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ORIGINAL: CelticPrince
First let me clarify that by "here" I refer to the path of D/s and bdsm!

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One of my lovers early in life was a kinky bisexual swinger with a leather fetish. I was 15. There hasnt been a place for me the vanilla world since. That's why I'm here.

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Firstly, it doesn't really matter.

But, to your question...

Because it is one facet of who I most honestly am.

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umm humm

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Yeah, it's not a path for me, either. I visit this site because it has a fairly high concentration of people who are like me in some ways, or are who I might be interested in, compared to the general population. But I'm not on a path, I'm not in a lifestyle, and I certainly don't feel "kinky".

It's like asking someone who likes chocolate why they're walking that path, and why they're there.

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I am not sure if I have a direct answer, but I think I wish to convey my feelings.
Since I was young I have always played a nurturing role in my family and with my friends. I always took much joy from the praise I would receive when doing things for others, serving them in different ways. Even if it was not verbal praise or a pat on the head, seeing that these people truly enjoyed it and it made their lives better made me so very happy! These feelings have flourished even further in life with my choice of career and other life decisions. Being submissive also plays into this, though I sometimes think it is a bit selfish. But the kind of selfishness that does not hurt others but rather benefit them! I have been very sexual for a very long time, maybe not active with others, but very interested in a wide variety of things. So it was very interesting to find a dynamic of such servitude that could, if I wanted, incorporate sexual servitude. It makes the serving deeper and even more fulfilling. My feelings are a bit askew in the way I can express them, but I really enjoy knowing how good I make my partners feel. I love knowing I am the reason they are coming, that I am doing such a great job that I will be remembered, I am the item of their pleasure. I like making these impressions and memories.

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ORIGINAL: CelticPrince

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I am not sure if I have a direct answer, but I think I wish to convey my feelings.
Since I was young I have always played a nurturing role in my family and with my friends. I always took much joy from the praise I would receive when doing things for others, serving them in different ways. Even if it was not verbal praise or a pat on the head, seeing that these people truly enjoyed it and it made their lives better made me so very happy! These feelings have flourished even further in life with my choice of career and other life decisions. Being submissive also plays into this, though I sometimes think it is a bit selfish. But the kind of selfishness that does not hurt others but rather benefit them! I have been very sexual for a very long time, maybe not active with others, but very interested in a wide variety of things. So it was very interesting to find a dynamic of such servitude that could, if I wanted, incorporate sexual servitude. It makes the serving deeper and even more fulfilling. My feelings are a bit askew in the way I can express them, but I really enjoy knowing how good I make my partners feel. I love knowing I am the reason they are coming, that I am doing such a great job that I will be remembered, I am the item of their pleasure. I like making these impressions and memories.

Maculate,

Bravo for a nicely defined explaination and thanks for your input.

also welcome to CM and the boards.

CP

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ORIGINAL: roland23

Interesting question. I am here to meet a sub. Quite simple. Probably millions are in the same boat.

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For most of my life, I have been a strong, outgoing, resourceful leader. I submitted control to no one, I saw it as a weakness. Then, I was introduced to the lifestyle. I discovered that the only person I could truly be with was someone who I trusted and cared for enough to submit all control to, in addition to the fact that I enjoy a lot of kink in bed. Even in the comparatively short time Ive been exploring d/s and bdsm, Ive found a way that I can keep my relationships, and myself, from continuing to crash and burn.

So, I have chosen this path because its the missing piece in becoming the person I wish to be, strong even when I am powerless, outgoing but respectful, resourceful yet accepting of input, and a leader who is submissive to the One for me.

And yes, I figured this out when I was 18, a 'young age.' But who said self realization at a young age was bad? Perhaps it displays the personal strength of the next generation. [/quote

lovelyk

Well it seems you have beat the odds for coming into D/s at such a young age.

CP

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