Icarys
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ORIGINAL: gungadin09 In a relationship, my tendency to overthink things can come across as a lack of trust; as if i'm constantly looking over someone's shoulder to check their work. Part of that is just me, my personality. If the Dom is insecure, He may take it as an implied criticism of His leadership. Not to be able to let go of the situation, having to be in control at all times, not to allow myself to make a mistake. i hate making mistakes. i have a deep seated love of precision. i guess it's really a question of what works for the two people involved. In language acquisition, this need for precision is called, "tolerance for ambiguity", or something. To be so afraid to make a mistake, or not. To be able to go with the flow, to make errors and learn from the process, or to HAVE to get it right and be perfect all times. i confess, i feel like i have to be perfect and "in control" at all times. In certain areas, like my job, this is an asset. In a relationship, i can see how it would be a liability, this not being able to let go. That's what i think of, when i hear the words "being smart is a curse". Not being "smart", per se. But not being able to let go. That is definitely a curse. Sometimes. pam Thank you..That hits pretty close to what I was talking about..not the end of the world but it can throw a monkey wrench into things at times for both people.. On a side note..try to put yourself into the others shoes for a second. Imagine if that person was literally over your shoulder checking everything you did. How fun would that be..Now I know some who would dig it but I'm betting most aren't the highly independent outspoken people on these forums nor similar folks outside of it.
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