give her a second chance or cut her loose? If I do decide to keep her, suggestions are invited on an appropriate punishment. Let's see, I quick squiz at the other replies has you as being over 50 and her a teenager.... First her; a teenager AND she tells lies? She has a recently ex-b/f - with all the drama teenage relationships tend to generate. And you're over 50 and the controlling alpha in a D/s relationship with her and you didn't forsee any potential ex b/f trouble here? And now that it's hit home, you're forbidding her to have further contact with him. So she should just flick some emotional switch 'cause you ordered it...? First off, *no-one* has such a switch - the only cure is time. And the immature stance you're adopting leaves her with the only choice a teenager is likely to make - to lie. I agree with sunshinemiss, you followed your dick. You're old enough to be her grandfather; you moved her presumably a long way from her home and familiar surroundings; from a relationship barely ended and you're hiding behind D/s protocol in making unreasonable demands of a TEENAGER. And now you're considering kicking her out - what a dad....! Clearly she was everything your dick was looking for - if only she didn't come with all those emotions, dramas, hormones and expectations a teenage girl might reasonably be expected to have. Or are they banned under your roof, too? Punishment? Stay tha hell away from children...! Focus.
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