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What is your test? - 7/7/2010 7:12:38 PM

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I periodically hear of a Master/Dom/Domme testing a new sub/slave, that there is a test with a series of questions or tasks, to determine whether the sub/slave is acceptable to continue the relationship. All relationships involve testing and probing who the other person really is, but what I am talking about here is something of an actual list. I have no such test. What I am curious about here is: what are the actual test questions and/or tasks that some use that seem to work for them...and why do they work or why do they not work?

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RE: What is your test? - 7/7/2010 7:17:56 PM

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I put a collar on her and tell her what I want from her, I expect to see her try and what she does not know how to do she asks and I show her.

If she feels she cannot follow my directions then she asks to leave, otherwise she stays and live happily in a life of given surrender.

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RE: What is your test? - 7/7/2010 7:19:50 PM

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I prefer the Ink Blot tests for my potential subs.

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RE: What is your test? - 7/7/2010 7:27:29 PM

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Why would he give me a test? We are in a relationship together, not class.

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RE: What is your test? - 7/7/2010 7:30:26 PM

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You hear that, huh?

You might want to consider asking those who have these 'tests' exactly what they consist of.

Then, you might want to consider the source and make a reasonable estimation of whether these folks are a twit in any other area of their life.

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RE: What is your test? - 7/7/2010 7:38:00 PM

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I make them take the ACT's......minimum score of 22 or they are out!

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RE: What is your test? - 7/7/2010 7:41:44 PM

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If you want to prove you're really worth my time and trouble, then the test should be REALLY worth it.

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RE: What is your test? - 7/7/2010 8:00:14 PM

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Anybody who announces he would test me automatically fails my test. it's a relationship based on compatibility. if you cant manage one of those then I don't want to go any farther.

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RE: What is your test? - 7/7/2010 8:01:07 PM

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Clearly....we have no class.

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RE: What is your test? - 7/7/2010 8:03:05 PM

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We test each other all the time, don't we, when a relationship is new? Isn't the process of asking questions a test? If I ask someone new to so something for me that I won't be immediately supervising, isn't it a "test" when I ask him about it later?

There is, of course, a Math Portion.

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RE: What is your test? - 7/7/2010 8:04:20 PM

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I keep my jerk detector switch turned to the "on" position, and find out whether we are compatible in and out of bed (in vanilla and D/s ways). If we have similar goals, values, etc. and we fit well together as far as vanilla and D/s needs and desires, we may be a good match.

But in addition to being a sweet guy: We've got to be crazy about each other! And he's got to be able to trust me implicitly, (and I him) and other things like that, that can only be seen over time. So, we've got to actually BE together in the same location for long enough to see if we actually get along in real life, over time. This takes a significant period of time. Not just a few days, weeks or months. Real, lasting trust and adoration take time to develop.

In addition, I also require someone who has a high degree of self- awareness. Someone who understands what is going on inside himself, and why. So that he's able to learn and grow from this knowledge.....And I need someone who is capable of knowing me and motivated to understand me, the same way .

In short: Compatibility is key, but so is the potential for true adoration, trust, and the ability to grow the relationship together because we understand who we are, and how to properly address one another's needs and desires.

I hope that helps.

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RE: What is your test? - 7/7/2010 8:36:15 PM

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ORIGINAL: MasterLark

I periodically hear of a Master/Dom/Domme testing a new sub/slave, that there is a test with a series of questions or tasks, to determine whether the sub/slave is acceptable to continue the relationship. All relationships involve testing and probing who the other person really is, but what I am talking about here is something of an actual list. I have no such test. What I am curious about here is: what are the actual test questions and/or tasks that some use that seem to work for them...and why do they work or why do they not work?

What is your test?

A test implies that there is an evaluation process to determine if the subject being tested has retained the presented information required to excel at a certain subject. In a relationship I strongly believe that it is rather psychologically unhealthy to test someone who you have developed a bond of trust with. Testing erodes at the foundation of trust. To do such is self destructive and lends itself to a self fulfilling prophecy of sorts for failure.

On the other hand in adulthood it is essential in any relationship to be discerning of another and the potential for the possibilities of the relationship. However again to discern or assess a situation is most healthy when done from a motive that has the highest and best welfare for whomever is in the relationship else all one has is tyranny. Tyranny or rather a cruel use of power usually ends in mutiny. Self destructive beginnings always result in destructive endings.

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RE: What is your test? - 7/7/2010 8:45:20 PM

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Tests, applications, interviews....whenever I see a profile that lists any of these I laugh and then move on. They all indicate to me that someone sees themselves as somehow being the only one making a choice of moving forward. Life doesn't work that way. Relationships really don't work that way.

I am curious though....Are you asking the question in the hopes of developing some test of your own to implement? If so, I would suggest you read the responses you got again and realize that it is a bad idea.

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RE: What is your test? - 7/7/2010 8:46:16 PM

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i think the only tests i were ever subjected to were a couple questions. One Dom asked me "Why do you think I should choose you to be My submissive?" and Someone Else asked me to do something. i said what is it? He said "Do you trust me? It's a simple yes or no question. So what is your answer?" Those were both asked of me when i was still very new to all this.

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RE: What is your test? - 7/7/2010 9:06:53 PM

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My test is communicating with him openly and honestly and ascertaining if he can do the same like a rational adult. If he can't and has "tests", he fails.

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RE: What is your test? - 7/7/2010 9:34:05 PM

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He has these little sticks he has me pee on periodically. The result comes up, either "Submissive" or "Not Submissive", because 3 out of 4 Doms will mis-read the result.

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RE: What is your test? - 7/7/2010 9:47:12 PM

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Yes, I have a *test* that evolved on it's own over time. I typed it out in a thread in the Ask A Mistress area, called What's The Point? I believe.

Here it is:

I have made r/t friends here, and nice sweet guys I spent some time with. It takes time though, and patience. I have some terrible hoops guys have to jump through to get my attention...and most CAN'T or won't even try. Want to see my list?
1) Letters every single day. Good ones that are vanilla, not one liners or ones of things they want me to do to them.
2) Someone sincerely wanting to know who I am as a person, and not just what I can do to them.
3) No chat sex, offers of nakkie web camming, or nakkie pix showing up in my mailbox. (Yes, I'm nice and give a gentle warning about this the FIRST time.

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4) Not treating me like I owe it to the world to dominate everyone who asks, when they ask, how they ask...
5) If I lead them toward anything, for their own good (once it was a food diary, and I found out that his IBS was triggered by his favorite raw spinach salad; he listened to me, and took action that helped himself. Romaine was a good substitute) or for learning/education... Are they genuinely willing to follow?

If I can't get them to do these small things for me, then they have nothing to offer that I'd want. I'm not looking for just bedroom kink or a masochist who wants an audience.

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When someone writes to me...I am also being tested. Nobody can convince me that someone offering to nekkie web cam isn't testing me to see if I will cyber with them. I am quite happy to fail many tests immediately, so I won't waste my time and emotions on someone who is incompatible from the very start.

Isn't this pretty much a test for anyone...whether someone takes the time to actually read your profile or not? If I'm not worth even that much

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RE: What is your test? - 7/7/2010 10:12:55 PM

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*shrugs* The actual test tasks? Uh.. I tell them to do things and see if they do... simple, innocuous things... sit here, let's talk about this or that, etc. I'm looking to see if they submit unconsciously just as a default behavior pattern. For this reason I deliberately avoid anything that would surface on any sort of D/s radar.

I don't know that I think of it like a "test" exactly, but it's very definitely probing.

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RE: What is your test? - 7/7/2010 10:40:29 PM

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i missed the test.. will there be a make-up test allowed? i'd hate to fail.....

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RE: What is your test? - 7/7/2010 10:57:48 PM

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I met a guy about 2 years ago who seemed really nice on the phone and on email. I made it clear that the first meeting was totally non-kinky, and that we should use it to see if there was any kind of attraction/compatibility/etc.

I wore a skirt, he immediately began crowing that I'd worn a skirt because he'd told me not to wear trousers and I was obeying. Sigh...

I pointed out I'd been travelling for work for 2 weeks, had just got home that day and needed to do laundry.

Anyway, while chatting he told me to go to the toilets, remove my underwear, return and hand them over to him. I told him that wasn't going to happen, and he started on the "a WEAL sub would do as she was told..." schtick.

So I went to the toilets, had a wee, came out, walked straight past him and into the carpark. Got in my car, went home.

Guess I failed the test

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